Do you have the guts to say I Love You?

@enelym001 (8333)
Philippines
October 15, 2011 11:09am CST
I know someone who has been afraid of telling a friend how much he loved her. There are reasons that hinders him from doing so. One would be the risk that a friendship might be affected once he revealed the real feelings that has been kept. Second... the person might not feel the same thing towards him. Or, maybe he don't just have the courage to say it straight to her face. Have you ever been in that shoe? Do you have the guts to admit your admiration and love towards someone? Or you just let time pass by and lose that person?
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17 responses
15 Oct 11
Oh Yeah! it's just like playing angry birds.. you go in and hit it no matter what the outcome is... !!
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
16 Oct 11
Lol you made me smile on your words! but be careful who you hit alright? But I guess you're right, we just have to be always emotionally prepared whenever we want to say to someone that we love them... coz we never if the revelation would bring us pain or joy =)
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
17 Oct 11
Hahaha of course smiling is what life makes beautiful. Yeah if you fail you can just try it once more until you succeed... but I hope loving someone won't be considered a a game. The word game seems like the relationship is not real ^^
17 Oct 11
Oh,oops my bad..i didn't mean that way.Yep, Relationship ain't just a GAME. it's more on a serious sense of enhance meaningful commitment towards each other. Unlike Angry Birds..it's just a GAME. :) oh and 1 more thing! do SMILE ALWAYS Mademoiselle belle !
16 Oct 11
If you love someone you should let them know, because you never know they might be feeling the same way.
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
16 Oct 11
hey there i love your name, because that's my blog name as well haha! yes you are right, but that if we are also ready to take the hurt if the person says he can't love you the same... i wish everyone can reciprocate someone's true love so easily..
• United States
16 Oct 11
I agree - it's always better to have love and lost then never to have loved at all!
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
17 Oct 11
I also agree on that, we can always forget the pain of a heartache. not experssing our love to someone we really love and then seeing them with someone else is sometimes a lot more hurtful ...
@sumitn (94)
• India
15 Oct 11
that's really a true and confusing situation ....i think 9 out of every 10 persons fall in love with someone (and in most of the cases with a friend) and also only one out of these 10 have guts to say that I LOVE YOU....well my experience is very nice i too fell in love with someone in my school time but she was not my friend after about two years i got an opportunity when there were just no one else except we two .......i were standing at the door of my class suddenly she started coming out of the class (well she knew that i used to love her because i used to stare her in that way daily)i just touched her hand(wow ..lolz) then she stopped and then somehow i said that all(uff it was so difficult)but you know friend what happened then she refused....:-( ...and told that i just want to study and don't wanna be in this thing....we can be good friends........but surely it was one of the nicest experience of my life.........WOW you remind it and i am thinking it again...:-).....
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
15 Oct 11
hahahah i appreciate you sharing your experience, and I'm happy to make you feel reminiscent on that wonderful yet a bit sad moment with someone you've to love. I sometimes thinks guys who feel shy and takes time admitting their love for someone is something that I can consider real love... the only problem is if the other person isn't in love...
@sumitn (94)
• India
15 Oct 11
yes your words are true about true love...and yes it's only problem that the person loves you or not.....well apart from this all i would like to add here something that love is really a superb thing and i i hope that everyone should have an experience of love.......to love and to be loved are two greatest things of this world....
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
15 Oct 11
Indeed! you will never experience such kind of happiness if you have been loved truly by someone and you love that person as well... it's sometimes really lonely to be out there in the world without someone who cares and loves you. it feels worthless and useless sometimes...
@albto_568 (1268)
• Costa Rica
15 Oct 11
Yes, indeed, I have been in this man´s shoes many times, and I think that the worst part, is the fear of rejection, at least, it was that way with me, but, at some point we have to overcome that fear, because, it is worst, and believe me, not to say anything and see the chance pass by.
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
15 Oct 11
so that would mean you have let a lot of chances passed you by... i definitely agree with you, especially if you don't know that this girl or guy likes you as well... sometimes it is definitely worth taking risks...
