mY SISTER'S Love story

@Greninee (369)
Philippines
October 14, 2011 4:25am CST
hey mylotters,as requested by my sister...I'm going to share her love story.She and her boyfriend has been together for 4 years. But that 4 years didn't make her totally happy but that four years gave her a lot of many doubts and worries. Her bf was an army. due to her bf's career, my sister always have the patience because their time together was not enough. My sister had many doubts because her bf doesn't seem to care about their distance. There are their anniversaries wherein her bf didn't spend time with her. One time,she caught her bf lying. Her BF has another girl. But they tried to work it out but it didn't last because her bf seems to have a secret. My sister is very close to his family. But disappoinment reached my sister because she heard bad things coming from her bf's family especially his mother. They talked bad things about my sister. My mother got angry because until now the issue was still there. They talked about my sister that it was my sister's fault that their relationship ended. It's very hard for my sister. She didn't expect that after all the help that she gave to his family, it was his family that is trying to make her fall to the ground. I want to fight for my sister, but how?
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12 responses
@WakeUpKitty (8707)
• Netherlands
14 Oct 11
Your sister had her doubts, she doesn't trust him he has someone else and his family is blaming your sister. Did she really think that in the end his family would blame their own son? Your sister wasted 4 years or longer of her life, doubting and being unhappy. Do you really think this guy and family is worth more of her and your time and energy? By telling them that their behaviour is not normal and very ungrateful? It's a lost case. Ignore the stupid people around you and start living, having fun. Now it last she can find someone she can trust and who will care about her. Better this way. A brand new start, all chances in the world and no family of an ex still depending on her.
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@viju0410 (2286)
• India
14 Oct 11
hi, feel sorry for your sister as the love story is not working happily for her right now. Please understand why the BF's family is talking so much about your sister when she's not at fault. Be a listener to her and it can't be a fault of a single person if the relation has ended.
@naseemkum (1804)
• India
15 Oct 11
Always that boy's family want to insult ur sister because they dont want to blame their own son. But ur sister needs to be more mature to choose a life partner for her. I think she fails to choose so she had choosen such bad guy.
• Philippines
21 Oct 11
oh, it's sad that things like that could happen after someone ended up the relationship. tell your sister to just cheer up! she must not show to her ex's family that' she's affected with the issue. what happened should motivate her to become a better person, not worthy of all those destructive things she's been hearing about. with regards on how you can help her, just be there for her always. do things that you could make you both happy, dress up together, be beautiful together and ignore those unimportant things being thrown to your sister. happy mylotting!
@naseemkum (1804)
• India
15 Oct 11
I want u to advice ur sister to keep away from that boy and his family. If some insult happen to his family its doesnt matter if its happen to ur sister then she cant be married to another. Just dont fight with ur opponent family. Ur sister wil have bright life just u choose good person to marry ur sister.
• Philippines
15 Oct 11
Just stay by her side, she needs you and your family more than anything now. And as of her bf, just be thankful that he is no longer connected with your sister, your sister deserve more than her xbf, Just let it pass, she has nothing can do with the family of her xbf, even she wanted to clear things out, her bf set in the mind with his family that your sister is the reason why they did not ended up together you can never change that with them. Just go on with her life and always be at her side to cheer her up, and help her to move-on. Hope your sister will soon be move-on.
@llsling (336)
• China
15 Oct 11
I don't know why your sis still stuck up with him during the 4-year doubting realtionship .What kind of responsibility was she held for ? If it ain't working ,it's just not working ,don't bother trying any fixing things .Let go that fagggggg and his mean family ,move ahead with her own happy life.
@Amanda81587 (3046)
• United States
15 Oct 11
I would have to say that your sister is better off. She does not need to be with someone who needs someone else. He cheated and lied. Plus the family seems two faced. If I was her I would be glad to get out of it before there are children involved.
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
14 Oct 11
I guess, there isn't any way to fight back with them. Once is enough to stand up and fight for her. But if they keep talking about it and about your sister, it's always best to let them do the talk. It's what satisfy them. What's important is that you know the truth about everything. People around both families involved might not know the story behind it, but just let them think and analyze. You can't just go to everyone and tell them it isn't your sister's fault. four years is no joke, so try to be there for her and make her mind occupied and happy. Karma is just around the corner =)
• Philippines
14 Oct 11
The best thing you can do for your sister is perhaps to stay with her and assure her that you're always there for her no matter what. Your sister will really feel sad because they've been together for 4 years and that is quite long. Allow your sister to express herself and to let it all out. Tell her that there is still someone out there for her, someone better. The guy doesn't deserve her at all. He didn't even had the guts to defend your sister. She has to move on at some point. Let her show the guy that he doesn't matter to her anymore and that she has moved on with her life.
• Philippines
14 Oct 11
It's sad when relationships ends, especially if the family gets involve and say bad stuff about you. But don't fight them back, because eventually all those things will die down and the truth will come out. And when that time comes, your sister and your family can still walk with your heads up because you have always known the truth.
@maximax8 (28247)
• United Kingdom
14 Oct 11
I think that due to it being 4 years it is especially hard for your sister. It was a shame during their relationship your sister wasn't happy and have many doubts. A long distance relationship can be challenging and communication is necessary when apart. When the man is in the army I realize this is not always possible. Your sister helped his family so they should be grateful. I know that all you can do is be there for your sister in this emotionally tough time. She might want to know that the split up wasn't her fault and that she can in time get over him. If you see her ex's family you should ask them to be nice to your sister. You should point out she helped them. Her ex-boyfriend now has another girl and so this might be hurtful for your sister. It might take her 4 to 6 weeks to get over all this. Good luck to your sister.
@AmbiePam (49081)
• United States
14 Oct 11
Just be there for her when she needs to talk. Love is so tricky. One day a person is angry with their loved one, and the next they are in perfect harmony. Whatever she does, just try to be supportive. You obviously love her, and that is the best possible support possible. You sound like me in how I defend my sister. I'd go to bat for her any minute of the day.