Are others' lives really more difficult than yours (as they proclaim it to be)?

India
October 4, 2011 10:26pm CST
I have seen this quite often in my life, and I sometimes wonder about it. Whenever I tell of the hardships I am currently facing in my life, (mind you, I don't crib or anything, but just lightly say what the problems I have to deal with), people have this general attitude to be condescending and say that it's nothing as compared to what they had/are having to face in their lives, acting as though my life is a breeze as compared to theirs. So I feel, is it really the case that everybody in this entire world had to face more hardships than me? I have to live thousands of miles away from my home, away from all my loved ones, and only seldom do I get to meet them, have to eat food which is alien to me, and does not go down quite well also with my system, that too in a climate which does not have any seasonal changes. It's forever summer here, blindingly hot summer, with temperatures often going above 40 degrees centigrade. The people speak in a language which I can't understand, and sometimes, they start talking among themselves in their language without even bothering to consider the person who also wants to join their conversation, but is being consciously left out.
1 response
@allknowing (58083)
• India
5 Oct 11
It surely looks like disaster has struck you and I would not like to be in your shoes. Whoever has merely breezed over your present condition must be just trying to make you feel better by saying that they are worse off than you. You have a challenge before you to improve your living conditions and that is something that will keep you on your toes. In the meantime the best you can do is to develop tolerance.
• India
5 Oct 11
Maybe, it's the case as you say. In that case, I am thankful to them. But their tone doesn't suggest it. In fact, they sometimes make it abundantly clear by asking me why am I such a crib, when they are facing more challenges than I will ever face in a lifetime. I am trying to improve my living conditions, allknowing, and that is what man should do. If man wasn't able to adapt to all living conditions, he wouldn't have become the dominant specied in the planet!!! So, I'm trying my best to do so, but at times, I do feel depressed, and wonder what the purpose of my life is.
@allknowing (58083)
• India
5 Oct 11
Feeling depressed is normal and that will pass off. But your efforts to improve your lot will keep you on your toes having no time to either listen to others or get into depression.