@albto_568 (1268)
• Costa Rica
15 Oct 11
Well, I wouldn´t say a lot, but some, I guess that sometimes we have to learn things the tough way. :)
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
16 Oct 11
hahaha yeah and that hurts much especially if you a really in love with the person but isn't willing to reciprocate
@MSniper (25)
• China
18 Oct 11
Yes,I do,but only to my beloved.What do you say?
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
18 Oct 11
I'd keep it too because I am a girl I really feel I have no guts in saying it. But if I am a guy, I would be brave enough to face if I would be rejected or not. Sometimes I wish I am a guy LoL!
• China
18 Oct 11
Well,seems I misunderstood what you were concerning,I think I would be like you in this situation.I just thought you're talking about saying I love you between lovers!
@didi13 (2927)
• Romania
16 Dec 11
There are people who have not the courage to utter this word because: 1. "I love you" to some has a much deeper connotation and find it difficult to pronounce it. 2. Do not say, because I do not feel. 3. To leave the impression that they have not been conquered, as partner to relax and not fight next. 4. For that with "I love you" is like signing a document - "for better or for worse" - and give them the right partner to claims like, "if you love me, why you prefer to go out with friends, instead to stay with me, why did not you given parents, why do not you call me all day ...? ". Many times after that "I love you" attitude and not your partner change for the better. Basically officially become the prisoner voluntarily love / partner and you can not give back. But when the "I love you" is addressed to the right person can be a real blessing. So many do not say (and) fear of losing freedom and not to become the toy of the other (mostly men).
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
10 Jan 12
Great words! Yes I have to agree saying I love you is like signing an agreement that you should be there for one another. Some says I love you and then neglect his/her partner afterwards. I think it's best to assess our feelings first before we tell someone those words. We may just feel attracted to the person and mistaken it as love.
@thatgirl13 (7307)
• South Korea
17 Oct 11
I actually liked someone but never had the guts to tell him. I still haven't and I don't think he has any idea. Though the feelings have passed now, I still sometimes wonder how we would have ended up if I told him how I felt. He is a good friend of mine and still is. I will tell him sometime in the future how I felt of him in the past, just to see what he feels.
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
18 Oct 11
I think that girls normally have no guts to opening up one's feeling for a guy. But goodluck to you girl I'd be looking forward to that revelation you are gonna make with your friend.
• India
16 Oct 11
Love is one of the most beautiful things and love should be told to the person at the right time so that everything is preserved.
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
10 Jan 12
I agree with you. It gives us an indescribable feeling of happiness. So if we love someone we must find the courage to tell it to the person at the right time. We might win someone's heart and love us in return.
@rjkolth (27)
• Philippines
16 Oct 11
I believe that action speaks louder than words. For me if I love someone if prefer giving a hint and show how much I love and care for them. The word " I love you" is so easy to recite, and it's depend on how you say those words.
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
18 Oct 11
Indeed, when I was younger and have a boyfriend whom I don't really love - i just like him lol... He always asked me why I don't say the words "I Love You" to him. I can't of course tell him that the reason is I just like him. I tell him saying I love you are just words... it's easy to say, everyone can say it and you don't actually know if they mean it or not. It's better putting it into action that saying it.
@BabyFund (24)
• United States
16 Oct 11
I would like to think I'm the kind of person to go ahead and say, "I love you." But even I find it hard to just say it. Saying something that is supposed to hold so much meaning to someone you truly care for is both nerve-racking, and awkward when you have no idea what the other party thinks of you. Unrequited love is a painful thing to experience and I've been in that boat once. There was a boy I liked a while ago. We were friends, good friends and I slowly developed budding affections that were more than just a crush. When I finally told him how I felt, he didn't seemed interested and I felt pretty miserable for a while. But now that I'm older, I feel ok with telling him because you also don't want to live with yourself wandering "What if?" No one likes rejection, but I believe it's worse not to say something. If you're not sure how someone feels, it's good to watch how the behave around you and other people.
