How To Make Your Girlfriend Obey Your Wish ???

Indonesia
October 21, 2011 2:42am CST
Sometimes in relationship, we will be depressed by a smoldering ego. But of course if you impose your will, it will damage your relationship with your girlfriend. Is there a way to make our girlfriend in order to placate us??
6 responses
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
24 Oct 11
Talking nicely and asking politely might help. Demanding and forcing your wishes onto someone, just don't do it for her, i am sure. She is not your property, so treat her with respect, please.
• Indonesia
25 Oct 11
Thanks for the advice, I just want you to know that her.....in my eyes she is a creature that I LOVE SO MUCH, appreciate, and I always respect to her. I always respect and obey her opinion, her will and all her needs.But wht all my word and demand that solely aim is also to her is always be ignored???? what do you say?? is that fair to me??
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
25 Oct 11
Okay then. Talk to her about it. But don't use the word "obey". That can get on ones nerves. No matter how much you love someone, you should always be careful not to smother them, okay. Hope things will go better after the 2 of you had a nice little chat about this.
• Indonesia
25 Oct 11
yeah.....maybe the big reason why she turn tobe like that is because we have a long distance relationship since september :(
• Romania
21 Oct 11
You should just speak to her. Try to make her understand what you want, why do you want it, how do you feel without that wish. You should work things together and find the right way yo do it for both of you. Don't push hard on her, take everything step by step. For example, if you want her to do or try something that is new for her, be patient, listen to her, make her comfortable with the idea. Never say something like "if you don't do ... i will..." no matter what you will do.
• Indonesia
21 Oct 11
I sometimes becomin a selfish person, i always impose my ego base on my principle " all this I do only for him" But all my attempts ended in quarrels and disputes.....mutual silence is the most condition that I hate but also be a moment for ourself-introspection.... Why did my every request should be denied whitout him thinking first??
• Romania
21 Oct 11
I was a selfish person until I've met my actual boyfriend. Somehow my feelings for him made me understand that he has wishes too. I am trying to listen to him. Sometimes I don't understand why he wants something, no matter how much he explains it to me. Things like this happen because he is a boy and I am a girl and we have different hobbies, different activities. If I don't understand something I'm just accepting it. I can simply deny but it's better for us to accept.
• Indonesia
22 Oct 11
what about if she dont likes you????
@Ghajini (776)
• Philippines
21 Oct 11
First of all, you have to understand that your girlfriend is not a material object and is person like you who has her own mind and own opinion regarding various things. Nevertheless, I am not saying that it's wrong to ask your girlfriend to obey your wish, perhaps it depends on what that wish is and most of all it should not be lead to abuse.
• Indonesia
21 Oct 11
Thanks Ghajini^^ But So far i have wasted my shame just to beg him to be what I want. and in my mind always said "THIS IS ALL JUST FOR THE GOOD OF HIM TOO, WHY DID SHE REFUSE??"
• Indonesia
21 Oct 11
I really love her^^
@SIMPLYD (74827)
• Philippines
21 Oct 11
So if you really love her, do not let her obey things that are contrary to her beliefs. Ask her for suggestion or maybe her opinion so you two could compromise on whatever it is you want done and obeyed.
@rameshchow (5284)
• India
26 Oct 11
Anyone can impress their loved one by giving the true feelings and true actions. But It's not so easy.
• Indonesia
26 Oct 11
Would you give me some example about "how to impress your love to your mate"
• India
27 Oct 11
you seems like having many girl friends, you are a love expert.
• Indonesia
29 Oct 11
nope.....i only have one.....and I really love her
@allknowing (55098)
• India
22 Oct 11
In a relationship there is only trust and understanding and the word 'obey' has no place there. If one understands the other the need to order, impose or obey does not arise.
• Indonesia
22 Oct 11
I just wanna put him on the right place...........is that wrong to ask her to be a good woman????
@allknowing (55098)
• India
22 Oct 11
Whoever you are talking about must be an adult and it is funny really that you have taken upon yourself to make her a good woman. You are not a therapist, nor a counsellor but you are in a relationsip with her.
• Indonesia
22 Oct 11
but, this all because I care about her.......no need tobe a therapist or counsellor for show that I really care about her.(^^)v
@lissaj (532)
• United States
23 Oct 11
You can not MAKE your girlfriend do anything and it isn't fair of you to try to change who she is to make you happy. What about her feelings, wants, needs? She is her own person and you knew what kind of person she was when you started dating her. Unless she has drastically changed how she is then you shouldn't be trying to change her. Now, there is nothing wrong with suggesting different things, but there is no guarantee that she will change and you may end up losing her in the process if you try to push her.
• Indonesia
25 Oct 11
i just cannot resist my instinct to regulate her self. But,is that fair to me if.....I allways obey her felling,wants and all she needs...and then I just ask her for 1 thing ...... is that hard to say YES???