How would you deal with a boastful person?

Philippines
October 6, 2011 5:46am CST
I know someone who is very boastful that is why i keep avoiding that person to talk with because i don't feel good after we have a talk. It is just that it is hard to talk with those kind of people. I don't know with others but I just don't like talking with someone who always boast something about himself. Tsk Tsk.. but it doesn't mean that i don't like him anymore. Whatever. I sometimes feel irritated. That is the truth.
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@megamatt (14333)
• United States
6 Oct 11
I just nod my head and just let them go. Eventually their boasts are going to get brought down. I'll just be amused by the fact that I think that they actually believe what they are saying. They actually tend to talk themselves up to the point of near absurdity. It doesn't irritate me at all, in fact I find it rather funny to say the least. Granted, there are many times in life where we do toot our horn from time to time but there are times, where you need to remain silent and just be humble. Some people don't really know when to say when. Thus they continue to talk and talk, to the fact that people start wondering about some of the things that they are saying. Then again, some people are like that, just go with the flow.
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• Indonesia
6 Oct 11
I do not like people who boast themselves. I always try to find a discussion that does not have to do with pride or boastful. My suggestion is not to talk much and always nod. No need to debate what he said.
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• Philippines
6 Oct 11
yeah it's true that it is so hard to deal with narcissistic person, so irritating. Whenever I encounter those type person, I leave. There is no point to stay and listen, right?
@mariahhh (1328)
• United Arab Emirates
6 Oct 11
I totally understand how you feel. In every place I go to, there are boastful person along the way. Most of them don't realize that they are being cocky. I personally hate those kind of people. But I can't do anything about it. If I am not that close to the person, it's hard to tell them about it. She might be offended. That's why I just go with the flow. It's irritating especially if you have to be with her for a long time.
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@omchesunche (1755)
• Indonesia
6 Oct 11
Yeah, I know about those kind of people. They are really love about themselves, think and talk aways about their greatness. I always try to avoid this kind of people but sometimes difficult. If I must facing them, I will try to talk about general things, such as weather, technology..
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@nanayangel (7691)
• Philippines
6 Oct 11
Hi there Tess Quinain! I understand how you feel. Sometimes, we deal with people that we don't really like but we just have to at least be civil to them. If you really don't like talking to the person, you can just stop talking to him if he affects you negatively. Or, you can try to understand here. Usually, this is some sort of defense mechanism, done to cover up his fears or insecurity.
• India
6 Oct 11
That is true. I also faced similar situation many times. It is really difficult to deal with such people. Best way is to not to pay much attention of what they say. If we try to contradict with them on any point, things get different turn. I think they do this because they enjoy the feeling in conveying that they are intelligent than others.
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@Triple0 (1907)
• Australia
6 Oct 11
I have friends like that, pretty much I just go along with them as normal. Usually when they start boasting about themselves I would be like "Woah step back" just to emphasize how "great" they are and then they'll realize they're boasting and calm down a bit from it. Does your friend know he's boasting? Maybe you should let him know that he's getting a little out of hand. I do that to my friends, I just let them know casually that they're boasting But I don't say it in a serious kind of way. Just slip it out on a joke or something, he'll eventually buy it, if not and if it really annoys you, really tell him that.
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• Philippines
10 Oct 11
Some people are like that. Some boasts because they got money, power or prestige. Some boasts because they feel bad about themselves so they create this character to tell others that they feel better more than what they presently feel. Yes it is true that if you are not a boastful person you can get irritated with those who love to flaunt. Some guys boasts about what they possess to get girls. Some people boasts to get friends to love them thinking this is the right way of doing it.
@lingli_78 (12852)
• Australia
10 Oct 11
i also dislike to listen to boastful person and i don't like to associate with arrogant person as well... it is just annoying and i will try to avoid them as much as i can... take care and have a nice day...
• Philippines
9 Oct 11
I think that this trait is inside each one of us but it is up to that person to use that trait or even to enhance it. Some people boast about something because they feel insecure about the other stuff. Or maybe they just need attention. Sure, everyone has something to boast about but we are all unique so a person does not need to boast on something he/she has because he/she don't have everything. Don't let them affect you. You should be the better man and just walk away :)
@whatrow (793)
• United States
8 Oct 11
You deal with them by understanding that this person is very insecure and struggling to find a way to pick himself up emotionally. Far from ignoring him, you should listen to him and acknowledge his good qualities.
• South Africa
8 Oct 11
i know a person like that...he's from germany and can speak four languages and gets perfect grades and blah blah blah..he's a good person otherwise,though.what i do is just grin and bear it, let him brag dont say anything so i dont really encourage it, then i mension something about school or the weather or something. something that affects as both. or i mention something that i did,so i can have my turn
• Pakistan
8 Oct 11
my sister works with someone who boasts alot and by the end of the day she either wants to kill herself or that person since at work its kinda difficult to avoid that person.u have no other choice but to ignore these people and arguing with these people will make u look as stupid as they are
8 Oct 11
I think what you need to do is tell him/her personally that for you he/she is boastful. it might help the person
• Philippines
8 Oct 11
I also feel the same way. It's hard to talk with those kind of people who only wants to talk about themselves and brag about something. If you're friends with that person, then you can talk to him and tell him about how you really feel. It's hard to avoid someone so, it's better to talk with that person. But if after talking and still he hasn't changed a bit, then it's better to just avoid him.
@joystick (1680)
7 Oct 11
I know two people that are like that and i will say that i try not to listen to them.I think that these kinds of people will never change and they always have to have done something bigger or better than the next person.I do find people like that annoying.
@thatgirl13 (7307)
• South Korea
7 Oct 11
Yes I think we all have met that kinda of people. What I do is I try to avoid them as much as possible. I would not want to be there bored when the person is blabbering about nothing but themselves boy! I am glad I don't have those kind of friends but sure do meet that kind of people once in a while.
@zer0charly (5619)
• Philippines
7 Oct 11
Hi tess.:) It depends on my mood. If I am in the mood to boast too then I'll make him/her feel that I can also do what she/he can much better or I also have what he/she have. though sometimes I just ignore or just agree on whatever he/she is saying. no more question ask to end the conversation.:D
@bagarad (7844)
• Paso Robles, California
7 Oct 11
If you can thnk of a humorous come-back, that might be the best way to handle it. Otherwise I think I'd just let the person talk until he runs down, or maybe you could excuse yourself for a sudden call of nature and not come back.