I am really, really confused what my mom wants..
October 19, 2011 9:54am CST
Good day Fellow Mylotters, I am really confused. Before my mom wants me to be here at home. To be with her. That she wants to see me every now and then. That, she always telling me when will I go back home since the nature of my job is outside Metro Manila. And now, I was already home. I was here since May of this year. I thought my mom would be glad that I am already home. And that, she can see me more often. But, from the time that I came back, she always asked me, when will I will leave again to look for a job outside. Look, I am not a jobless woman, well in fact, I am handling small business, however my mother keeps on pushing me to go out and look for a job outside. I really dont know what she wants now. Before she wants me to be here. Now that I am here, she wants me to go out and leave again.
19 Oct 11
hi giftsandbagscom, that is one thing for sure, if i will be given again a great opportunity to work outside, i will definitely leave and perhaps, would not comeback anymore. as i observed, my presence is not somehow appreciated.
20 Oct 11
Is your business a home business? or something that doesn't really require you to be out of the house everyday? If so, then I think what your mom is trying to do is asking you to look for a job - a regular job. She might be thinking you are better off having a regular job, with a regular take home money. If that is the case, you have to make her understand more about your status (financially, emotionally). You see, Filipino parents are still very old fashioned. I know, because my parents are like that too. I have been trying to look for other opportunities to earn money, but they keep pushing me to get a regular job.
19 Oct 11
Oh mothers. Yes, mothers are really like that. Actually I also have same mood like your mom. Once my kids are not around and everyone at school,I miss them. but when they are at home and starting to have a fight I ask them to go out and return later
19 Oct 11
If you want to know what your mom wants ask her and ask her why this is what she wants. Perhaps she did like to see you more frequently at the start but might be she is used to you living somewhere else and organized her life without you, finds it fine the way it is now. Perhaps she is afraid if you are with her for a longer period you are jobless or you have less change to find something (better). Think she noticed you are doing good/fine outside and you have more chances if you go outside as when you stay with her. So again: ask your mother what she wants and why and try to put yourself in her place. Might be you will understand then what she means.