i love a stranger online....

China
October 19, 2011 9:33am CST
we met each other from the facebook. we chat alot online.. really alot..i never met such a guy to chat so easily and feel comfortable and exited when i chat with him..i think he knows me ,i know him,,, we both know our personalities and perhaps have the same ideas of the world...i admit that i have some feeling for him....but love is not that simple....what should i do....? is he the right guy for me??? help me with that
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17 responses
@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
19 Oct 11
Well,there is nothing wrong with falling in love. But you have to make sure about the feeling. Maybe it's not really love at all. Sometimes too much closeness and caring is mistaken as love. You might enjoy his company and he is always there and that made you think you love him. You can keep the relationship that way and wait where it could lead up to. have a good day
@devi53 (348)
• India
20 Oct 11
jaiho you are correct i also agree with this
• Spain
19 Oct 11
Well you have to realize that exists people on the internet that shows you how they really are but not all of them are real The other day on a radio show i heard a women that was explaining how she met ''the perfect guy '' on a chat and she was so excited about it they hang out a couple of times everything was perfect and then she hired a private detective and he started to investigate about him and when the detective came with the researched information he told her that he was married to a women and that they had an open relationship so he wasn't cheating on his wife but he lying to his ''lover'' and that ''love'' cost her six years of pain so that can be great but you need to know a little bit more about him to go to the next level good luck
• Spain
19 Oct 11
Sorry he was lying to my bad Good luck
@Zaphan (711)
• Philippines
21 Oct 11
don't give your trust that easily take time to know him and if you want to meet him bring a chaperon to accompany you while your dating because now a days internet chat is misuse to making a crime like gang rape or killing. So be careful my friend.. I have met my wife using cellphone we text a lot and we decided to met and then here we are having a twin son full of trials but getting stronger with our faith in God.
@piya84 (2591)
• India
20 Oct 11
Hey thats normal.I have felt like that for few men since i join internet.Go and talk with them in real because there is difference in interacting on lin enad in real world face to face.
@zeciram (161)
• Philippines
20 Oct 11
Hi! I am not saying that he is really a bad person but please be careful since many crimes have been committed wherein the victim met the alleged attacker online. But supposing that your guy is not one of those criminals, I think you should not rush into things. People can be different online from their real self since they do not meet eye to eye with the one they are talking too. For me, it is important that first know him in person before you become so in love with him. Also you can see if the person's sincerity when you look into his eyes. I believe that for you to fully feel if he is the right guy, you must meet and know him well in person. But I must warn you again to be careful when you meet up with him not only during the first time but until you are really sure he is not a bad person. Maybe you can bring some of your friends, preferably male friends, when you meet him in a place where you are sure to be safe. I hope you have found the man who will truly love you and will care for you forever. Do not rush things, though.
@ckciasigurl (1713)
• Vienna, Austria
20 Oct 11
hi kikishine i can say that we cannot say or tell to our hearth who will we love or choose the love one because if the heart bit to that person already it cannot bit to other person it is just you need to meet him personal and to know him personal so that you will be more familiar to him.Because i can say that seeing him is different in chatting.
• Philippines
20 Oct 11
Take it from me since I met my ex-hubby online too. It is not wise to invest too much of yourself without meeting the person in real life. Take the online thing as a stepping stone to getting to know each other better. It takes almost a lifetime of really knowing another person. There are so many things that surprised me about him. I was young and in love with the idea of loving. I have spend several years repenting my assumptions and my jumping into my image of who he is. Thread lightly.
@devi53 (348)
• India
20 Oct 11
I think that you can maintain this friendship for good fortunes
@charvill (58)
20 Oct 11
It is still best to know that person more because it's hard to assess ones personality unless you met him already. We should be more cautious because a lot intended to be good and nice only in chatting and it is the best way for bad people to hook their prospective victims. It is better if you meet up with this guy, of course bring along with you a companion. If you become friends, know more about him, just be of good companion, establish a good and strong foundation, and let time establish its own course if that guy is really the best guy for you. Goodluck!
