Perfection

@lampar (7597)
United States
October 5, 2011 3:54pm CST
Are you obsess with perfection in your life? Do you always expect other and yourself to do and finish a job in a perfect way or you always want to seek out for the perfect lover/girl or boy friend /wife or husband before you can settle down and feeling contented. So what's your view on having this type of mentality, do you consider it is a good thing or bad thing from your perpective. Let hear what you have to say. Friends!
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@se7enthbird (8328)
• Philippines
5 Oct 11
as they say nobody is perfect, but sometimes there are task or chore that we want to do and finish with perfection. like cooking, for me my wife finishes a dish with perfection and she gets stressed out to when a dish she cooked did not turn out to be a great one. in my line of work i also want to go out with perfection but of course in a band you can not really control if something goes wrong. we all have bad moods and when one of us hias sometimes it does affect the performance. i am not that obsess with perfection for if it is not perfect i can live with that... but it feels good when you accomplish one thing with perfection.
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@lampar (7597)
• United States
5 Oct 11
Hi, bird! I'm not obsess with perfection too, i can live with that if it is not perfect, but i also feel good if i accomplish one thing with some imperfection after i am done with it. Thank for sharing your view.
@Hatley (164640)
• Garden Grove, California
7 Oct 11
hi seventhbird sometimes the best music to me seems to come when a band thinks it not perfect maybe because they are striving to do their best and it gets pretty darned close too. hi lampar if I can do something that others feel is really good then I am happy as nobody is really perfect.I have been told I make good discussions so I will accept that as a nice compliment as I am not perfect so what I am happy.
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@lampar (7597)
• United States
7 Oct 11
Hi, Hatley, if other think i'm actually doing a good job, it sure sound like i am perfect as far as i am concerned. It also make me feeling happy too.
• United States
5 Oct 11
I do aim for perfection but do not obsess with making sure that if things do not end up perfect that I kill myself in the process. Aiming for perfection is strictly self satisfaction for me and would not allow it to affect my emotional state and or afflict others in the process. I can only speak for me, but I think it has been one of my stronger points as it allows me to carefully think over situations and how to go about them. When they do not come out to my expectations, that need for perfection allows me to see where I went wrong and that in the end would allow me to accept that although not a perfect person, I gave it my all, and then some.
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@jillhill (37383)
• United States
5 Oct 11
SAme here....I aim for perfection in several areas but others not so much...Like my crafting. If I am going to sell it the article has to be perfect....or it is discounted.
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• United States
5 Oct 11
I find that those of us who strive for perfection have a great deal of patience. Something someone told me a long time ago made me realize they were right. Right because there is no obsession, but more so just a feeling of satisfaction.
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@lampar (7597)
• United States
5 Oct 11
Very interesting view from you, i can agree with most of them. Without great deal of patient, i assume a perfectionist will most likely go mad on himself or other easily, hence will usually end up in unwarranted situation at last. Thank for your well thought out response.
6 Oct 11
I don't obsess this type of mentality in my life.In my daily living,sometimes I require too much to others,but I won't expect them complete their job in a very perfect way.No one is perfect.I don't want others finish something reluctantly. In others perspective,no one will be forced to do a job by others.If I force them to do so,no one will feel happy about it,besides,it will harm the relationship between me and others.Not wise to do so.And I just want to say everyone will make mistake,we can't beg too much from others,when others make mistakes,we need to comprehense,not to blame,perhaps you can get more.
@lampar (7597)
• United States
7 Oct 11
Good attitude on your part, skyliner! It does make plenty of senses whatever you said here.
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@MandaLee (3738)
• United States
5 Oct 11
No, I am no perfectionist. I will make mistakes. I think being a perfectionist has both its positives and negatives. I know a perfectionist. I wonder how his behavior impacts others.
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@lampar (7597)
• United States
6 Oct 11
I assume perfectionist also make mistake like you or me, the different here is that he/she may not be satisfied with the outcome at all even though it is just a tiny mistake or contain only a very small imperfection on it, he will go all ballistic over it, while it may seem like nothing to me or you, we can still live with that little bit of imperfection without looking back. In that sense we probably have a easy going personality compare to a perfectionsit.
@Bluedoll (17063)
• Canada
5 Oct 11
I try to do my best. I was brought up with the idea that a job worth doing is worth doing well. I am not sure you would call that perfection though because I will not call myself a perfectionist though I do want things done well. Things I do are seldom are up to the highest standard so I have never worried about it. I do expect if I am paying for something to end up with a reasonable product and will communicate this to others. People are human though and accepting them as they are is only fair. I can find myself doing something and then end up spending to much time at it, trying to get it just right but that is I have found far from a perfect approach to aim for.
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@lampar (7597)
• United States
5 Oct 11
I think doing it right or well is different from perfectly done. Perfection is mostly base on an individual personal unique taste or view on thing. So i will think it will be very difficult to demand perfectionist out of yourself or other people. Thank for your view.
@umabharti (3976)
• India
6 Oct 11
some try to be as perfect as they could be ,some try to adjust with those who are trying to become perfect ,some try to teach other perfectness,there are different nature people,so in that way some be perfect some do not.Being perfect 100percent is no where in the world.
