regrets..

@r03249 (357)
Philippines
October 1, 2011 7:06am CST
I know all of us has done something wrong that we want to turn back time and change everything. I have regrets in life, too. But I also learned to accept this things so I can move on with my life. What is this one thing in your life that you would want to change but you couldn't any more? Something that will change your whole life from the way it is now.. You might wanna share it. :)
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@viney17 (688)
• Philippines
1 Oct 11
For me there are no bad decisions. I view problems and obstacles as a fork road, whenever i choose a road i never go back and go straight without looking back. Life is only a matter of choice there are no good and bad choices, the concept of good and bad is just in people's mind set, everyone has their own opinions about choices some people might view your choice as the good thing some might view it as the bad thing. But whatever people may say, it is your own life ! your own decision ! they are only giving their opinions don't let them control your life or your decision makings. Never regret your decisions just because people around you disapproved of it. You decide on something and you know that is best for you right? it's for your own safety that you choose something over the other thing, even if people disapproved ignore them and go on with your life, they are not the one in that situation, they don't know what it feels like to be in your situation, hell they don't have the right to choose for you, it's your own way... your own life...
@r03249 (357)
• Philippines
2 Oct 11
Hi viney and Gavrilovich. :) You are right there viney. We make our own decisions, we control our life. We and only we. I just hate it sometimes when people say, "sorry! I had NO CHOICE!" and "I'm only human, I make mistakes". So lame.. I totally hate it. If we people use that as our principle about living, then we will never learn our lessons. I, too, go straight forward on the road that I chose. We should prove to people that we made the right choice and not whine on everything because we can never turn back time. Thank you again viney for the thoughts. :) Have a great day to us!
@viney17 (688)
• Philippines
3 Oct 11
haha i agree with that 'im only human, i make mistakes too' that is really common here in philippines right? :)) We humans are the most productive specie in earth, and we are the highest form of animals, so we shouldn't really say that we are 'just mere' humans and we commit mistakes too, yeah i know everyone made mistakes but i really hate that when people say that, that just a human thing arg ~_~
@r03249 (357)
• Philippines
4 Oct 11
Yes, lame excuses. And Filipinos use that excuse almost all the time.
@FickleSky (140)
• Philippines
1 Oct 11
Hmmm. Maybe, the time when I was in 1st year high school. I regretted being too passive, inferior and full of shyness, to the point that I had failing grades and I don't have a social life in school. So, the next school year, my parents shifted me to another school. I didn't want to, but they said I had to do things all over again. That, I should start anew and leave my old self behind. But, I really wanted to study my secondary education all the way there, the school I had during my 1st high school. I have always thought that I would have had a better learning experience there and opportunities to take. But, too late and I'm done with those. I'm on my fourth year of college now, and I make sure that I won't be having too much of regrets anymore. :)
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@r03249 (357)
• Philippines
2 Oct 11
Hi there FickleSky. Well, good for you. And just wanna say I admire your parents for trying to understand you. I wish my mom could be like that. :) Good luck on your studies, and I'm pretty sure you already got friends there so it won't be that bad. Have a great day! :)
@Trace86 (5043)
• United States
2 Oct 11
If I could, I would go back to freshman year in college and change one decision I made. It may sound stupid, but I firmly believe that if I had joined the sorority I had pledged rather than depledging when they lost their charter, I would have had the support and sisterhood I needed to have had a successful time at college. There were several education majors in the house and I think they could have really helped me when I ran into trouble while student teaching. I believe my whole life would have been different and better if I had graduated college as a teacher rather than failing and having to go to a different college and graduate as a nurse 10 years later.
@r03249 (357)
• Philippines
2 Oct 11
Hi trace. :) Well, if you really like to teach, you still got your time. :) And being a nurse is not that bad. :) Good luck! Have a great day!
• China
2 Oct 11
Hello,trace,i was wonderring being an nurse is really so bad for you ? i am a medical student,and i think the medical work is noble work ,and i like it .
@r03249 (357)
• Philippines
2 Oct 11
Hello yaomax. :D Medical work is a noble work, indeed. But all of us enjoy it. :)
@Informer (803)
• India
1 Oct 11
Hi Friend, Yes, I have a great regret, when I left my first job, just to move on in life and break totally from that company and people but after some time I needed them a lot but no one was there. Life has changed at that time for me.
@r03249 (357)
• Philippines
2 Oct 11
Hi Informer. :) Really, that's too bad. If you could turn back time, will you return to that company again where no one cared? Maybe you could just move on and start over again. Do you have your job now? Have a great day! :)
@Informer (803)
• India
2 Oct 11
Hi Friend, There are so many people in that company whom I love a lot but do not have any desire to go back. Yes, I have great job currently And I am very much satisfied with that.. Thanks for asking.. Have a great day ahead..
