Have you tried testing yourself if your real friend a truly genuine one with you

@mobhomeir (7565)
Philippines
October 11, 2011 8:31am CST
Most likely my friends whether you agree with me or not, it is very easy to find friends if you're at the stage of abundance..i mean if you have a lots and lots of money..and it is very seldom that would happen that you can see rich person mingles with lower level individuals. Recently I found out that I never had really a real friend(s) because real friends would be there with you through thick and thin for better and for worst..and seldom you can see this kind of friend.. It is really hard to find really genuine kind of friend(s) in the middle of your scarcity. I lost every friends of mine when I was experiencing hardships in life.. Sad to think, I was expecting the few selected friends and considered really my best friend and yet they're nowhere to find and never care anymore in spite of the information on my situation...\\ But no regret because it was really a blessing in disguised that I've known whom my real friends and not.\\\ Did you have a sad experience with your real friends whom you think could help you first in times of your needs? Let's talk about it.. Mobhomeir here. 101111
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@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
11 Oct 11
hello Martin Nice to see you my dear amigo. Sad to know about your situation I am lucky to have a set of friends whom I can always rely on to. They never failed me in times of troubles and when I needed them. I don't even need to say a single word for their help, they gave it voluntarily. I have it proven many times, financially and emotionally they are always there with me. Have a good day dear
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@mobhomeir (7565)
• Philippines
13 Oct 11
Hi my dear bonita mia..I miss you really my friend..its really nice and feeling great knowing you're old time (virtual friend) still here like you... Yeah the reason why I've been away for quite sometime here because of different problems that haunted always in life.. Well, now I know who are really my real and best friends in spite of my scarcity..thanks for responding my bonita mia.. Take care.. Mobhomeir here .. 101311
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
11 Oct 11
I'm lucky to have at least two real friends whom I can count on when I'm really down (both emotionally and financially)... i might have seen them sometimes contradicting me, my decisions and choices, but i guess real friends are there to contradict you and act like a they're not happy for you. But in tough times I saw their real concern on me. And I'm so happy that even thought I dont consider myself as a really-good-and-sweet-friend type for them, they are still there for me. Hope to have them until I grow old. I am a person who loves to have many friends, but have always returned to my two real friends. others are there when you;re there with them only, but if you have been away from them and they have found new friends, communication will never be easy again with them. it disheartens me sometimes but i guess we all should accept that we can;t have more than 1 real best friend. i'm still lucky to have at least two. Plus, let;s not forget our mums, for me my mum is my greatest great best friend of all.
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@mobhomeir (7565)
• Philippines
13 Oct 11
How lucky you are to have friends like you described above. Like you I love lots of friends but I should have collected them in my time of financial constraint. Because I believe some people said, It would be so easy to build a network of friends when you're at the top of your abundance most like majority of would be gone out during times when you needed them most... Thanks for responding my friend. Mobhomeir here..
@cerebellum (3871)
• United States
12 Oct 11
I have been very luck when it comes to friends. I need a lot of help, both financial and physical. My friends are always there to help me if I just ask them. I don't like to ask for help, but if they know I need it they will help me even if I don't ask. They are true friends!
12 Oct 11
I have a lot of friend,when I face the problem ,they promise to help me.so I am very fortunately.Friends is that can help each other,you have to be honestand respectful ,when you want to make friends with others.Friends need not too much standards,if you want to make friends,you first show your mind.
@WakeUpKitty (8706)
• Netherlands
11 Oct 11
Where do you get the idea that it's easy to make friends? If you think it's easy to make true friends it has to do with your opinion about how a good friend should be. Perhaps you never cared about that? Perhaps you don't care if you have a lot of money because the only thing you like is being popular and you want people to recognize you? It's always hard to find true friends. No matter if you are rich or poor. If you are rich you will always wonder if it is true friendship or about the money. If you are poor you might ask yourself if your friend is just with you because he pities you. I think it's easier for a person to find a real friend if he is poor as when he is rich. I never had many friends, never made real friends easy either. No matter I was rich or poor, I shared everything or even gave it away and I was hungry or I keep it for myself. If you had a sad experience with a real friend I can tell you this was NOT a real friend. That "real friend" was just existing in your mind.
@mobhomeir (7565)
• Philippines
13 Oct 11
I understand what you mean guys..what I mean here are based on my experience and it was really true. How will you know if someone whom you think you real friend has same feeling as yours, i mean, it is really easy to collect a circle of friends when you're at your abundance. And that was the truth in my real life. Yeah I was embarrassed and disgusted because they never came even just to talk with me.. The conclusion injected in my mind from now on is,,, it's very rare to have real friends who would extend their hands without expecting in return.. Thanks. Mobhomeir here.. 101311
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
20 Oct 11
It really does become harder and harder to find what one might define as a true friend. I have come to learn there are going to be a lot of people that come in and out of our lives and most of them have reasons for doing so..but true friends..well...that's a different story. I think they are out there..they are just hard to find. As far as expecting my friends to help me financially...no...but loyalty..that is another matter and I do expect that. I am a very loyal person and I expect the same I guess. I think there are different levels and expectations where friends are concerned too. That might be where I am messing up...lol...I should take time to understand what their definition of a friend is before I go all in. Take care.
@murkie (1105)
• Philippines
12 Oct 11
i don't think think it's such a good idea to intentionally test your friends. bonding really manifests itself in actual circumstances, not in pre-meditated incidences. if you are such a real friend to them, you should be trusting them enough. if you need proof for their loyalty, then you are not a real friend to them.