Confusion and winning back trust and respect
By samafayla33
@samafayla33 (1856)
United States
October 2, 2011 9:34pm CST
Suppose you start to learn your past and the signals that happened from your cloudy past that made you who you are, but you listened to the wrong people at the wrong time and your world fell apart due to many different factors that wasn't the life you expected or was surprised to turn about. If one huge joke happened and made you angry how would you deal with it?
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@besssia (94)
• Philippines
3 Oct 11
That happened to me recently. I learned that my ex used to play around big time and slept with hookers back when we were still together. Although I'm in a relationship already and am very happy with everything in my life, I still felt sick to my stomach about what I learned. I brood over it an entire day and realized that there's no point feeling hurt over something so long ago. The present I am facing is so much better so I just forget about it and continue with my life.
@samafayla33 (1856)
• United States
4 Oct 11
I guess that's all we can do because it's others who are doing the mean things with no thoughts whatsoever...It makes you sick to your stomach, but you still love them if they are discusting..
@samafayla33 (1856)
• United States
9 Oct 11
that sounds neat and I wish the best to you because that's what life is about :)
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
9 Oct 11
I used to recall aspects of my past and cringe but eventually I became aware that everything that has happened to me up until now has made me into the person I am today and how am I to know if everything was a mistake? Perhaps some of those painful incidents from the past were very important lessons that have been essential to my growth and have given me a certain amount of wisdom.
@samafayla33 (1856)
• United States
10 Oct 11
i used to be that way from the age of 8 to 23 but as i got older i was told something i didn't want to hear and i grew up and forgot all about those things that i regretted for so long. I look back now and say it's the past and hope for a brighter future. I don't know what it will hold but i hope it'll be happier than the past. Don't cringe, just look back and see how you can change and become a better person.
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@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
3 Oct 11
I have been through alot in my life and I have definitely learned alot from the mistakes and listening to the people that i trusted. I now stay mainly to myself and make the right choices.
@samafayla33 (1856)
• United States
9 Oct 11
I do that too, but sometimes it doesn't solve problems. It keeps you clueless to the facts that are going on. I would though sometimes just total honesty from others rather than hear it behind the lines and catching bits and pieces here and there. It's not right to keep things from others because if there's something they can do to help their situation to the best of their ability, honest advice and answer's the right way to go.
@allknowing (130066)
• India
6 Oct 11
It does hurt when you come to learn later in life that what was considered as love was in fact not so but you were being used. The present with time changes everything for everyone and so it is best to move on and not think much about it.
@samafayla33 (1856)
• United States
9 Oct 11
It sometimes feels like that but also there were some happy memories there too. Moving on isn't so bad going forward and seeing what life has to offer might be the best medicine one can take.
