Will you ever really know me?

vodka for all - just to help you think a bit
@saphrina (31739)
South Africa
October 17, 2011 10:09am CST
Well, as some people always tell me, no matter how long you are with someone or how well you think you know them, you will NEVER really know a person. Whether you have been together for a long time, married for ages or whatever the case may be. To really know someone seem so impossible. But, when it comes to me as a person i am like an open book to my loved ones. By now, they ought to know me, don't you think? How well do you really know those who are close to you? Here, have some vodka while thinking on it.
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@Jlyn10 (10913)
• Malaysia
17 Oct 11
Cheers - Having vodka with Saphy
Oh, I know all my family members very well except for my brother cause he doesn't talk much with us. He's more reserved and keep things to himself. As for you, you are the best. And I know that you are very good with your whips. Very sweet of you to offer us your vodka. Cheers!
@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
17 Oct 11
Maybe you should get your brother to be more open sweetie. That ought to give you a great relationship. Anyway, thank you so kindly. Whips are with Prime today. Let's get drunk.
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@Jlyn10 (10913)
• Malaysia
17 Oct 11
I know, both my parents are already gone and I really want us siblings to be close with each other, me, my 2 sisters and my brother. Oh yes, I do feel like getting drunk today.
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@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
17 Oct 11
You will eventually sweetie. Okay, lets drink then. Where is that damn waiter?
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• Philippines
18 Oct 11
hi dear, OH my I miss everyone including you For me even how long you know that person there are times you will be surprise with their attitudes it can disappointing and not. Where is the vodka then? miss yah
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@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
18 Oct 11
Actually, I thought I've known you that much. But...when I saw you drunk, gosh,I've seen the real you
• Philippines
18 Oct 11
oh yeah but you never see the very wild side of me
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@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
18 Oct 11
What?...still not the bad side eh? Okay,next time let me see that bad side honey
@khare_1005 (1310)
• India
17 Oct 11
oh looks like am late for the party.do i still have a shot left for me as my brain is working little slow and need a kick to start off. its really hard to say that you know a person completely.you need a high level of mental association to be sure about it.i think only a couple deeply in love with each other,and one who has spend a lot of time together could only be sure about their partner.
• India
18 Oct 11
i would have loved that inu,unfortunately i was dozing all this time.
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@Jlyn10 (10913)
• Malaysia
18 Oct 11
Inu, she gets drunk easily and soon will be lying on the floor. Better don't give her too much.
• India
18 Oct 11
yes its shown.your morning is at 12 in the noon?
@inu1711 (5288)
• Romania
17 Oct 11
I don't know much about you, Saphrina. From what I've seen I could tell you're a sensitive person who tries to hide behind the image of a powerful woman. But I could never say I know you. I can't say I know everything about any of my relatives/friends. I can't even say I totally know miself. Now can I have that vodka? I had a terrible headache.
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• India
17 Oct 11
i find saphy to be sweet and lovely.will my lady land here without her whips to tell whether my predictions are right for her or not? and inu i feel she still has something left for us as i see many bottles on her side.
@inu1711 (5288)
• Romania
17 Oct 11
I don't know if she still has anything for us, we're on the second page, have you noticed?
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• India
18 Oct 11
am sorry i went to sleep while waiting for something.
@allknowing (69560)
• India
18 Oct 11
I would go haywire if I had your vodka and then responded to this. So I am sober now and whoever has responded after having your vodka, never believe a word of what they have said! It is never wise to judge people based on virtual information. I would never do that and so sorry saphy I will not judge you but suffice it to say that I enjoy interacting with you and that is more than enough for me.
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@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
18 Oct 11
I ignore those who judge me, sweetie. I don't care for people like that. Anyway, i love being here and having fun with everypne, those with a sense of hunor, that is. Nice having you here. I will go and get you some water, if you like?
