don`t blame the time

@adhyz82 (36289)
Indonesia
September 27, 2011 6:53pm CST
don`t blame the time don`t blame the situation don`t blame another people blame yourself if you are fail... blame yourself if you are coward.. blame yourself if you are not success... why many people is not brave for admitting that they are not perfect?? why they must blame another people when they are fail??
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@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
28 Sep 11
During this time, I always blame myself, when I experience failure, and lack of success. But, I was advised by several people, for not too much, blame myself. Many people say, I have to learn, from mistakes I've done.
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@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
28 Sep 11
sometimes blame ourself for something we had done is better than blame other.. but too much blame ourself (expert said) is not good too.. we can be poor of our confident because always afraid to be failed again...
@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
29 Sep 11
If no one else is wrong, why blame others?
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@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
5 Oct 11
now i want to blame hacker who had taken a calmness in my life...
@haYat5 (31)
• Pakistan
28 Sep 11
I strongly agree with you... the thing is that no one accept their mistakes no one wanna face their weaknesses so they blame others but ever we accept our weaknesses success will comes by its self....
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@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
28 Sep 11
yes, we are unperfect creature...so there no need for shy if we can`t do something...we just need forgive for it...it doesnt reduce our value as human i think
@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
28 Sep 11
yes, we are unperfect creature...so there no need for shy if we can`t do something...we just need forgive for it...it doesnt reduce our value as human i think
@haYat5 (31)
• Pakistan
29 Sep 11
no one can do some thing its self he/she need help in different criteria because we may be in best some of work but not in all fields,
@ifa225 (11099)
• Indonesia
28 Sep 11
well... i guess you are picturing me it just we are human who need to make sure our self that we are not the center of any bad things that happen to our life. we need a black sheep
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@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
28 Sep 11
really so you are always looking for black sheep?? thats why i never anymore black sheep in my country...
@ifa225 (11099)
• Indonesia
5 Nov 11
you are wrong adhy we have so many black sheep here.. that is why many innocent people are become guilty for not the mistake that they have done
@sql_cell (1429)
• Indonesia
28 Sep 11
I would say I am right, if I believe I am right, though others say I'm wrong. But, if I am wrong, I certainly will admit, if I am wrong. I am not afraid, blaming myself, if I am wrong.
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@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
28 Sep 11
it`s good attitude...
@atleya (947)
• Indonesia
28 Sep 11
That's great. @ sql_cell.. No much people can do this (admit their mistake). Best wishes,
• India
28 Sep 11
the statements are really nice and everyone should follow it. people are really lazy and they want to earn money just by sitting at home without any hard work.
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@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
28 Sep 11
i think you are wrong discussion my friend.. look carefully about your respond and our topics
@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
28 Sep 11
That is good advice. Blaming others and not taking responsibility for our mistakes will never teach us anything of any value. As an example in my own life, I recall breaking up from my boyfriend many years ago because he treated me very badly. As I sat there crying wondering why I kept on meeting nasty men I had to face the fact that, although these guys were not nice I was not completely blameless and that I was treated negatively because I allowed it to happen and that I was going to always meet creeps; the idea was stop giving them my number! Those were the lessons for me.
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@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
29 Sep 11
yes, sometimes we must brave and admit that we are wrong..
• China
28 Sep 11
Maybe that is the human nature called the face power.Everyone want to do well and gain others posstive comment and avert the negative comment.So the blame is a common excuse to do so.
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@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
28 Sep 11
and maybe it`s called egoisme for admiting their weakness
@ifa225 (11099)
• Indonesia
28 Sep 11
and i guess egoism is normal feelings since human have many various feelings and character in their self. manage it- is the best way to conquer the ego inside
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@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
29 Sep 11
maybe....thanks for your input ifa
@bird123 (10484)
• United States
28 Sep 11
Never concentrate on Blame. Concentrate on RESULTS!!!!! You will become successful much quicker.
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@ifa225 (11099)
• Indonesia
28 Sep 11
wow... you are so focus.. that is a positive perception and maybe i can learn from you. when we know that we will get a good result we will do it happily and try to do the best
@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
28 Sep 11
@bird : result will come if we had done something...and during our work, sometimes we are failed...so my concern in this discussion, would you admit to anybody that you are not success in one thing??
