Aaaggghhh........

@mimm45 (168)
Australia
October 19, 2011 11:41pm CST
That's how I feel. I'm annoyed, irritated and tired. Hubby has been quite busy at work. Can't even talk to him without getting a far away look and monosyllabic answers. Children have been a bit of a handful. Just want a little bit of space without the noise of children but can't because he's still got work in his mind even when at home. Sorry myLotters if i'm whining but i needed to get it out of my system and online was the only place i can do it. Talking about things that frustate me to people who don't know me personally helps me get rid of the anger without hurting anyone. Sometimes I say things that I shouldn't so I feel here is safer. Do you feel the same too?
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@GardenGerty (104004)
• United States
20 Oct 11
Mylot is a very therapeutic place to visit. It does keep us from saying things we should not at home. I think it is much cheaper than a Psychologist as well.
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@mimm45 (168)
• Australia
21 Oct 11
That's true! And not as intimidating as psychologist.
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@GardenGerty (104004)
• United States
21 Oct 11
Here you know you are among friends.
• United States
21 Oct 11
I'm so sorry you're going through such a rough time! I have a short fuse, so I can't imagine having one on top of having children and a household to take care of! Not to mention a husband that is having trouble communicating. :( Are your kids young enough to take naps? Maybe while they're napping you could spend some time doing something you love and taking some time for yourself! Even an hour or two of a breather would make such a huge impact on your daily stress levels. It could turn out to be very beneficial! I hope things get better for you!
@mimm45 (168)
• Australia
22 Oct 11
I do have an outlet for my frustration and it's writing in myLot or my diary, eBay and stamp collecting. And shopping too- though I never buy anything except toys for my children! My hubby sometimes tells me take a say off and even though I'd liketo do that, I still miss them all. :)
@kaeirole (669)
• Philippines
20 Oct 11
hello mimm45..i feel the same way too, about feeling better to talk things here..that's why i joined myLot..i feel better when i'm sharing my sentiments here, which i cannot do in facebook... well i hope you and your hubby will have that moment together without your kids..i understand that couples with kids still need time to be alone together..because when they both get old, they only have each other..and their kids will surely have a life on their own..so they should have a great foundation of their friendship..enjoy being together.. but as for now, maybe you should understand more to your since his working..and take good care of him..so that he still feels your love even if he's busy..and i know, he will surely make up to you.. :)
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@mimm45 (168)
• Australia
21 Oct 11
I do understand his situation that's why I'm saying something here instead of to him. He's a very good man my husband - very patient and understanding. He's a hands-on father when he's not busy so I shouldn't complain. I try to keep things in balance.
@janevi (889)
• Philippines
20 Oct 11
It's okay to vent your ill feelings. No one is hurt anyway.:-) I love women .;-) you see, we are very creative in channeling our negative energies to something that is worthwhile and productive.;-) It is important that we should know how to let out of the fume inside or else it will burst and it is not helpful. There is even a possibility that you can hurt someone if you will just keep it. So don't worry about us here. We will just read it anyway and give our views and comments.:-) If I get angry , I resort to writing or walking i I can't really contain it. no one's hurt and the energy is released in a wholesome manner:-)
@mimm45 (168)
• Australia
22 Oct 11
Oh yes! I too need to vent out (is this the right phrase?) my anger and that doing this makes the anger go away immediately. It's like steam, there has to be a way for it to escape. I never liked keeping in.
@mimm45 (168)
• Australia
27 Oct 11
Yes I've been trying very hard to do just that. I have such a short fuse it's like I'm always at boiling point or boils over easily. It has been a very long and difficult battle with myself but I think I've improved a bit. You wouldn't believe it but ever since I met my husband I've been less of a hothead than I used to be. So I have him to thank for that. :)
@veronizm (909)
• Philippines
25 Oct 11
Hi mimm! I totally understand what you mean. I myself like to vent out in the internet where no one knows me personally. I just feel much safer when I do that (except in Facebook and other social networks where people know me). And yes, it does help us release our anger without hurting anyone. And it's like having invisible friends who act like shock absorbers
@mimm45 (168)
• Australia
27 Oct 11
When you write things out, the act of typing how you feel seems to have a calming effect. Doesn't matter if you bang on the keyboard rather than type. :) One other thins is that in myLot or other sites like it, it's up to the other users whether they want to respond to you or not. If you've been having a hard time lately, posts like these might come more often. If you were sharing it with a close friend he/she might get tired of having to listen to all your problems and worries and get fed up with you. Not in myLot. Besides since people here don't "know" each other then they can be brutally honest with you and tell you exactly what they think even if you might not like it.
• Philippines
20 Oct 11
Yes, mylot is really a great place to pour out your concerns. I have been thinking of inviting my friends here, but I have a feeling that when they sign in I won't be as open as I have. It is true, sharing things to people whom you do not know personally gives you the freedom to really say what is it in your heart and in your mind. In real life, I'm not very open with my feelings and thoughts. If you can see my facebook, I only have pics and games update, but not really statuses. that's the reason why I love mylot. I can just go ahead and share things without worrying about what my friends and family would think. =)
@mimm45 (168)
• Australia
22 Oct 11
Same with me. I cannot ever dare invite my friends or family to join here as there are things that I might not want them to know. Secret stuff that only myLotters know. ;)
@obe212003 (2302)
• Philippines
20 Oct 11
now i know how my wife feels, lol! but seriously, as a husband, a father and a provider, sometimes i really most of the time preoccupied with work and the every day to day problems especially financially, just imagine having seven kids [5 in school and 2 still toddlers]!
@mimm45 (168)
• Australia
21 Oct 11
Wow! I take my hat off to your wife and you for being able to cope with 7 children. I'm finding it difficult with my two.