@allknowing (69560)
• India
18 Oct 11
I don't mind water as long as it is neat saphy
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@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
18 Oct 11
I hint of vodka - Lime with a bit of vodka
@thesids (22358)
• Bhubaneswar, India
17 Oct 11
Hi Saphrina aka Granny I started to know you from my starting discussions and over the time you really have become an important friend who is quite close to me. You are right, knowing a person completely is quite impossible as we are all humans and many a times unpredictable. This unpredictability makes us special to our dear ones - if not then it would have been - we know what you would say, what you would do and how would you react to anything and the charm that kept the relationship going and rocking would wither away. I am happy and even proud to have known you - a person who is so very loving, caring and yes above all - Friendly. You are one of the reasons I stick with MyLot. There are some more people and a few more reasons no doubt, but I can surely say - when we started off as friends, there weren't many of these.
@thesids (22358)
• Bhubaneswar, India
17 Oct 11
WHAT I am the First one Where have all the Lotters Gone Ok, I forgot to add: Thanks for the Vodka and Above all - Thanks for being there
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@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
17 Oct 11
Hi sweetie. Where have you been then? Thank you, you always just say the nicest things. Anyway, i try my best to be as open as possible, but sometimes, things just go wrong or come out the damn wrong way. Always getting into trouble, seem to be my way. Great to have such a dear friend like you though.
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@thesids (22358)
• Bhubaneswar, India
17 Oct 11
Week One - I was stranded in a village amidst the floods. Then there was a trip to areligious place - that was week two and the next week - my cousin sis and her family were with us and we spent our time at another City - enjoying at the beach and last week - my wife went to her parents and I stayed with my parents - it was a long month holdiay and I missed MyLot, my client and work a lot. Now that I am back online I am still occupied with pending assignments from my only client and also learning new technologies (that will help me in getting newer assignments). I should have started a discussion on my return but as I am not able to devote much time, I am refraining from that as I already have the last discussion pending - with many to respond back. I am not sure about the "Good Things" but I mention them as I feel them from my heart and you are aware of that.
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• United States
18 Oct 11
I have to tend to agree with you, with family and loved ones I consider myself to be an open book. I personally consider myself to be very open and upfront with my feelings with my family, so like you said after so many years, they should understand me and know me, nothing I do or say should come to a surprise to them. Unfortunately for me I found out some pretty disappointing things about a few of my loved ones, which ended up badly and pretty much ruined a good majority of our relationship. It is sad to find out that when you think you know someone, their secrets can divestate a relationship. Unfortunately for us, our relationship has never been the same, the trust, love and respect that was once there no longer exists it was lost with their betrayal.
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@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
19 Oct 11
Hi sweetie. I know that feeling of betrayal. I cannot stand it when trust is broken between people. I just hope things will be better for you now. As we need those loved ones to walk with us in life.
• United States
19 Oct 11
It's getting better, but I don't think it will ever be completely the way it was before. But you are absolutely right we do need our loved ones, luckily, my mom, husband and children are always there for me no matter what.
@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
21 Oct 11
Thats the spirit sweetie. See, we always better ourselves one way or the other. You will get there.
@alottodo (3061)
• Australia
18 Oct 11
To me is like the song say" if you don't know me by now...then you'll never never know me"...if I live long enough with a person and never really got to know that person it can only mean one thing I either don't care or the person is not important enough for me! Cheers thanks for the vodka.
@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
18 Oct 11
Hi sweetie. I like that. What is the use then if ou don't know someone as your suppose to. Makes sense. Pleasure with the vodka.
@alottodo (3061)
• Australia
18 Oct 11
I got to know my people because I care[ and that goes for family and friends]I know when they come on the front stairs if their are tired, happy, or moody just by the way they walk, the same when on the phone when some one say "yeah I'm right" I know they are not right! and in the middle of the night they call just to say hello? yeah right! I can say I love my friends and family and I made my business to get to know them that is why they are still here today.
@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
18 Oct 11
You sound like a great friend to have sweetie.
• Australia
27 Oct 11
Oh, thanks, but I've got a glass of red going. I'm probably the most open person you'll meet in respect of telling you about me, but even I keep some secrets. I don't imagine it's possible to know someone that well, but you can pretty damn close if someone trusts you enough to open up. Lash
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• Australia
28 Oct 11
So if you don't want to trust them, then I guess you don't want them to understand you properly? So no, I will probably never really know you. Pity. But what I do know, however little, is fine. Lash
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@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
28 Oct 11
I prefer not to let people really know me, sweetie. A lot of disappointments in life, can really harden one up a lot. You will only know the mylot side of me.