@tiina05 (2319)
• Philippines
28 Sep 11
hello, wow! you really make me realize things is not easy. Well, I do all of it but I am really sorry for it because I know that it is wrong and I have nothing to do but to accept it. I always made a big mistakes and I know that it is my fault because I never think twice or more than before doing that actions. right? I know I am not perfect but I am scared to say that I am a big failure. I really admit it now. And maybe I wont do things again because I learned from it.
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@ifa225 (11099)
• Indonesia
28 Sep 11
Hi Tiina, there is something bad happen to us even we had done the best thing. it is not us- our self who did it- everything can happen too by GOD permission and we can't avoid it
@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
5 Oct 11
ifa, i like it, when you say that there are happening when God permit it...thanks for reminding me...it`s good word..
@stephcjh (32328)
• United States
4 Oct 11
Alot of people just like to point the finger at others and not take responsibility for their own actions.
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@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
5 Oct 11
yes, sometimes we must blame another if another make mistake.. but all of us never admit that sometimes the fault is created by them self....
• Indonesia
29 Sep 11
like some maxim "mite over the sea seem clear, but elephant close with you can't see it" (i don't know how to write it in english).
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@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
5 Oct 11
yes, but i understand your meaning...
@katie0 (5212)
• Japan
29 Sep 11
Nice quotes! Taking responsability it's half way to fixing the problem because we won't loose time blaming someone else. It's hard to accept, maybe it's the ego talking but everything in our lives are our fault.
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@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
29 Sep 11
yes, sometimes we must control our ego and say that we are wrong when we make mistake..
@naseemkum (1804)
• India
28 Sep 11
Normally i dont had the habit of blaming others because i blame myself for faults done by others. I had more inferiority complex so i always blame myself for the faults done by me. Even if i supposed to blame others i blame in my mind itself i dont like to blame them face to face.
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@gaiza12 (4889)
• Philippines
7 May 12
We are responsible for our own actions. Thus, we should not blame others for not being successful and not being able to achieve our goals in life because it is only us and us alone can make it possible. Time, situation, other people, weather or the place are only factors of our success, we are the core to that success, if only we just make it happen.
@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
7 May 12
thats right gaiza.. had you ever get the situation when you can`t be bravely said that its my mistake??
@gaiza12 (4889)
• Philippines
8 May 12
Yes, I have made mistakes so many times and I have claimed that it was my fault. It's not bad to claim you are at fault.
@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
10 May 12
so do you apologize after doing mistakes?
• Mexico
3 Oct 11
Hi adhyz: I think that's the attitude my friend, to take our responsibilities from our actions. And even if sometimes we feel the need to find an excuse, we don't make any progress by blaming other from the things we don't do or for the mistakes we've done. When we assume our responsibility we grow up and we gain experience. ALVARO
@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
5 Oct 11
do you always practise in your daily life??
@Sanitary (3969)
• Singapore
30 Sep 11
I agree. Whenever things fail or don't turn out the way we expected, we tend to push our blame on everything, everywhere, everybody except for ourselves. When we made a mistake, we should look to ourselves first, determine where did it go wrong before we make an accusation to some innocent parties who are not even involved. It's a pity majority of us are selfish, refusing to admit our own mistakes, for it takes great courage to own up.
@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
7 May 12
of course we had no bravely to said that its my fault.. we are afraid and we always someone else for our mistake..what a poor
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@guegui (17)
• United States
28 Sep 11
It's not good to blame others because if you blame one person, you've to blame all the rest connected to that person or to that incedent. It's a cycle. When something bad happens, find out the cause and look for a solution, preferably collaboratively so that the solution is obtained quicker. It's always been a human habit to blame other (except themselves) when things go wrong, not realising that sometimes things just happen unexpectedly and no one is to be blamed. People who blame other are to a certain extent, cowards, because they're afraid to admit their mistakes..!!
@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
7 May 12
if we are unhappy when somebody blame us, when we never do the mistake, the same feeling happens to another people, when we blame them for the our mistake.. how come we never use the simple theory like that