@capirani (1841)
• United States
19 Oct 11
The first thing to do when you meet someone online and think you might have found "the one" for you is to make sure that person really is who he/she claims to be. It's a sad world today but all the social networking websites such as Facebook and MySpace, as well as all the online dating websites are full of scammers pretending to be someone they are not, using photos they have stolen online, and bits and pieces of webcam shots they also stole from other previous victims. There are places you can go online to check the person's IP address to make sure they are really from where they say they are, but even that is not foolproof. I really do hope you have found yourself a winner, but please for your own safety, take steps to find out. Do some research into romance scams online and see what you find. It's amazing that there are people out there doing this kind of criminal thing to other people.
@rollylolly (2847)
• India
19 Oct 11
It's too early to say whether he is the right guy for you . There is a lot of different between the virtual and real world . No problem , you take your time and chat and try to know him more . If possible try to verify the details he provides in regards to residential and workplace address . Take advice of friends and relatives . Never take risk to meet him alone . Just be careful . Don't worry if things go well you can meet him when the proper time comes . Wish you all the best !
@umabharti (3976)
• India
19 Oct 11
That depends total on both of u,Can u say that the love ur feeling oonline would be the same when u both meet offline .Can the online love be carried to wards a good relation building ? Do you both have such a good relation ?
@mods196621 (3631)
• Philippines
19 Oct 11
Dont go too much inlove with a chat mate if you know that there is not a possibility to meet him personally. If you know that he can go after you then try to be inlove with him but if not be careful for falling with him coz for sure you will get hurt at the end. Dont trust so much with the chatmate. But people are not all the same. SOme are really true and you know them well if they are eager to see you personal. But be ready for the conclusion of your lovelife ... i had the happy and bad experience at online love stories..and until now i am suffering...
• Philippines
19 Oct 11
first of all, i will ask you this questions... have you met him in person? did you go out on a date? what do you really feel for him? do you think that he also feels the same as you feel and he is being honest with you? get to know him first... yes, i know you feel that you two feel like you've known each other for a long time but get to know him first personally... I met my boyfriend too online, well actually its his friend I met first and then his friend gave my email to him then he contacted me. I am scared at first but I tried to get to know him as we chat online then he visit me here in my country so I get the chance to get to know him more, we go out on a date almost everyday. We are now in a relationship for 4 years now. and he still visits me twice a year or sometimes more when he had a chance. I am not saying that its ok to meet people online and go out on a date with them, because not all the people we met online are good and nice and most of all had a respect. I am not scaring you either in fact i want you to do whatever what will makes you happy, but I want you to be safe too so you should be careful. think about what you feel carefully. don't just use your heart, use also your mind before entering into a relationship.
• Spain
19 Oct 11
Well you have to realize that exists people on the internet that shows you how they really are but not all of them are real The other day on a radio show i heard a women that was explaining how she met ''the perfect guy '' on a chat and she was so excited about it they hang out a couple of times everything was perfect and then she hired a detective/ researcher and started to investigate about him and when the detective came with the researched information he told her that he was married to a women and that they had an open relationship so he wasn't cheating on his wife but he lying to his ''lover'' and that ''love'' cost her six years of pain so that can be great but you need to know a little bit more about him to go to the next level good luck
@ravinskye (8242)
• United States
19 Oct 11
Have you met him in person yet? Does he feel the same way towards you? How far apart do you live? I think it's great to find someone you love. I would say first you need to meet in person. Also you should make sure he feels the same way about you. It's scary but tell him how you feel and go from there. Good luck!
@WakeUpKitty (8706)
• Netherlands
19 Oct 11
There is nothing you should do since you already chat a lot. So you can continue that and see what will happen. And if you want to know if he is the real one you can make a list with questions and see if he gives the kind of answers you like (to hear). Keep in mind that behind a computer you are different as in real life. In real life people are seldom funny, behind the computer you don't care if someone is jobless or lives in a dump. You will find out sooner or later if he is the right guy it takes time to find that out same with a life relationship.