When arguments ruin your day

Australia
September 29, 2011 10:10pm CST
I know we can never take things here in myLot toooo seriously and if something bad transpired during your online time, you must shake it off upon turning off your PC. But have you ever gotten into a beef with some lotters here in particular discussions that you just couldn't get it out of your head, you ended up with a terrible mood that ruined your entire day? Do share! ~Aiza~
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@Hatley (152040)
• Garden Grove, California
30 Sep 11
theresaaiza yes one but i am not going to keep it going at all. if this user wants to snipe at me she can go straight ahead as I am not paying any attention anymore to what she does.I have shaken it off so she will never upset me and make me lose a discussion again. fighting is for school kids not adults here.I am not going into what happened as I just want it to be shut and forgotten by all. I want to keep having fun here and do it peacefully so no more problems at all.
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• Australia
30 Sep 11
Being affected by one single crazy member is definitely a waste of time. So it's great that you are not minding it and you're not letting it drive you nuts. Look below, there are 235,000 more or less people who will turn it to be nicer, more sensible ones worth your time and effort. Have a nice day ahead!
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• Australia
1 Oct 11
Coz sometimes it's so tempting to say something back on a word war. But then I also know that it's only a waste of time and energy
• Philippines
30 Sep 11
Hello theresaaize,Don't worry my friend you're not the only person that had this kind of experience, because I had several kind of experience in the past. I can't recall when was the last but to be honest, it ain't worth of my time as i have more discussions to reply upon. but sometimes i feel that we need to give respect since it's their right to express their thoughts. and if they are a bit violent, i just report them
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• Australia
1 Oct 11
Isn't it great to have the admin around? I have not been in any other site with admin as hands-on as myLot admin. And I am grateful for that.
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@savypat (20248)
• United States
30 Sep 11
This has happened to me, once in a while when I first started here I let it get to me. Especially in a response to one of my discussions. Now I have learned to just let it go, not everyone is going to agree with you and some are even going to get upset, but I find it's good to look at a differnet point of view and consider what they are saying. Then if you have found it has no merit just disreguard it. After all this is really just a game isn't it?
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• Australia
1 Oct 11
I agree, savy. I also realized that much is learned through time. Even our attitude changes as we go along. Like in your case, you have learned to just let negative feelings go.
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@EdnaReyes (2628)
• Philippines
30 Sep 11
Well, I used to when I am still new here but as I stay on and learned that things here don;t get serious, I just shake it off and just leave or continue with other discussions. I learn not to stay too long in one discussion as I must enjoy my self and not to piss my own.
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• Australia
1 Oct 11
Well, good for you Edna! myLot should not be an unpleasant experience.
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@GemmaR (8527)
30 Sep 11
Firstly, I won't let that happen to me on this website. On other websites that I don't enjoy as much, I might get into the odd argument and it really can ruin your day. Some of the people online can have a lot to say, and this means that they can be very rude indeed to people who most certainly don't deserve to be spoken to like that. They would never speak to them in that way if they were talking to them face to face, so I don't understand why they feel as though they are able to do this when they are hidden behind a computer screen.
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• Australia
1 Oct 11
That is one of the advantages of being anonymous. You get to do things you cannot do if your identity was revealed. This privilege must be used for good but sadly, some people's ugly true colors also surface because of this.
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@chiyosan (29389)
• Philippines
30 Sep 11
All the time, a bad experience, a bad argument would ruin our day... of course it will happen, when we least expect this but,we should not let one incident ruin our entire day. let us just shove it off and make our day better by moving on to the tasks of the day... :D
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• Australia
1 Oct 11
I believe that is a very good idea!
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• United States
30 Sep 11
In my entire time here, I can honestly say no this has not happened to me. I have a life offline and I wouldn't want it affected by activities I do online. I have not had tiffs here where I have gotten too affected from as I do try to come here and enjoy my time. I find there are far more nicer members here then there are not so nice. Sure there are differences of opinions but I simply look at them as being someone elses opinion and try never to allow it to affect me directly. Besides it would not be my families fault and or the next members fault for what anyone online does, somehow I don't think anyone should take it that far, where it spills over to their home and or persona.
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• Australia
1 Oct 11
I have to admit that when I was new here, there was a particular discussion that had me feeling really disturbed the entire day. In fact, I was so upset that I didn't want to talk to anyone! Now, I don't know if I know how to be unaffected. I just learned to avoid discussions that most likely lead to arguments. It's a bit restricting to my freedom of expression but it's better for my health that way.
