What will you do if your partner will always accuse you of so many things?

@masang (295)
Philippines
September 30, 2011 4:14am CST
Recently we have a financial problem because of the higher price of commodities. Aside from that our work and the school of my children are far from home so we have to pay more for our transportation. Because we are hard-up, my partner accused me that I have another man in my life because I don't have money anymore. He is really weird and I don't like what he did to me. He does not believe in my explanation. Last night, he even told me that we better separate ways. It's okay for me because I'm already fed up of his accusations against me. Friends, I need your advice.
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9 responses
• Philippines
1 Oct 11
you know what it is so for children who doesn't have a complete family. i know it's hard for you also, because of the accusations your husband is throwing it to you. but think of your children/child, just itemized everything, or maybe sit down with your husband and talk.
• Philippines
1 Oct 11
He might have problems of his own. You need to have a heart to heart talk once he is willing to listen preferably when he has rested and ate his meal. I do not want to aggravate your situation further by making suggestions since all we can do is to guess what he has on mind.
@maximax8 (27943)
• United Kingdom
30 Sep 11
Food and drink prices have gone up considerably and continue to do so. I know that fuel costs have gone up and that means transport is more expensive. Your husband is very wrong to accuse you of having another man behind his back. I think that you need to talk to your husband and show him that you still love him. You can explain there is a recession at the moment and money is short for everyone. It is such a shame he has suggested separating. Good luck.
• Malaysia
30 Sep 11
hiya masang! hmmm....quite a predicament that you're in there but then since you've already stated that you don't mind separating and going your separate ways, maybe that's just what you should do. try and get a fresh start on things....and hopefully all will turn out better for you and your kids
@safety69 (592)
• Taiwan
30 Sep 11
Hi , i am sorry for what is going on in your life right now, what i suggest u to do is that , calm, seat down and take a paper and write what has been good and bad about your husband and see what is heavier if the bad things or the good ones , and its ok to separate for the moment not hurry to a divorse but give yourselves some time away , so you can clear your minds. Good luck .
@knicnax (2234)
• Philippines
30 Sep 11
That's weird. Did he bring that up out of the blue or what? What were his grounds for accusing you of such?
@GemmaR (8526)
30 Sep 11
I think that trust is one of most important things in a relationship and if you don't have trust, then there isn't any point in being in a relationship with the person in question anymore. If you can't trust your partner, then you would be right to wonder why you're still in a relationship with them in the first place. You should talk to him and explain that nothing is going on, and let him know just how much he's hurting you with his lack of trust. If he still doesn't believe you then you should think about getting a little bit of space from him.
@ronadelle (1547)
• Philippines
30 Sep 11
That's not a good sign my friend. Mostly, when a husband/partner suddenly becomes accusing, that is severe jealousy. It's better to separate ways because this will only lead into something harmful and destructive. I have this church mate who works really hard to earn money for her family, her husband would always accuse her of having an affair because she comes home late from work. He couldn't accept that it was because she wanted to earn more with overtime payment from work. Eventually, the husband became worse with his attitude. If she's not being abused verbally and emotionally, it became physically. But I'm hoping that your husband is not going to be like this. Pray for it sis.
@tiina05 (2319)
• Philippines
30 Sep 11
hello, I am sorry for what you are going through right now but maybe you should think twice first before making any decisions that you will not regret in the end. I know how hard it is because being in a relationship needs to sacrifice and understand everything. alright? If you are tired about his jealousy, he is also tired of that. You should understand him because it is natural.