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
16 Oct 11
I agree with you. The best way to know if someone likes you as well is to try to see how he behaves or treats you. And normally through other people around you, like your common friends, will reveal through their words or gestures if someone likes you too. Your brave telling him what you feel even though you are not sure if he loves you too. There was a classmate in high school I don't know he had a crush on me. At those times I liked him too. But we both never reveal our feelings, until we got the chance to chat online after so many years. But at that time he was already married with kids while I'm still single. If only both of us are brave enough.... ^^ But anyway, I have no regrets anymore, maybe that was just a puppy love ^^
• United States
15 Oct 11
Enelym001 Hey I was once in this situation but love is something special, there is the possibility that it can ruin or reward a relationship but you will never know until you express yourself or you will have the regrets of no knowing. I was hurt so many times by love, but first you got to love God, self then others but never not know tell him that this could be that great chance of a life time so don't pass it by.....
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
10 Jan 12
I agree with you if someone loves a friend, I'd say try to tell the person. You may never know the other feels the same way and it could lead to a beautiful romance.
• Yemen
15 Oct 11
Ofcourse I have been in this situation more than once...iIts easy to fall in love with a friend Because you know that person for some time, know the likes and dislikes and the similarities between the 2. the hardest part is telling a friend I love you, though these 3 words seem so simple to utter, they carry a lot of weight. I believe its much easier telling a friend I love you coz, you easily know how to approach her than approaching a total stranger......
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
10 Jan 12
Yes I do believe as well that it's easy to say it a friend, but that is if you are definite that this friend will feels the same for you. Some friends don't feel mutual about the other friend. One may fall but the other may feel it's just plain friendship that s/he likes for the person.
@GemmaR (8526)
15 Oct 11
I was in love with a very close friend of mine for four years before I had the guts to say anything to him about it. I did tell him eventually, and he said that he felt the same, but then something went wrong which meant that our relationship was ruined and we could no longer be friends which is a shame. However, I do think that you should always tell people how you feel and be truthful with them, because you never know when they're going to feel the same about you, and it could really grow into something beautiful.
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
16 Oct 11
wow i admire your courage on opening up your real feelings for a guy. I always think that guys are suppose to be the one who has to say and has the courage to admit his love for the other. But I always admire girls like you that isn't afraid of doing such, because honestly, I cannot. I am always afraid of rejection. Good thing that both of you mutually likes each other, but so sad to know that it didn't work out eventually. Well at least you never have to wonder what happens if you didn't tell him. =)
@siri26 (331)
• India
15 Oct 11
my friend faced same situation form a guy who has no guts to say I LOVE YOU. They were good friends and one day he called her while he was drunk and said he loves her. But the very next day he said that was lie. But actually he loves her. The poor girl was in confused state and she reacted the same way. Finally they lost even friendship because of his cowardliness. So it's better if anybody feels like that say it .
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
17 Oct 11
Wow he was such a crazy coward guy. I wouldn't want someone like that. He had the chance already and all he has to know is to see what will be the girls reaction. I think this guy is afraid of commitments..
18 Oct 11
For me its better to tell to that someone what you really fell because who knows that person also waiting for you to tell the truth.What if that person fell the way as you are. Thus you can fell regret in the end when that person will lose you totally without knowing.
• United States
16 Oct 11
It is common for someone to choose and send their friend/confidant to "drop the bomb". On the other hand people have different cultural backgrounds. In some cultures, it'd be wrong to actually go and face a would be spouse to tell them I Love you. If one wanted to make their interest known, he/she usually sends the message through an intermediary. The idea here is that the message is conveyed by a messenger and the real parties involved don't actually have to face each other. So whoever is rejected doesnt get the real punch...
@surekharathi (14134)
• India
16 Oct 11
Friend three types of love one we can tell to our family members I love you and other is our friends and the last but not least is we can tell to our husband I love you. But the difference is when we love with our husband then born chintu, mintu and pintu hahaha..I read this sentence in fanta's discussion. I can tell to my every girlfriend I love you because I am also a girl haha...