who do you vote good listener or good good speaker?

India
October 12, 2011 11:52am CST
In today's competitive and communicative world, is it better to be good listener or a good speaker. I go for good listener as he could be having good patience levels and keen observing power than a good speaker.Send me all your options or ideas regarding this type of discussion.
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@krajibg (11940)
• Guwahati, India
12 Oct 11
Hello anusha, welcome to mylot. This is a general tendency that when there is a gossip over some incident or on back biting you would see more talkers than the listeners. This talking more and listening less is not only their things but men too are there to talk. In my view or as I myself practice, If some one is on my door, I let him/her talk first and when he is finished I take the stride and his problem is if not gone there would be positive hangover. In concluding the subject I say some time when situation requires I need to talk more and more just to supress the person.
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• Philippines
12 Oct 11
hello, there. I believe that you have a perfect approach as regards interacting with people. Everyone who comes to our door have a reason to be there. Always, it is because, they need to tell you something. After they have let out that reason, they will need to listen to what you have to say about it. There will always be a time to talk and a time to listen. It takes patience to listen attentively while the other person talks and, it requires wisdom to be able to give him a proper answer to that.
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@krajibg (11940)
• Guwahati, India
12 Oct 11
Hi trinidadvelasco, Your input was crystal clear. You must have marked in all individual that in every word they utter there is the pronoun "I". So it focuses on our selfishness. Why not "you" tat I could pay heed to what he has to say. And the truth is not listening others makes us egocentric. Thank you.
@boyuancy (1709)
• India
22 Nov 11
A good speaker gets my vote. In today's world just listening and doing nothing about it is considered a sign of weakness. SO good speaker all the way.
@ritzz07 (791)
• India
13 Oct 11
hi anusha i think good listner can be a good speaker however good speaker cannot be a good listner afterall active listening matters. also i think good listner is like a sponge which have ability to absorb everything like sponge can absorb all amount of liquid. thank you have a great day
• Philippines
13 Oct 11
For me it's both because if there's a good speaker, there should be a good listener to listen and if there's a good listener, there should be a speaker to listen to. But if I really have to choose, I would go for a listener because for me, I feel more comfortable with this kind of person.
• Philippines
13 Oct 11
I will go for a good listener. The world needs one. A lot of people wants to speak their mind and one common reason why their is arguments is because nobody wants to listen everybody wants to speak. I am a good listener as what my friends told me. I love listening to peoples minds and ideas.
@WakeUpKitty (8707)
• Netherlands
12 Oct 11
It is hard to vote between of them. It depends on what you need or want what is the best at that moment. A good listener is useless if he is not a good speaker. A good speaker can only know what to say, how to reach people if he knows what is going on in other people. So he needs to have an open eye, open mind and be a good observer too. So if I really need to make a choice I vote for the good speaker! He will be able to explain things clearly, also be a great salesman.
• Philippines
12 Oct 11
The world is full of people who have lots of things to talk about and thus, always, we will hear that there is a shortage of good listeners throughout the world. Look around you though. Everywhere you turn your head to, you will find that almost everyone loves to have a good speaker around them. Those who do perfect sweet talks have lots of friends. Swindlers are such sweet talkers so people give unto them that they wish. Beware of sweet talkers, they are mostly deceivers. But all of us love people who make lively conversations. They always know how to keep the conversation alive and going well.