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@lampar (7597)
• United States
6 Oct 11
Yes, i want to think it make sense what you are saying but i just can't figure out. Thank for dropping by. Pal!
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@umabharti (3976)
• India
6 Oct 11
"Pal" wat is that ,wht is the meaning of pal ? Yes that makes sense,which ever we do we should do it with sense.Then only it would be in a good way.what u say ?
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@lampar (7597)
• United States
6 Oct 11
It means friend! Pal... I agree with you, we should do it with sense.
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@thatgirl13 (7307)
• South Korea
6 Oct 11
Not all the time but sometimes I can be a real perfectionist. I mean I don't know what happens to me at times. If the things aren't perfect, they bug me and I get mad. And I have to redo all of it again!
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@stary1 (6622)
• United States
6 Oct 11
I still do that too...but I sometimes can now laugh and say..well 'this time' I will have to lower my standards a little. Good luck..perfection can drive ya nuts...
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@lampar (7597)
• United States
6 Oct 11
You get mad when thing is not perfect for you . Luckily it happens only sometimes, but not every time you do somethings, thank God for that, i just can't imagine what's going to come out of you when you get mad, i think it must be really scary for other people around you. (joking) Thank for sharing your view with us all, please don't get mad at me, i am sure i'm not perfect with this comment, actually most of the time i am not perfect.
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@stary1 (6622)
• United States
6 Oct 11
I don't know if you were speaking to me or thatgirl13 or both of us, but I wouldn't get mad at you for this comment..In fact I have the impression you have an awesome sense of humor and I love that!!!
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@telmesh (1793)
6 Oct 11
Obsession with perfection was the best way to describe me and I used to spend hours to get things just right and it often meant starting all over again. Now I think more before activity and spend more time thinking than doing and tend only to do it once. Don't lets think that perfection is all that matters, sometimes leaving a little to the imagination is good.
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@lampar (7597)
• United States
6 Oct 11
It must be really frustrating having to do it all over again just for the sake of perfection, well i guess each one has the freedom to have such a mind-set, and accept the consequences come with it, my friend! I am in no position to judge you or others.
@telmesh (1793)
7 Oct 11
It is frustrating to start all over that's why I try not to go down that road anymore. Comes with age. Thanks for taking the time to respond to your responses.
@lampar (7597)
• United States
7 Oct 11
Experience and wisdom grow with age. It is quite natural for some people. I just like to comment back to my response. It is a discussion , not question and answer only. My friend. Thank you for responding to the discussion and share your view.
@waflay (2726)
• Nairobi, Kenya
6 Oct 11
Hi, its good to do something as perfectly as you can but do not let perfectionism take control of you. I'm saying this because I have worked perfectionist who think they can not mistake but if yo check into what they do, you will find a lot of unworthy mistakes that can leave you wondering whass up! By the way, perfectionists can see there mistakes and justify it as if it does not matter, but you will in for it if make the same mistake. Just try your level best, but not try to be perfect in this world of imperfection.
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@lampar (7597)
• United States
7 Oct 11
Yes, i will take your advice seriously, just try my best, but not try to be perfect. My dear 'Kung Fu bear' pal! Show us a fly kick with a Karate Chop concurrently.
@waflay (2726)
• Nairobi, Kenya
7 Oct 11
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@lampar (7597)
• United States
7 Oct 11
Show me a sidekick or fly kick. my friend!!
@savypat (20246)
• United States
8 Oct 11
Once it's perfect it's over, done, finished. I'd much rather be on the way to perfection then to obtain it.
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• United States
8 Oct 11
That's a good way to be. I find I'm more of a perfectionist only when I am working off anxiety. I'm also working toward perfection in my writing.. so that whomever is paying for my work won't be disappointed with it.
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@lampar (7597)
• United States
8 Oct 11
Of course in order for it to be perfect, it had to be "done", "finished", "End of it", "no more" and "that is" etc... can't complain anymore and really satisfied.
@oXAquaXo (607)
• United States
9 Oct 11
That's a good point. Life is all about imperfection, because it's a process where we're all working to achieve perfection. And in the process, we become happy...for some reason. So perfection is the "unattainable endpoint" that drives us to become who we are and what our life is meant to be.
@balasri (26554)
• India
7 Oct 11
I am so finicky about perfection.Anything awry and out of place makes me jumpy.I don't know I am made this way.I believe that as human beings we need an order and perfection in whatever we do.I know that if I judge all wrong there is definitely something wrong with my yard stick.Still I like perfection.
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@lampar (7597)
• United States
7 Oct 11
I can agree that as human being, we need order to keep us in line. But not on this thing known as 'perfection', Pal! It is 'perfectly' fine for me if you like to be 'perfect'.
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@balasri (26554)
• India
8 Oct 11
Perfect
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@lampar (7597)
• United States
8 Oct 11
Cool.
@ferbjohn69 (1129)
• Philippines
7 Oct 11
Well I believe no one is perfect so there is always room for error.I just give my best in everything I do so when things do go the way I want them to I won't be too much disappointed.We tend to be hurt if we fail when we expect to much from ourselves.So I think we must just to our best in everything we do,noting more.
