Why marriages end up so fast nowadays? :-(

@eseulhan (199)
Philippines
October 12, 2011 5:25am CST
I think the main reason is: Most people fall in love with each other and tries to do everything and almost everything before they get married. Like kissing, make out, s3x, live in together and so on. So when they get married there is REALLY nothing interesting towards each other so the only role of marriage in their life is just a paperwork thats shows they are legally married and thats it! Then after a short while they get bored with each other coz marriage has no longer a big role in their life. When they see rge hardships of marriage and living together as couples they just get annoyed by it. Couples should know there limitations as to being unmarried. Get to know each other but never get too far from that if you want a marriage that lasts till death. See the differences of how people used to live before and how long their marriage lasts and to those people of today, what kind of marriages do they have.
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@thesids (22358)
• Bhubaneswar, India
12 Oct 11
Are you certain this holds only for marriages? I have seen many relations wither out faster than they used to before. Be it the reasons of Materialism, or even the fact that things are accessible and it is easy to access them but the fact is that most of today's generation needs changes and things that do not get static. Also they dont want responsibilities to come to them and this is another reason that many stay without marriage or end up their marriages. I am quite happy with what I have - a loving wife, a few caring friends - most of them are from MyLot and have become a partof my life now. I am quite hopeful that the world will change for good in the days to come and things like broken relationships, broken marriages etc will become a thing of the past.
@eseulhan (199)
• Philippines
12 Oct 11
yes there maybe a lot of reasons but it ends to one thing a broken marriage so sad. Wow! good for you, you have found a loving wife i hope i could have a successful marriage in the future:-). goodluck!!
@viju0410 (2286)
• India
12 Oct 11
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@peninpin (17)
• India
12 Oct 11
hi more then this now days people are dont like to live life with comittement that is main reason why marriage break up very soon, and also old days are contained family, relation but this things are gone, many marriage love marriage which they them before marriage and end that after marriage.
@eseulhan (199)
• Philippines
12 Oct 11
yes your right! people nowadays doesnt want commitment anymore. they just want an easier life that if once they get tired of something then its easy to leave it behind and find again another that would satisfy their needs more.
@didi13 (2927)
• Romania
17 Oct 11
Suddenly a man came to understand that life is too short, wants as many experiences. And what's more interesting than anything experienced a human being? I do not condemn divorce, blame, rather, marriages that are chains, it seems right and good that two people stay together as long as you are comfortable with each other , how have you to say, how important is each to each. "Do not tie me, you can go when you want, even if my heart hurts because I love you still, if you feel that Go!"
• United States
13 Oct 11
I think you are 100% wrong. Marriages only "lasted" before because no one was allowed to ever get divorced, either legally, financially or socially. You had no choice. It has nothing to do with marriage being a "mystery", it has to do with options and being able to actually pursue your own happiness. Women did not have lives other than being wives. They could not get jobs and they often had very little education. They relied completely on their husband, no matter what problems there were in the relationship or how unhappy they were, they had no where else to go. There is NO such thing as doing "too much" before marriage. There is NO reason marriage should be anything more than legal paperwork. You should be with someone because you are happy with them, not because you feel trapped or obligated.
@shanemae (1025)
• Philippines
13 Oct 11
i might as well agree with your point. couples now are rushing things unlike the couples before who respects much their partners that they will not do anything that would upset their partners. women now are also liberated that they just give in to what men asks not thinking of the possibilities or risks that would happen after. our generation today is more adventurous and many of them are losers who just quit when they don't feel like keeping the relationship anymore. men also now are becoming weaker as women now becomes more tempting and provoking. it's so sad that we are facing this issues in our world today. it's becoming more difficult for us to find men whom we could keep for life.
@eljayo (1107)
• Philippines
13 Oct 11
Hi! In my opinion it is because of premature feeling that they can be forever without even knowing whats the worse with his/her partner.Many people in this generation take for granted the true meaning and essence of marriage.Marriage is not the ultimate happy ending in a relationship but is only the beginning of another phase in life where there are a bulk of responsibilities. So if couples cannot take this responsibilities they end up separating. Especially today where divorce and annulment is legal, they can just do it. What a sad reality.
@anne25penn (3310)
• Philippines
13 Oct 11
I have a lot of married friends. Some have successful marriages, some don't. I am not making a generalization here, but when asked they all agreed that the factor that has either made their marriage work or not is communication. It is true that a lot of spouses fall out of love because they are no longer able to reach out to their partner. And those little quirks or misunderstandings become blown out of proportion when an argument arises. Marriage has indeed just become a piece of paper. But people who marry should look beyond that piece of paper, not think that it is some contract that they should adhere to. Think more about the person they married and why they got married in the first place.
