What is the common reason for a husband to look for another girl?

Philippines
October 6, 2011 9:14pm CST
I just watched a very nice movie last night. It's really happening in the real world. It is actually about a husband having an affair to another girl. It made me think and ask.... What is the common reason for a husband to look for another girl, when he proclaimed in the first place that HE LOVE HIS WIFE AND FAMILY? Was it just for fun, the thrill and excitement? What if that fun turns out to become love, what if there will be emotions involve in the long run? how would you deal with it? Who will you choose? Your wife or the girl whom you finally learned to love? I don't want to be unfair, since this only not applies to men, but also for women especially in our generation today.
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@hexebella (1140)
• Philippines
7 Oct 11
I think..... - the filipino macho image - the marriage was not founded on real love - the marriage could have happened because the girl is pregnant already - the spice of the relationship turned to bland - long distance situation and physical needs can not be controlled - individual differences that can not be settled by both parties - etc, etc Only true love conquers all!
• Philippines
7 Oct 11
On love, i guess it's there, but the foundation is not that strong. But temptation is everywhere, it is present in every corner of everyone's life. It's how you deal with it. Whew! One must have all the courage to resist every temptation in everyone's life. Temptation has many forms, not just on the relationship but in all different aspects. I also agree with regard to that long distance situation. But sometimes, our work requires us to go to other places far from our family. That we don't have control, we really need to work for our family. Constant communication really is a must. But I've known some, communication is there, but still her husband wasn't able to resist the temptation. I guess, it will always boils down to LOVE. True indeed, LOVE conquers all. ;-) Thanks you my friend.
@hexebella (1140)
• Philippines
7 Oct 11
But also take into consideration that it is not always the husband that betray the wife, there's a lot of cases that the wife betrays the husband and the family, I have known cases like this. Such a pity for the kids. They are the one suffering.
• Philippines
10 Oct 11
I agree with you on that matter. I've known some whose wife betrayed their husband. I guess, men and women are just the same, its just that committing this kind of affair are prone to men, or lets just say... Women committing this kind of affair was just known to public recently. Sad thing about this is that the public easily accepts men committing an affair to other women than women committing affair to other men. Men and women are human, everybody are capable of committing mistakes. Do you think we (people) are unfair in terms of judging this kind of thing between men and women?
@dpk262006 (53822)
• Delhi, India
7 Oct 11
I think it could be a kind of dis-satisfaction with the his current partner, which could compel a person to look out for another girl.
• Philippines
10 Oct 11
oopppsss! With that, we really have to satisfy our partner in everything. But sometimes, our best is still not enough. Whew! what is not enough and enough then? So funny, yet this is so stressful. But wives should think and be always at their best in everything. ;-) Thanks my friend.
@dpk262006 (53822)
• Delhi, India
10 Oct 11
You can not be perfect, so you do not have to satisfy your partner in every field. For that matter no one is perfect. It is the concerned partner, who is searching for a new mate, should understand.
@bubuth (1816)
• Philippines
25 Mar 12
I think the most commonly reason of the married guy why he get another woman is he is not happy with his relationship in her legal partner and there is also some case that the man feel that her wife is not taking good care of him like after his work his wife not prepare food or sometimes after work their wife not clean the house. But their are also guy that their reason is their partner is already not good looking.
• Philippines
29 Mar 12
hahaha.. your last line really got me! That's absolutely true my friend! So for married, especially women, we should double our efforts in making ourselves presentable to the eyes of our husbands! hahahaha.. so true.... I've heard many stories from my married male friends regarding this matter! whew! ;-)
@jaiho2009 (39079)
• Philippines
11 Oct 11
Actually this is the same question that never gives me definite answer. Why and what is the reason for such infidelity. Is is the other woman's fault for having an affair with a married man,or was it the husbands fault and he still claim and always tell that he loves his wife and family yet, having an elicit affair. I don't know the answer and I am also looking for the answer till now. have a good day
• Philippines
12 Oct 11
Such a complicated question yet only those who practiced such thing can ever answer it, though i doubt if they can also give us the answer that we really wanted to hear ;-) Thank you my friend. Happy mylotting!
@Swaana (1208)
• India
7 Oct 11
Though one could argue that men/women could surpass their feelings or men are like that. But the facts could be anything. Though they love their spouse, if they are in search of something more, if they are looking out for some other thing and if they find that in other men or women, then they tend to go to that other person. But it is not necessary that every one seek the other some may just maintain a friendship and a few others go a step further. Though I am not defending that act, this is what I have heard from some people.
• Philippines
10 Oct 11
I think so. That's why i agree when people say that wife needs to act like "the other women" to their husband also. The wife should possess the character of a mistress all together so that the husband need not to look for other. ;-) You don't have to defend this act my friend. My mind is already open to this thing. I am just anxious to know what if the fun turns to serious thing? What if emotion is involve? What if he/she falls in love to that other party, same intense to the love that he/she feels to his/her family? Who would he/she choose? Sounds complicated, right? ;-)
@waflay (2729)
• Nairobi, Kenya
7 Oct 11
I wish I can tell the real reason behind unfaithfulness but its somehow complicated. Someone can opt for extra marital affair just for adventure without a good reason for doing it. Another thing can be as a result of unhappiness in his/her marriage, and that urge to fulfill that blank space can drive someone out of marriage. Misunderstanding and domineering partners sometimes makes it hard for someone to feel loved... etc.
• Philippines
7 Oct 11
So it's indeed complicated! hehehe..Right, in fact some when asked why, they can't give the exact answer. I guess when emotion is involve that makes it more complicated, love is complicated in any case. Well, to all the couples out there, including me, i really do hope that if ever that blank spaces ever appear in our married life, it will be resolved the soonest possible time so that it will not lead into something that both might regret at the end. Thank you my friend ;-)
@romscabs (311)
• Philippines
7 Oct 11
It is because men are like that. Men are not contented with just one partner. When a guys says he loves a girl, he doesn't really mean, he will just love one girl. He will love a lot of girls. That is for real. There is no men in this world that has only 1 partner.
• Philippines
7 Oct 11
you mean polygamous in nature? hehehehe... peace to all men out there ;O
@mohkanari (1957)
• India
7 Oct 11
It is THE human nature. In saying more clearly the animal nature. In the same way wife also may look another man if the society give freedom. Only love between each other can bring limits to such natural tendencies.
@Tmulley (91)
• United States
7 Oct 11
Its very sad actually but its most definitely something REAL and TRUE and it happens regularly in the world of marriage and love. I read an article not too long ago and it was about men cheating (and again it does apply to women also because I do feel they cheat too) but this article was strictly on men and why they cheat and it explained how men are like animals so they are prone to want to have variety...and how they may not stop loving you or even truly love the woman they are cheating on you with, but that its in their nature to like many different women so of corse they will always look...its the ones that actually go through with the act that are in the wrong. It went on to say how you have to be truly secure in yourself and your relationship to be able to look (harmlessly) and admire a pretty face but to still be able to appreciate who your are with or what you have (instead of feeling like you may want them because they look better or seem better then who you have) It made alot of sense to me and helped me understand why some people do cheat...its a sign if insecurity actually! If your strong you hold out and can be around anyone and know that you still truly love your mate and dont want or need anyone else!