Are you qualified to love and be loved?

Philippines
October 18, 2011 9:09am CST
A friend told me that I am not qualified to love cause I'm afraid to get hurt. But is there someone wanted to get hurt? i bet,none!
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12 responses
• United States
18 Oct 11
No one wants to get hurt,but to be able to love means to leave your guard down, let someone into your heart that May hurt you. It can be hard for many , but you Must have a open heart so love and step in. It takes trust and courage.and if you are not willing to be open to that someone special , then true love won't happen.
• Philippines
18 Oct 11
Hi sarahruthbeth22 - Are you saying that I should collect hurt feelings in order to feel true love? Should I be thankful of being hurt?
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• United States
18 Oct 11
No! I'm saying you Have to be open hearted. You have to go into true love Hoping for a great outcome. But know you May get hurt. You can fall hopelessly in love with a person who doesn't love you. But you Have to be open for love to Ever work.
@reinykwan (350)
• Indonesia
18 Oct 11
everyone qualify to be loved... include you, love is not to hurt each other, love is understanding your partner..genuine love is not expecting anything in return but sincere love.
• Philippines
18 Oct 11
Sincere love - Hope I already found one, hope he's sincere. Thank you reinykwan, I'll take note of that.
@tessa9 (1086)
• Philippines
18 Oct 11
There is no such qualifications for people to love or be loved. Everyone and I mean everyone deserves to love and be loved back. The fear of getting hurt is not that big of a deal. I know no one who wants to get hurt. It's everybody's fear. I don't get what your friend is saying.
• Philippines
18 Oct 11
I agree with you tessa9 that there is no qualifications when it comes to love. Maybe what my friend wants me to understand is when someone is deeply in love he/she should be ready to get hurt because being in love includes ups and downs.
@bingskee (5237)
• Philippines
22 Oct 11
that is an absurd comment. being hurt is a given in a relationship. of course, no one ones to get hurt, let alone from love relationships. i may have agreed if the friend said that you are not qualified to be loved because you do not know how to love. how can one reciprocate if he or she does not have any idea of how it is to love?
@marguicha (95033)
• Chile
19 Oct 11
There´s no such thing as being qualified or not for love. The friend that told you that probably had a very bad experience and associates love to hurt. Even though hurt is a part of life, as is pain ,sorrow but also bliss, noone qualifies for that. It just happens. You don´t seek it either as it´s life. Welcome to mylot and prepare yourself for a wonderful adventure here that with let you have friends all over the world and will help you many times.
@tawny_24 (351)
• United States
18 Oct 11
I think that a "friend" who would say something to you that makes you feel bad about yourself isn't the kind of "friend" to give you advice about love. It isn't very loving to tell someone else that they are not qualified to love, is it? What are the qualifications for love anyway? I think the list would probably look like this: 1-you are living being on planet earth 2- you respect others and treat them fairly There are all different kinds of love in the universe. Maybe romantic love isn't the first step. Maybe it is. Only you know. You can love God or you can love ice cream. As long as you feel love then you are qualified to give and recieve it. Everybody is afraid of being hurt. Not everybody is brave enough to do the right thing when they do get hurt.
@magic700 (100)
• Canada
18 Oct 11
Though there aren't any actual qualifications in order to love and be loved, there are, to some degree, qualifications in order to be loved by a specific person. Though it's unimaginable that one would manage to fail all qualifications for all people, it is possible to fail the qualifications required to be loved by a special someone. For example, if somebody thinks that scratching your head in public is a discusting trait, then they likely won't fall in love with you if you constantly do so. With more mild things like that, they will probably grow to eventually over look that act of yours, considering it a mild flaw that can be overlooked, but if they have strong enough beliefs in it, that action will disqualify you from their love. But over all, there in't anything you could really do to disqualify you from love in general. So I kind of agree and disagree in a sense.
@nurseclare (2210)
• Philippines
18 Oct 11
a very brief discussion but got lot of sense..Yea, i just think I am qualified to love and be loved, all of us deserve that..And no one is ready to be hurt. I think your friend utter those words just to wake you up that in love you have to prepare yourself in getting hurt,,Its not happiness all the time..Just try to open your hart and mind and you'll fell the happiness in love and it's hurtful times.
@WakeUpKitty (8707)
• Netherlands
18 Oct 11
You are not qualified? What kind of qualification is there to love and be loved? There is a big difference also between to love and be loved. You can be loved without feeling it or loving that person back or vica versa. Nobody likes to be hurt and the good thing about being hurt is we watch our steps next time so we won't get hurt that easily. Although that is the way it should be, otherwise getting hurt is useless. But if love shows up we easily forget about our hurt and even if there is not complete trust we take the risk (again). Perhaps your friend means you are not ready yet for another love/relationship? Might be true but the only one who can be sure about that is you.
@tamirs (1808)
• Philippines
18 Oct 11
well ,i don't think there are qualifications needed to be loved and fall love,is there?? Everyone deserves it..Even if you are the ugliest or the poorest,super rich or super beautiful...
@omchesunche (1755)
• Indonesia
18 Oct 11
Well my friend, I don't think there are no such of love qualification. Sometimes people to bother lots about procedure and rules,this will make mr thing what if there's nothing to worried about.
• India
18 Oct 11
Of course Yes.. That's the only reason why some people have more friends and some have few or none. I will not mind excusing my loved ones even they hurt me. I believe That's the love between people.