• India
13 Oct 11
The reasons you mentioned for the quick wilting of marriages nowadays are very true. Earlier divorce cases were considered to be exceptions, but in today's time successful marriages seem to be exceptions. Hats off to people who truly love their companion and are loyal towards them. Hope people understand that marriage is the most beautiful relation on this earth. It brings two unknown people together and entwine them with the threads of love, care and romance. They just need to handle their relationship with care, understanding and patience and surely their relationship will last forever.
• Philippines
13 Oct 11
Not only marriages end up so fast, so do relationships between unmarried couples. It's not uncommon nowadays to hear couples breaking up and then having an illegitimate baby. There are so many single parents out there - many are coming from failed relationships. It is a sad observation. Many just aren't serious with relationships anymore. They just enter relationships just for the sake of having a romantic partner. They keep on committing the same mistakes from one partner to another. They never learn. They always run into circles. Meet someone new, fall in love, break up, and the cycle repeats. With regards to your question, I do agree that doing these things before they get married will somehow make their marriage boring. In fact, marriage isn't as sacred as before anymore. It's only a document. It is only optional nowadays. Many people live together but do not marry at all.
@rjkolth (27)
• Philippines
13 Oct 11
Because nowadays, the number of people who are getting married are more younger these days... some are just getting married because of unexpected pregnancy these days... and they don't know each other that much, and when the times they are living in one roof, they discover some traits on each other that annoys them that leads into a simple argument causing to end up their marriage... I knew some friends who ends up this way.... All I can advise is you should know the person you'll going to marry, accept him/her whatever good or bad traits he/she have.
@vasumathi (438)
• India
12 Oct 11
I think couples these days dont have patience until both understand each other. Ego problems is also one of the major issue.
• Philippines
12 Oct 11
Most marriages these days don't last too long. I agree with what you've said. Marriages in the past worked more than today's marriages. I don't really know the reason for this. But maybe, it could be due to those things you've mentioned. After marriage, there is nothing interesting anymore since they've done everything before getting married the things that a married couple are supposed to do.
• China
12 Oct 11
The phenomeon does exist today,as to me,the key to the situation may be lacking of communication between couples who live under great stress and have little time with family.
@kukueye (1761)
• Malaysia
12 Oct 11
YEs, sadly nowsday human being are not what they used to be,many quit things faster and not last long , maybe due to different times where now there is internet and people are actually easier communicated but fake, where no need talk face to face and also temptation is higher now.Maybe parental upbringing is part of the course and mix with society that wants things faster but no quality.
• United States
12 Oct 11
This materialistic world has destroyed the relations and this problem is increasing day by day. The reason why the relations are broken is non-understanding between the two. The individuals are lost in this materialistic word and then they don't care for their sacred relations even.
@ravinskye (8242)
• United States
12 Oct 11
I think part of the reason is that people never should have gotten married in the first place. There is such a pressure in life that you should get married. So people think they are in love and jump into a marriage they aren't ready for. I think too, the stress of being married is so strong right now with the economy failing that people have to work harder to survive and therefore have less time to tend to each others needs. I think too, with all the technology available it is easier to go outside your relationship.
@ckciasigurl (1570)
• Vienna, Austria
12 Oct 11
hi eseulhan maybe because of many reasons like there marriages didn't success because they do not have trust to one another , both partners doesn't love one another , they are not contented on there partners that's why there are some third parties, and the marriages are "fixed marriages" it is really difficult to involve in a marriage especially if you are not sure on your partner.
@shrmanoj (384)
12 Oct 11
Because now the people are money minded and lots of people end up marriages only because of money.
@viju0410 (2286)
• India
12 Oct 11
A committed relation created with understanding, love and trust can last longer than expected. Do you think so after marriage love can be a boring stuff? The marriages these days break easily as both the couples have less patience and they both want freedom in their own way. I don't think so marriage is just a paper work but a friendship based on love and trust. I have been married for 14 years now and I really don't think its boring!
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
12 Oct 11
Actually in my case which my married life say happy because I've ready for this responsibility my wife as well. My point is most the relationship are all emotional and feeling only,they are not ready to face any responsibility, they are not ready to sacrifice for the sake of family instead they are felt bored and annoyed... which the end result is partways...