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@derek_a (10902)
18 Oct 11
I would say that we can only know a person by our own perception of them. We can know our own perceptions very well, but we cannot know the other person's percpetions... Again only our perceptions of their perceptions that they share with us. The problem gets more complicated then, escpecially if we don't know our true self very well. That's what makes life interesting. But it can become very boring if we believe that we know ourselves well and know others... There's nothing else to learn then... right? _Derek
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@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
18 Oct 11
Hi sweetie. Wouldn't it be nice to know someone elses perception then? My true self tend to get on my nerves lately. Maybe that is why my life ain't so boring after all. Should i change it?
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@derek_a (10902)
18 Oct 11
Well, I wouldn't change anything unless I know what I wanted to change! In Zen, I sit and observe that way I got things wired up in my brain. Sometimes my brain likes things the way they are and will resist changing them. So there is nothing I can do about it, except to get to know my brain and the way it works. When I know it, it will change if it is meant to there and then, but one thing that is certain in life is that change happens anyway.. So am I better off not making the effort to change? Probably! _Derek
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@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
18 Oct 11
My brains wiring got confused a bit sweetie. Sitting and trying to sort out that mess won't be easy at all. Maybe i should just stay as i am. Sounds better to me.
@shibham (17025)
• India
17 Oct 11
Please whisky saphie... Surely, i dont know you. I know you as saphie alias saphrina, a mylotter having 7288 posts till now and you live in South Africa ( not sure, you have out the right one or not). But i do believe that you are friendly. helpful and supportive. It makes me always angry when people try to judge someone, i often counter there saying that a judge(?) cant know 100% of someone so how a result can come out by judging. Dont try to judge me. hehehe. Take care.
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@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
18 Oct 11
Shiby's Whiskey - Just one sip
Hello Shiby. Well, i know you as one with a funky sense of humor and a good writer. Anyway, those who judge can all go to hell for all i care. Here, have some whiskey then.
• United States
18 Oct 11
MMM whiskey. Shibham, I am coming over by you as I am hoping you will share some of it with me. Once we share it then we can say to saphy we know her very well.
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@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
18 Oct 11
@ shiby, You can't never resist vodka,even with topic like this I need to call mother and give you a good spank now
@thanks1961 (7046)
• India
18 Oct 11
This is mostly depend on person to person and in most of the cases, as and when time moves on they will keep intimacy and become known each other in many cases. But few people always keep some of their intimate personal things never keep disclosed to the partner until they feel secure. They presume that they will get misunderstood or they will get caught in the later part of their life. To avoid a chance for misunderstanding and not to lose the trust and confidence, they will keep such personal matter as confident for ever. This is more practical and people should act in such a way to avoid clash. If we don't know well about the other person, also it is not fair enough to disclose personal secrets to others. Again, keeping such personal matters as confidential is a kind of feeling that we can enjoy the secret as much we need and once it get disclosed, we never have supremacy on such things. Even you and me and everyone has such things and no need to worry for the same. It is everyone's own property.
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@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
18 Oct 11
I agree dear. I never tried to butt in with anyone who I am not close with. I might say something and misinterpreted that will cause some trouble. So,better keep away from anyone whom I don't feel comfortable with Nice to see you again
@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
18 Oct 11
So sweetie. I shouldn't share my nasty little secrets? Yippee, now i am going to have some fun.
@myfb2009 (8304)
• Malaysia
18 Oct 11
Hi Saph, it is good to know you are like an open book to your loved ones. But sorry, i don't drink Vodka. Maybe you should include some soft-drinks, so i can have a drink, too. As for me, it is my brother. He's such a quiet person since from young until now. So, it is hard for me to get to know what's his planning for his future. He prefer to bottled up his problem to himself. Until now, i have no idea on how to make him more talkative with all of us.
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@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
18 Oct 11
Soft drinks - Choose
Hi sweetie. I think i need to make some changes about myself then. As for your brother. Take him out for the day. Something he might like. Fishing, hicking, swimming, whatever. As soon as you start showing interst in what he likes, he might start to open a bit. Here, i don't know what you like, so do enjoy this then.
