Is this a bad thing? If your in a relationship..

Philippines
October 6, 2011 10:54am CST
If your partber is working for graveyard shift.. 3am to 12noon and still you want her to be with you at 4pm so basically she only have 3 hours of sleep.. And then if she will not be there for you, you will be mad at her.. Or vice versa.. Why is it that girls always tell their boy friend that they dont understand them and always says that boys are over reacting always..
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7 responses
• Philippines
6 Oct 11
You have to be considerate for your girlfriend. Don't be mad towards her but instead, take advantage of the situation to show her how much you love her and how much you want to be with her. Why not go to her house and cook for her or just wait for her until she's fully awake? Just an idea. Being romantic compared to being mad is way much acceptable to girls. Have a nice day!
• Philippines
6 Oct 11
I agree.. Thanks for the replies.. Actually its the other way around.. Im always feeling tired and at my work i always fall asleep because of that.. Sometimes i want to tell her that i need some rest but im afraid that she will get mad..
• Philippines
7 Oct 11
Thanks for marking my comment as best response. Girls love romance. I believe if you tell her that you just need to rest a little and that you hope you would wake up seeing her smiling, beautiful face, that would make her day. You may get a kiss. Hahaha... Best regards to you.
• Philippines
10 Oct 11
I did that already haha.. Somehow it worked for a while but we got in a fight because of the sleeping thing.. I really want to know a good approach.. Because im always pushing my limit.. I will go to her house before i go to work.. Ill must be there before 6pm and i need to go to work not earlier than 9pm because she will be mad or feel that she is not impotant.. And at 9pm there are no transportation availble anymore.. So before i reach to my work i need to walk 1.5km.. And that is for almost everyday except on sundays and everyday i can only sleep for 3 hours and i need to walk for 1.5km.. I feel that my body is giving up physically but im scared to tell her that because she will surely be mad at me.. Any advice? :D
@bubuth (1816)
• Philippines
25 Mar 12
I think you must understand her that she still need to rest because she will still need more energy for his job tomorrow. You must wait until her rest day so she can have enough time for you and enough energy for her work because its really hard to work if you don't have enough hour of sleep and don't get mad at her if she cannot spend lot of time for you because she is just doing her work.
@chiyosan (30205)
• Philippines
7 Oct 11
Well if there is no communication and both of them would always just count and give a lot of pressure on each other, i think they will never get to understand. One has to have understanding of the situation - if you love the person as much as you want to be with them, you have got to understand that like you, they need to rest, they need to care for their health and be strong and have energy when they meet you... would you want to be with someone who is already groggy and sleepy?
@swissheart (6486)
• Romania
6 Oct 11
hmmm good question. guess you need to try to understand her. she needs rest,,,give her some time so that she would find a way to make things normal...you need to get at least 8 hours of sleep so...try to understand there isn';t anything to do. if you really care for her this is what you will do
@shrike (123)
• Philippines
6 Oct 11
hi! for me there is no reason for me to get mad, i should understand her, it is really hard on her part because imagine, she only has 3 hours to rest, and i'm sure she is very tired so let her rest for the next hours will be a very long hours of work. if you really love your partner, yes of course time is very important in one relationship but we should also consider many things. it is not what we want that should happen, i am sure they also want to give time to us, and i am also very sure if they really love us then they will find time to be with us. it depends on what situation you are referring to, maybe they have a different insight about on what they are arguing about that is why one says she or he Don't understand her or vice versa. some girls say that also because that is not what they are expecting from their boyfriend. everything can be fix through a good talk and nice conversation. each should explain their-selves clearly in a way that they will understand each other.
@ravinskye (8242)
• United States
6 Oct 11
I have sort of the same situation with my husband. Well, I did. Now he comes home so late it doesn't even matter anymore. But he used to get up early to get to work. He would get up at 5am. So at night he'd be so tired he would be falling asleep as soon as he'd sit down. That kind of made any kind of conversation and connecting between us hard. I'd ask him to go to bed earlier on some nights so that on others we could spend some time together without him being so sleepy but he wouldn't listen and he'd stay up every night with me till 11pm. It got so frustrating. I think you just have to be patient until she can get on a shift more similar to yours so you can spend time together.
@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
6 Oct 11
It's a matter of communication. I also work with graveyard shift and it's really hard to adjust with time. You need to understand your girlfriend and it's her health that matters also. I hope you can settle things with her soon. Have a good day and welcome to mylot