What if your best friend hurts you when you are in depression???

@siri26 (331)
India
October 14, 2011 12:44am CST
Some it happens that our own people or best friends do hurt us when we are in depression and our life is in peak situation. Sometimes by knowingly or unknowingly they hurt us. If knowingly they hurts then what ??After hurting if they realize their mistake and saying sorry to you and still you not yet convinced and not able to continue the same kind of relationship? Before that incident they are the people who cares you lot and now they are the one who is hurting you. What we need to do? For me it will take time to maintain the same but knowing them very well I will try to understand and will continue the relationship. But again and again if they are repeating the same I don't wanna hurt myself. Because if we are depressed and again some near people hurts us that lead to any extent and there is a chances of losing hope in life. What will you do if your are in the same situation???
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7 responses
@Triple0 (1907)
• Australia
14 Oct 11
I can totally relate to this situation, when I'm depressed, I never show it, my friends may joke around with me but I may take it too seriously or personally and my depression just gets even worse. I don't show it because I don't want to act too selfish and have my friends after me asking what's wrong with me because that makes me feel vulnerable. I simply lock it up in my head and think about it at home. After a few days, I get over it and my friends don't tend to hurt me often, just some accidentally words that they say but don't mean that triggers it. But I love my friends and no one is perfect. I have friends who hurt each other and don't even realize but I do because I'm very observant and I know the feeling of depression. We just got to help each other with our flaws but there are friends who simply go overboard. Those friends are best to avoid.
@siri26 (331)
• India
14 Oct 11
ya what ever you said is correct. But as a human being sometimes we need some helping hand when ever we are in adverse situation. It's not always possible to keep the problem with in us. I am talking about that situation.
@SIMPLYD (81306)
• Philippines
14 Oct 11
Sometimes, inflicting some pain to a depressed person is needed. If your friend did it , so that you will be challenged to fight your depression, then you should even thank her.
@siri26 (331)
• India
14 Oct 11
If it's motivational kind really we should thank her. But rather than hurting it's better we make them understand the situation and motivate them. May be sometimes based on the situation what ever you said is true
@EdnaReyes (2628)
• Philippines
14 Oct 11
If they hurt us in those situation we better rethink and reassess our relationship with them. Friends who hurt you during your most fragile moment is not a true friend and we must stay away from them.
@siri26 (331)
• India
14 Oct 11
Ya. I agree. We should rethink and and reassess.
• United States
18 Oct 11
If my best friend hurt me and didn't say I'm sorry , he would cease to be my best friend. A best friend should know about 90% of what upsets you . And with that 10%, once you tell them you are upset , they Stop saying or doing it! Now after you tell them , if they Still do it , they are no friend! The relationship is over.
@vasumathi (438)
• India
16 Oct 11
I dont know, what could i have been did at this situation, i feel like, a good and trusted friend dont do that, if they had understood properly.
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
14 Oct 11
Depressed people always wants to hear encouraging words from anyone, friends, family members, and strangers of whom we told our problems. Friends, specifically real friends, acts mean most of the time. They hurt us with their honest opinions and offensive words. But sometimes those are the things we don't see in us but they have analyzed for us. It is like waking us up from our bad dream and realizing that what we sometimes think is right is actually wrong. I've been depressed before and I have many times felt hurt and develop a bit anger on my friends... but they are still my friends now. Because I know they have said those things unintentionally, they are just being true to me. And I realized I have done such thing to them too... offended and hurt them with my words, but they take it just as i take their mean words sometimes. From there we will sometimes realize that they are right. But it always depends on the situation, if they hurt you physically then that's a different story =) Friends who never tell you bad things are sometimes those you should beware of. just saying....
@LarienOB (103)
• China
14 Oct 11
i think you should learn to forgive him