@Jlyn10 (10913)
• Malaysia
18 Oct 11
We both have the same problem, myfb. My brother is also the reserved type. We do talk but not that open with each other.
@cynthiann (18619)
• Jamaica
18 Oct 11
As usual, I am a day late and a dollar short. In bed all weekend as have had flu No one can knows as as he are all the time because we change as our lives and situation change, Our ideas and values change too as we change. Nothing remains the same darling. Can't join you with the vodka but am about to make a hot toddy with rum, honey and lime juice. Want some? It is the remdy for just about any sickness on this Island
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@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
18 Oct 11
Rum for the cold - Better
No worries sweetie. I hope you feel better though. I do agree with you on we changing with time and situations. I just ish that things can stand still for a time for everyone to keep up, stay the same for a while and catch their breath. Thanx for the offer, but rum, i cannot stand. But here, hope this will make you feel better.
@cynthiann (18619)
• Jamaica
18 Oct 11
Thanks for the rum. I do not know this make but will give it a try. Think about change for a minute. Seriously - it is our greatest blessing. Imagine being in a bad situation that never ends? Just part of life and we have to go with it. sometimes great and sometimes not so great.
@AmbiePam (50164)
• United States
17 Oct 11
No vodka for me. Got a Coke? With my headache I think the vodka would make it worse. ; ) I don't know how well I know the people around me. I think I do, but then again they don't know me that well either.
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@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
18 Oct 11
Ambie's Coke - Coke
Hi sweetie. Okay, i will give you some coke then. Maybe if you get to know each other, you will know how much you know them. Here, have some coke.
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@Jlyn10 (10913)
• Malaysia
18 Oct 11
We'll have to get to know you then. How do you do?
• United States
17 Oct 11
Sorry for my delay, hiccup! Sorry but you were the one who sent me all that vodka and you know us we will never say no to free vodka! Actually I have often believed that I know my boyfriend more then he knows himself. Somehow it is like I know what comes next and what doesn't. However, I am not really a mind reader so in all honesty, yes there are times he seizes to amaze me. So no I don't think we really know people as much as we think. I can be guilty of it also as I can have my days too that I seize to amaze others who thought they knew me well, heck I think at times I really don't know me either.
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@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
18 Oct 11
After reading your response i know now it was the vodka typing that. I don't know my boyfriend and i really thought i did. Oh well, one thing i don't want to be is a mind reader. Sounds like a headache to me. I wonder now if he really know the real me?
• United States
18 Oct 11
You left me alone for way too long that I had not choice but to drink most of the vodka. Now I have a bad headache and my typing is a bit sluggish. Not to bash men, but sadly some do not know us as well as we thought they should.
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@globaldoc (860)
• Philippines
18 Oct 11
I think I will have to agree with this. There is nobody who can know another person totally. I think this is quite impossible. This is the reason why there is betrayal and traitors all around.
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@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
18 Oct 11
Hi sweetie. We can always try though. Might be impossible, but on the other hand, anything is possible if we believe that. Betrayal and traitors i don't have time for.
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@eljayo (1107)
• Philippines
18 Oct 11
Hi! HAve you ever heard about the "juhari's window"?It tells us that there are 4 parts in our personality, one is something that we reveal to others,something that only ourselves know,something that only others know about us, and lastly something that we nor others know about ourselves.
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@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
18 Oct 11
Hi sweetie. No, never heard of it, but it sounds interesting. Will go read about it. Thank you and have fun mylotting.
@ddaguno (3110)
• Philippines
18 Oct 11
i don't think nobody knows who the real me is. Even I don't so how could they? but i'll probably be able to give a partial definition of 'me' after 3 shots of that vodka.
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@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
18 Oct 11
Just to relax - Vodka
I just knew it, sweetie. Okay, after this, you can start revealing the real you.
@chiyosan (30206)
• Philippines
18 Oct 11
I don't think that we can ever know a person entirely especially if we are not with them everyday, if we are not spending time with them and if we just talk, chat, or see them a few times a week. its just not possible. Even wives and husbands get surprised when they discover something new about their partners...
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@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
18 Oct 11
Hi sweetie. Yip, we will never really know the person, even if we spend time with them. I know a few people who got some surprises from their partners, even after a few years.