Believing What People Tell Me Is My Worsed Trait. What's Yours?
By Janey1966
@Janey1966 (24170)
Carlisle, England
October 12, 2011 7:39am CST
There was one person in particular whereby I used to believe everything he said (until it was too late) lol.
For example; he told me that when I was at work he would get some ladders from the landlord downstairs and take many of my vinyl albums up into the loft "for safe-keeping." As we didn't have much room in the flat I went along with it..so seeing a few of my LPs "missing" didn't bother me at all...
Until we split up that is.
He once told me that it was "haunted" in the loft, which is why he wasn't going to go up there ever again.
He told me if I ever wanted the LPs back (after our split), then I should contact the landlord..which I did.
You know what's coming right?
Absolutely NO LPs were up in that loft. They had all been sold off behind my back. We were only in that particular flat for less than a year, so I reckon he must've sold them at an alarming rate.
As for the numbers involved..hard to tell but it MUST be about 50 at least. Fortunately, I do have about 100 of them left but - I dunno, a vinyl collection means more to me than CDs (and I've sold lots of those lately) which is why I'm definitely keeping hold of the LPs I have left!
Isn't it annoying when we're taken for a ride like that? Are you the same? Too trusting for your own good?
He told me if I ever wanted the LPs back (after our split), then I should contact the landlord..which I did.
You know what's coming right?
Absolutely NO LPs were up in that loft. They had all been sold off behind my back. We were only in that particular flat for less than a year, so I reckon he must've sold them at an alarming rate.
As for the numbers involved..hard to tell but it MUST be about 50 at least. Fortunately, I do have about 100 of them left but - I dunno, a vinyl collection means more to me than CDs (and I've sold lots of those lately) which is why I'm definitely keeping hold of the LPs I have left!
Isn't it annoying when we're taken for a ride like that? Are you the same? Too trusting for your own good?1 person likes this
9 responses
@changjiangzhibin89 (16534)
• China
13 Oct 11
Fortunately,you finished with him .If I may say so,He was out and out a crook.I guess you had scanty experience of life then and are kindhearted.You should remember what I have mentioned before "a fall into the pit,a gain in your wit".
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
13 Oct 11
I have learned from that experience, which was 20 years ago, would you believe. However, I didn't fully trust anyone until I met my present husband in 2003. I don't pretend to be perfect myself but I cannot stand it when I'm lied to. I can cope with the odd lie here and there (just about) but not a constant stream of them on a daily basis.
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@changjiangzhibin89 (16534)
• China
14 Oct 11
There is no pure gold ,so is human.It is important for one to be honest and kindhearted.
@musicman6 (2406)
• United States
12 Oct 11
No, it is not one of my problems, but my x-wife had a real problem with trusting everyone, even strangers! Some of her friends would steal money and other things from us, and she would even trust people we didn't even know!
I on the other hand didn't trust anybody, and didn't believe any of the hard luck stories, panhandlers would tell us, I knew they were just scams ! Even when I loaned out money, I would always hold collateral, to insure that I would get my money back!
But, one of the problems I have is, I start projects sometimes, and sometimes I lose interest and not finish them ! That to me is a real problem, and irritating !
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
12 Oct 11
I lose interest in things too. If I ever took up knitting I reckon I would never finish the jumper (or whatever) as I'd get fed up half way through.
I'm wondering if it's a women only thing..this trusting lark!
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@musicman6 (2406)
• United States
12 Oct 11
I'm not sure because I have met some men that are like that also !
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
13 Oct 11
I always wanted to believe what people told me too but come to find out, most of what they said, were lies. i have a hard time trusting anything people say anymore.
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
13 Oct 11
It's so upsetting when that happens. No matter how old I've been there has always been someone who lies through their back teeth.
Fortunately, I don't get out much..just me and hubby!