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@lampar (7597)
• United States
7 Oct 11
That is right, give the best shot is all we should do whenever we can, so that we wouldn't feel too disappointed or get too much disappointment if thing don't go as perfectly as we want. Cool!
• Philippines
8 Oct 11
That's what I do so when I fail I will still have the spirit to continue.I don't expect too much from myself...And the result is pretty awesome.
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@lampar (7597)
• United States
8 Oct 11
That is a good attitude, also avoid having too much grief for yourself too.
@alottodo (3061)
• Australia
9 Oct 11
I Am not sure about being a perfectionist...but I like a job well done! ...when I do something I put 100 per cent into it/ and I expect others to do so! Now let's go to your question...are you asking here if we should seek perfection in a partner?...well let me tell you that is a different song all together! you accept a partner as is...perfection have nothing to do with it! if you are in love eventually every thing will fall in to place!
@JosephP (1118)
• Jamaica
9 Oct 11
Yes I agree completely alottodo.
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@lampar (7597)
• United States
10 Oct 11
Can't argue much about it.
• China
7 Oct 11
Perfection? yes, of course I'm pursuing perfection for everything, but actually, there is not perfection. That's just our goal, isn't it? By the way, I wonder how can it be that the responses to your discussion are so many which is more than I can imagine before.
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@lampar (7597)
• United States
7 Oct 11
That is fine with me if you are pursuing perfection for everything. I have no objection at all. You can say it is your goal or objective, that is cool for me. Your question to why i have so many responses here more than you can imagine should be answered by all these members who posted their response in this discussion, only they can tell you the reason why they want to respond, i can't read their mind per se. May be some members will tell you after reading this comment from me.
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@lampar (7597)
• United States
8 Oct 11
I am shock and almost fainted after i log into Mylot and take a peek at my own most recent discussion, it is getting so many responses, the first time in my many years in Mylot. I am sorry i can't give you a answer to your question, Pal!
@WakeUpKitty (8706)
• Netherlands
7 Oct 11
There is nothing wrong with being perfect or at least try to be as perfect as it can be (or do something as perfect as you can). But after you did it you should be satisfied with it and not break your braines or have sleepless nights because you think it's still not good enough. If it comes to finding a perfect partner... perfect should be the one that fits you not the one who is doing everything perfect. Hard for me to believe such a person does exist since we all have a different opinion about what is perfect. As long as you are not obsedded about findint the perfect one, are not repeating yourself over and over and over again there is nothing wrong with doing your best.
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@lampar (7597)
• United States
7 Oct 11
I guess it is all in the mind (eye) of the beholder, more like the definition of 'beauty'. I tend to think that if i demand perfection from task i did myself, not from tasks did by other is after all not a bad thing at all, at least it will motivate me to strive for 'excellency' and full fill my own ego and desire. Also i think it is not a good thing to expect perfection in everything we do and everything what other do. We should be moderate in reaching the stage of perfection and adjust the standard accordingly base on the circumstances surrounding us and others.
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• India
7 Oct 11
no one is prefect in this world... we need to just be good and try to fulfill our goals without hating others.. tats it.. be happy forever..
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@lampar (7597)
• United States
7 Oct 11
Agree! Everyone just be happy and stop hating another human being/person. Sound great to me. Pal!
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• United States
7 Oct 11
There will never be perfection in no aspect. There are people who need perfection but it's not possible and who knows how long it'll take for those people to realize this.
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@lampar (7597)
• United States
7 Oct 11
I want to believe you are trying to say that" there will never be perfection in every aspect" above, then only your statement will make sense to me. haha... it probably will take a long time for those people to realize it, i assume.
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@ores12 (53)
7 Oct 11
I did not wish that I am a perfect person perfect family perfect relation ship perfect student and a perfect daughter (but sometimes I wish I am) wheres the thrill to that? You have nothing to do cause you are perfect. I'm okay with my perfect life even though that my mother and father sometimes fight, imperfect grade, wrong grammar. Finding my true love. It should be hard for not being a perfect girl/guy it will be a challenge
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@lampar (7597)
• United States
7 Oct 11
Great attitude you have over there, i doubt there is any thrill to become a perfectionist, it is all about a person reaching his/her own satisfaction in his/her state of mind. It is very much personal type of feeling. Pal! Thank for sharing with us.
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• United States
7 Oct 11
I'm really not obsessed with the perfection, but, in fact, I try my best to work my best. Perfection is very good for everyone as perfection is perfection after all. But, you know that there is no one 100% perfect and ideal.
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@lampar (7597)
• United States
7 Oct 11
I guess i know that by now after having this discussion with you. Muza...Thank for sharing your view.
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@surekharathi (14134)
• India
7 Oct 11
I am not perfect and I dont want to try perfect because If I started to making perfect life then I will miss my funny way... and I think no one is perfect in their life.
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@lampar (7597)
• United States
7 Oct 11
I prefer your funny way more than whatever perfect way you want. At least i think many people will enjoy your funny way than perfectionism. That should be a good thing i assume.
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