@r03249 (357)
• Philippines
2 Oct 11
Glad to know that you are satisfied. That's all it takes to be happy. :) Good luck! :D
• Indonesia
3 Oct 11
the only thing in my life i would like to change is my study...well i ruin it few years ago...and if i could make back the time...i will do it with the right way.. but well, i cant...so now i just try to give all the best...and carefull not to do the stupid things anymore...
@r03249 (357)
• Philippines
4 Oct 11
Good plan. :)
• India
2 Oct 11
I am 66+ now, i have faced problems many times, i have always rectified my errors, no regrecs for what has happened already.. Thanks for sharing Best of luck. Professor
@r03249 (357)
• Philippines
2 Oct 11
Hello again prof! :D That's really nice. Happy marriage, financially fir and no regrets. :D
• China
2 Oct 11
To me the answer is yes,but not just one thing there are many things.Since you cant change it every reget seems meaningless.
@r03249 (357)
• Philippines
2 Oct 11
Hello sishen. Yeah, sometimes we have these meaningless regrets. But they can affect our lives big time. good luck then. :)
• Philippines
1 Oct 11
I always feel the regret when a close friend or a love one bid a farewell. Though I was able to show how much I care for them, for me it's still not enough. I always treasure the time that we've been together. It's always hard for me to be separated from a close friend. I guess it is because I only have few friends. We make a lot of big decisions in our lives and we make mistakes but we need to move forward and keep an open mind.
@r03249 (357)
• Philippines
2 Oct 11
Hello sirulrike. :) I wonder why you regret things when your friends left you. If you really showed them how much you cared, then there's no reason for you to regret anything. And they're the one who left, not you. :) Yes, we need to move forward and keep an open mind. :) Have a good day! :D
@janevi (889)
• Philippines
1 Oct 11
We regret the decision we made of things we wanted to do but did not do at the right time and we feel sorry for it. Maybe the greatest regret I have is when I did not accept an invitation to go on a vacation to another country. It was for free and I just have to accompany somebody to act as a personal assistant. It was only for a month but I chose to go on with my work here and did not take a leave. If i could have gone with her to Spain that time, it may not be difficult for me to go back there this time. It could have been that i am working there and enjoying my vacation every summer. Another regret I have is when i refused a marriage proposal 3 years ago. I was caught off guard at that time that I readily said no,I'm not ready. Until now, I haven't heard from the same person, that proposal. We are still friends but it seems that he is not interested to say those words again. Now I just envy my other friends who got married earlier and enjoying having their kids.
@r03249 (357)
• Philippines
2 Oct 11
hi jane. :) Maybe you are meant to work there and not in Spain. And you cannot blame yourself for turning that proposal down because perhaps you're not yet ready. And if that guy still loves you, he will propose again and again until he receives your sweet yes. :) Take these thing positively and move on and start all over again. You'll see. :) Have a good day!
• United States
1 Oct 11
You are so right, why regret something when you cant change it? I used to think about that all the time. What if i did this instead of that. Well reality is that I took a road that did not place me where I thought i would end up. Im 25 years old with a son struggling to make it to each pay day. I was with a guy for 4 years and we loved each other but we argued. We had a baby that was not planned.I always pictured myself successful, then married then pregnant but it didn't work out like that. For some reason we ended up breaking up. Through out my whole pregnancy I regretted not being careful. I was a Jr in college planning to go and do so many great things. I felt miserable through out my pregnancy. However after I had my son. All those feelings went away.Yes I still have those sad days but everyone does, don't they? Any who, I felt like being a mother was the most important job ever. I plan on starting school again in January to finish up. I still plan to go out and do those wonderful things. I just have a extra person there to cheer me on and benefit.Now when i look at my son, i could not picture myself with out his silly self.(lol) I feel like being a parent has def made me a stronger person. His father is still there just not with me. I feel we do better as parents then as boyfriend/ girlfriend. I guess the thing about regrets, is that you just have to work through it and find a way to change them into positives. That is what I plan to do .
@r03249 (357)
• Philippines
2 Oct 11
Hi angtobeheard. :) It was so inspiring. Not all people can carry on after what had happened to you. I know some people who still cling to their ex because they can't move on with their lives and start all over again. And you are right, we should take these regrets positively. There's no point of crying at all, wishing everything could change from the start. We still have our time to change. :) Good luck with your studies. I know you'll be just fine. :)
@GemmaR (8527)
1 Oct 11
I will admit that I do have some regrets in my life, and if I were able to go back through the course of my life to live through those times again, I would try to do things very differently. I know that I picked to go to the wrong place for University. I could have gained a place somewhere a lot higher and better respected, but at the time I was going through a time of low self esteem and I honestly believed that I would never be able to amount to anything. I wish that I had the confidence in myself to have been able to pick somewhere where I could have thrived a lot more.
@r03249 (357)
• Philippines
2 Oct 11
Hi Gemma. :) I think you haven;t overcome your being shy. We cannot turn back time but you can always start anew. :) If you really thrived that hard, there will be no chance for you to not reaching what you want. Good luck!