confused so much

@kaeirole (669)
Philippines
October 16, 2011 8:45pm CST
i'm a little bit confused...i'm a licensed nurse for almost 3 years ..but i only had 5moths experience as a trainee..i've gone through the hardships of being a nurse..i failed in the NCLEX exams; got relationship problem with my father because of the result; then my application to a tertiary private hospital was rejected..i went through depression because i felt im a failure..i tried to look for another job, but in almost 4 months of applying to different companies, i still end up rejected.. now, i'm planning to study again but in the field of IT..am i doing the right thing? not to mention with my age, but i'm worried that i'll be rejected because i'll be older when i'll finish the IT course..
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@allknowing (68668)
• India
17 Oct 11
If I were you I would reappear for those NCLEX exams whatever they mean. But what is important here is that you must like being a nurse and if that is the case what are you waiting for. Go for your exams and come out with flying colours and then you will have jobs knocking at your door.
@kaeirole (669)
• Philippines
17 Oct 11
yes..that's exactly the issue..i don't know if i really like to be nurse..like what i mentioned on my other comments, nursing wasn't my choice..it was my parents decision for me to take up.. i was thinking..since i love programming..then if i can finish the course in programming, i'll be able to incorporate it to nursing..coz here in the philippines, most hospitals still have those paperfull and untidy charts..
@allknowing (68668)
• India
17 Oct 11
Please do a survey of the job market and see if there is a demand for the kind of qualifications that you are planning for. As per my knowledge you cannot mix nursing and programming. Programming is an activity for which one does not have to be a nurse. It is a software that is available in the market which the hospital normally buys and someone has to put it into practice. Just a thought.
@kaeirole (669)
• Philippines
17 Oct 11
yes i know..nursing and programming are way too far from each other..but i think i can incorporate it also..because IT is getting incorporated to other fields..because how will the programmer know what the client really needs if he don't understand the field that his client is into..banking nowadays becomes hitech because of IT.. thanks for the thought allknowing..discussions like this really help a lot to people like me..
@eljayo (1107)
• Philippines
18 Oct 11
Hi! Choose what makes you happy. Nurses this days are really having a hard time finding jobs that is related to their field.Life must go on.Just be positive.
@kaeirole (669)
• Philippines
19 Oct 11
yeah..nurses are really having a hard time finding a job that is related to their field..and nurses here in the phippines are over populated..and it is increasing every year..and so does the unemployed rate..
@toniganzon (53206)
• Philippines
18 Oct 11
I'm 33 and yet i am thinking of getting another course. When you decide to do something, it's not because of the financial gain that you can get from it. Is it really something that you'd like to do? Because no matter how hard we try in achieving something but it's not what our heart really longs for, it should still be too difficult. Decide what you really want to do in your life. Make a plan, seek for God's help if you believe in him. If you are comfortable with it, then go for it. If you have doubts, i think it's not something that's for you. Good luck!
@kaeirole (669)
• Philippines
18 Oct 11
you're right..as long as i'm happy with it, i should do it..and yes, it's something that i really love to do.. thank you miss toniganzon..
• United States
18 Oct 11
It is a common knowledge that most Parents do influence their children's decision making towards a career path that needs to be taken,unfortunately in some cases it is rather imposed and forced upon with much disregard to child's interests,wishes and well being.....I can never understand the logic of such behavior.so is the action that a lot of children do,trying their hardest to please their Parents. We live in a society where our elders are to be treated with utmost respect,to be followed,to look up to with high regard,to emulate and everything else that comes with age,experiences in life,wisdom and them having the know it all mentality. As for us children we always feel like as if we are stuck between a rock and a hard place,confused and not knowing what to do or say,to disagree is out of question for it may hurt their feelings and be viewed as an ingrate disrespectful child. Have a heart to heart talk with your Father,tell him all your worries,plans and aspiration in life...I know that it's easier said than done,but you're not getting any younger and to go through life having regrets and thoughts of the what ifs,the what could have been is the worst possible feeling one can have... If you have the means to do the things you wanna do go for it,but it looks like you still live with your Parents and unemployed at the moment. How about going Abroad?work for a year or two save money and then pursue whatever it is that will make you happy. LIFE'S too short,living your life miserably will make it even shorter.