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@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
30 Sep 11
It hasn't happened to me here in the Lot, however it's happened at other sites. Not wanting to keep it going (what's the point?), I usually go to one of those 'blast 'em games' and blow off steam until I feel better. Or, sometimes I just go for a walk. At least I'm able to enjoy the rest of the day, maybe one of those ideas would help you if it happens again?
• Australia
1 Oct 11
"BLAST 'EM games make me imagine you saying "Die, die, die!!" hahahaha
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@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
2 Oct 11
Only in the sweetest voice, of course.
• Australia
3 Oct 11
Oh yes, of course, we don't want to startle your furry loves!
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@Harmonics (251)
• Philippines
1 Oct 11
Although this site can allow us to enjoy interacting with other users, it must be use with discretion. I have never gotten into a beef with someone here. This is a forum site where comments fly in every direction imaginable.Some comments here makes me think and reconsider some things I know and believe but that's the most it could do to me. I wouldn't let it ruin my day just because of some comments that opposes or challenge my belief. There is really no reason for me to allow it. I also observe that there are many here who are imposing on their beliefs about a certain matter.
• Australia
1 Oct 11
Hi harmonics, disagreements on certain issues are pretty normal round these parts. So it's not a surpise anymore. Rudeness and cruel remarks are the ones that tend to make a negative impact on us. One thing that I also dislike is when someone immediately opposes to a response that centers around a religious belief, dismissing it as imposing of one's religious beliefs to others. As for me, it's not imposing. It's merely presenting. In fact, why should I not? When it is my belief and I am not trying to shove it into somebody else's throats?
• Philippines
5 Oct 11
There are those who are really just "presenting" as far as their beliefs are concerned. Some are also obviously "imposing" most especially if they have strong opinion on a certain matter. With regards to information, I only take the ones that I consider useful,factual, and upbuilding.
@bingskee (5238)
• Philippines
1 Oct 11
i don't take them seriously. i mean, this is not a discussion forum if everybody else agrees to what i post. but disagreeing has to be done politely. there are just people who take it to another level, and the disagreements and arguments are taken into another level. i will not let them affect me, and ruin my day.
• Australia
1 Oct 11
That is very correct bingskee. Let me re-post what you said, "disagreeing has to be done politely". Thank you.
@bellis716 (4807)
• United States
1 Oct 11
I believe that the worst thing that has happened to me on MyLot was when someone called my comment "Rubbish". I can't say t hat It ruined my day, but I did feel sorrow for the person who considered my comment about God rubbish.
• Australia
1 Oct 11
See, that is quite unfair. When non-believers air out their non-belief, they are exercising their freedom. But when it's our turn, we get all sorts of nasty comments. Now how on earth is that even fair?
@AmbiePam (44533)
• United States
1 Oct 11
I think that happened to me a long time ago. And I remember it happened because I kept telling myself, it's online, you shouldn't care so much! But I couldn't shake it. But it's been a couple of years now. It was with someone who had been on my friend's list. I had to take them off because what they said was so cruel, but then they posted a discussion about how angry they were that people took her off of their friends list (directed of course to me). It was a her. And although I'm not angry any longer, I still can't believe how cruel she was.
• Australia
1 Oct 11
Judging from how you wrote this post, I can't help but notice an amount of pain that you still feel for what this person did. It's good that you crashed her off your friend's list. We should surround ourselves with nice, happy and positive people. Like an old line we say here in our mother tongue, translated, it says, "we should stop minding them. Let their mouths rot (in this case, hands)
@glowin100 (124)
30 Sep 11
No, not usually. IF someone don't agree with me, that is their right. Just try not to let it bother you. glowin100
• Australia
1 Oct 11
Disagreements are normal. Like I said in one of my responses, there's a so-called healthy debate. But theres also plain rudeness. Thank goodness myLot admin's grown vigilant over things like that and they no longer happen as often as they did years ago. I still remember the time when members openly argued and later on, insulted one another. When the admin found out about it, usually, a lot of damage has already happened.
@KrauseHome (32349)
• United States
30 Sep 11
Personally, I am not sure that it has ever happened here on myLot. But I have had it happen on other sites I have been involved with, or Chatrooms, etc. and have often wondered how the person can really be like that. I know people are entitled to their own opinions even here, and we all come from different walks of life, but sometimes things that people believe in, or come up with seems almost a little too far fetched for me. Usually what I do is go away from that site or person for a while trying to think of other things to think about, and usually say a quick Prayer or two for that person and hope somehow it was just them or I having a Bad day and wishing for things to be better from there.
• Australia
1 Oct 11
Hi Krause, I believe the verse, "Love your enemies" indeed apply strongly in situations such as these.