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
15 Oct 11
I too, was taken for a ride when I moved in this place some 8 years ago. I didn't have a job to speak of, so when this guy I just met, who told me was from the same city I used to live, offered me a job in his company, I grabbed the opportunity. He even offered me an advance so I could get myself set up for the job. But he didn't have cash with him, so we had to do some transactions at an ATM.
To make a long story short, at the end of the day, I realized I lost myself a grand.
Silly naive me!
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
14 Oct 11
That is a story that really does show that trustworthiness may rather turn to something not so good. I think that I am too nice, perhaps not too trusting however. I think that many people mistake my niceness for being overly trustworthy about them. Actually at one time I was a rather trustworthy person. A young and naive teenager, who happily lent out money to his friends when they were a few dollars short. They swore up and down that they were going to pay me back to say the very least.
Needless to say that never really happened. I am just thankful that I didn't lend out any of my personal possessions, at least none that I am going to recall at the time. That story is one that proves that you can trust someone and it is a very painful lesson that not every single person is worth your trust. That is just that really simple to say the very least. I learned the harsh lesson as well, that being nice might not be the best policy about ten percent of the time. People get the mistaken impression then can walk all over you.
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
14 Oct 11
At least the person I am with now wouldn't dream of doing something like that..and the vinyl case I brought up from Mum's only holds 50 and I can tell none of them are missing lol.
The rest are at my Mum's house. It's a shame I don't have all of them but - never mind, we learn through our mistakes, that's for sure. Not everyone can be perfect!
The rest are at my Mum's house. It's a shame I don't have all of them but - never mind, we learn through our mistakes, that's for sure. Not everyone can be perfect!
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
15 Oct 11
Oh yes I use to be way over trusting and it was the lessons and consequences later that taught me that this can no longer be. I have become a must see to believe type person now a days and usually will not believe without concrete proof anymore.
I am by no means a perfect person, but want to trust my own gut instincts as it is me later who suffers alone.
@thedailyclick (3017)
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12 Oct 11
I used to be very trusting but over the years I’ve gone completely opposite and barely trust anyone these days. Far too often you end up being let down, lie to, tricked and so on.
But I suppose my worse trait is that I will do anything for the easy life to the point that I would rather let things build up inside than confront people over issues. I’ve done it all my life, always trying to just lead an easy life, burying my head in the sand at difficulties and avoiding confronting issues of all sorts and whilst I know that I will beat myself up later on over not dealing with something or confronting someone I still do it.
That’s probably why I keep on holding out for that big lottery win so I can leave this country and buy myself some isolated island and lead an easy life free of issues and confrontations.
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
12 Oct 11
Remember to contact me before you go
..I quite fancy living on an island, away from it all..bit like Richard Branson. He's rich enough to do this and I don't really blame him..I would too in his shoes.
..I quite fancy living on an island, away from it all..bit like Richard Branson. He's rich enough to do this and I don't really blame him..I would too in his shoes.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
12 Oct 11
Once upon a time I was the kind of person that was too trusting for my own good. However, when I learned that someone that I had trusted had never told me a true statement, I learned that it wasn't in my best interest to trust people. That was about 11 years ago and in the time that has passed since then, there have been very few people that I've actually been able to trust. I am able to trust my children and I'm able to trust my husband in addition to my family that I knew before all of this happened.
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
13 Oct 11
I do know what you mean. I am less trustful than I was before I met the liar and the cheat lol BUT the guy I'm with now isn't perfect (and neither am I, although I don't lie) but he is very kind..something that was severely lacking in past relationships.
I'm more wary of women now, actually..especially in the workplace, not that I have that to worry about at the moment!
@pinklady3068 (22)
• United States
12 Oct 11
That is horribale what he did to you! He abused your turst,and that's not your fault,it's his.Yeah, I have put my turst in somone completly just to have it abused.I don't think that there really is a way to protect your self from someone who is dishonest. It's kind of a hit or miss kind of thing.I think that soon you will be able to find someone that you can put your turst in again.