@kaeirole (669)
• Philippines
18 Oct 11
i already tried to tell my father what i felt..but it's only through sms..i know it sound not appropriate..but it's the only way i know that he'll hear me..because if i'll talk to him, he won't listen..he always changes the topic, or even raise his voice..i'm always afraid that he'll get mad at me. i want to try abroad before..but i realized that if i'll just rely on what i learned and on my short experiences as a nurse, i won't be able to get a good job..i also don't want to do what others are doing just to be able to work abroad..and that is, they cheat with their work experiences..some would give a false document for their work experience..and i don;t want to jeopardize my license, my life and the lives of my patients.... yes, life's really too short..and i don't want to live miserable because i still want to enjoy life..and i hope i'm on the right track now..
• Philippines
17 Oct 11
I do feel your pain. I have undergone several phases of rejection in my life. Do not ever give up. If nursing is what you really love then go for it. So what if you will be working in a tertiary private hospital the important thing is that you have work and you are serving the sick. Just continue showing love to your father. He might have pin his hopes too high in your career to give them a better life ( which to my opinion is something that I will not impose on my daughter).
@kaeirole (669)
• Philippines
17 Oct 11
it's true..my father really pinned his hopes too high on me..i don't know if he understood my point when i partially air-out my feelings when i was at my down point...and now, he's giving me a chance to whether finish the course that i started before i took up nursing, or not..
@umabharti (3976)
• India
17 Oct 11
So are u trying for a public sector that is government job and seeing that u get settled firmly or else are u trying your self in a private sector,as you will be getting good income and there will be upgradation all the time.Which IT course are doing at present.
@kaeirole (669)
• Philippines
17 Oct 11
here in the philippines, it's hard to get a job in a government hospital..unless you know a higher rank official that can refer you in it..private hospitals are quite hard also because some private hospitals hire applicants who graduated on their affiliated schools..and some also still needs a powerful person to refer you in it and be hired without hassle.. because of the present situation here in my country, im thinking to venture to other field which i like..and that is programming..
@katrinapaz (2438)
• Philippines
17 Oct 11
hi there kairole and welcome to mylot. i am a nurse too and it took me 2 years to get into a hospital. it is really very difficult because of the competition and the small number of hospitals. i suggest you choose a career path that you really love so that you will enjoy it.
@kaeirole (669)
• Philippines
17 Oct 11
really?it took you 2 years? since you're from cebu also, have you heard the news from pna last month? that they are encouraging unemployed nurses to venture other field because of the present situation of nursing in our country..and im actually thinking of their advice, since this wasn't my choice during my college years..and im not sure if i really love nursing...
@Hatley (164507)
• Garden Grove, California
17 Oct 11
hi kaeirole if you are licensed you have had a lot of training and y ou should do some more studying and see if you can pass thee nclex exams , this must be something in the Philippines as I am not familiar with it here in the US.If you can take those exams over' again I would really study and try for that,it might help the busted relationship with your father,he is really no helping you with his attitude I would also apply to many other hospitals were I you..I would stick to nursing first as its a shame to waste your training.I am going to pray for you that you get to take those exams over and pass them with flying colors.
@kaeirole (669)
• Philippines
17 Oct 11
thanks for that hatley..i really need prayers..i know i really need a lot of training and continuous studying with these profession.. but i'm not sure if i really love nursing, though caring to other people makes me happy..nursing wasn't in my choices when i was in college..my parents were the ones who decided it..they forced me to stop the course i started, which is computer science, and shift to nursing..so i really tried my best to finish it and gain a license in my country..but those bad things that happened to me made me feel that im not for nursing field.. :( i hope my mind will be enlightened sooner..
@aquacan (216)
• China
20 Oct 11
We all know the meaning of "follow your heart". Without passion and enthusiathm, we are not able to devote all the effort to our career. In my mind, this has nothing to do with your age. We can get started any time we are ready. Now the only thing for you to do is to make clear what is your interest and what you wonna spend your whole life on. If you really are determined to chase what you love, I think any obstacle wouldn't be a problem.
@nurseclare (2210)
• Philippines
19 Oct 11
You know that i had a ahrd time answering you this when we had our seriosu talk but all i can say is everything happens for a reason. And i will pray for you.jUST TAKE THINGS SLOW, I know God HAS GReat plans for you.Just follow your heart, what makes you really happy then follow it..Godbless karole