what is better for you " to wait or to find out your real love"?

@zhawee (875)
Philippines
October 26, 2011 11:59pm CST
Yes im 34 but im still single, but its does`nt mean im looking someone for me.. Im just wait who the the right man for me..but no one came.. All my friend told me you dont need to wait you must search him or find out.. my time were running to get older.. who`s person can`t want to have a happy family, but i have no chooice just wait and sitdown.. maybe its a not right time for me,
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16 responses
@bodhi_91 (193)
• India
27 Oct 11
Ok so here is the deal. I know it is difficult to sit and wait for the right one. You'd surely feel so much desperate about it. So what you can do is start off making more n more friends. This thing really helps. Having more close friends will make u feel less lonely, and this will also increase the probability to find the right person whom U can choose as ur life partner.
@zhawee (875)
• Philippines
30 Oct 11
I dont know what i feel to me now.. why im writing this and making discussion like this.. maybe im looking a a friend can sharing with me in this situation,, so im thankful to you all guys to response this my discussion i make.. Maybe im desperate to looking my my dream boy..
@bodhi_91 (193)
• India
31 Oct 11
Honey we all are desperate for our dream people. But just waiting for that person is the only option. Till then make friends go out and flirt around, who cares?
@hestylim (1211)
• Indonesia
27 Oct 11
I have know people with the same age as yours or even older. I don't know if they face the same problem as yours. But I see they are happy :) I think it doesn't matter whether you are single or double, as long as you are happy, then everything is okay. :) though sometimes I do feel stressful, too. People around me, especially my mom, keeps pushing me to look for a guy, due to I am my half way to 30..
@hestylim (1211)
• Indonesia
27 Oct 11
And I have to add, I don't really worry about it at all. Now what I am focusing is how to reach my dream and make my own living. :)
@zhawee (875)
• Philippines
30 Oct 11
i dont know.. but i feel so bored and beside i want my life changse.. but im hoping that man can really perfect on me.. im also im busy in life while im waiting my dream boy..
@kaeirole (669)
• Philippines
27 Oct 11
for me, i would wait for the one..but waiting doesn't mean that i won't do something..while waiting for the one for me, i would go and meet new people (people who can be trusted)..have new friends..doing it doesn't mean i'm looking for the real love..because my main purpose is to build new friendship to new people..and i believe that real love starts with good friendship..so love would definitely blooms unexpectedly..
@SIMPLYD (76581)
• Philippines
27 Oct 11
I definitely agree with your opinion kaeirole. She can wait for "the one", but she has to do something in order for her to have lots of chances of meeting "the one" . She must socialize and build new friendships, because it might be that in those new friends, somebody will emerge to be her "the one".
@zhawee (875)
• Philippines
28 Oct 11
thanks of you.. yes im trying to make a new friends and get some socialized to the other. i want to be happy in love life.. yes sometimes i feel unlucky in love life. hoping he come,, i dont know why i make discussion like this its all about me..
@blue65packer (11835)
• United States
28 Oct 11
I have done both,waited and went looking for love. Neither one was for me! After trying both ways,I ahve realized.love is not for me! I am 49 years old and if I was meant to find or wait for someone it would of happened allrready! So I am not looking or waiting for anyone. I am better being off being alone for the rest of my life!
@zhawee (875)
• Philippines
30 Oct 11
so sad my dear.. hoping it will not happend to me that.. that if God will i will aceept what my destiny..
27 Oct 11
you always have a choice even choices...every one have..wait for your love without doing anything will make older and more unhappy...but you could try to improve your self..make your self pretty and atractive and never give up to try
@zhawee (875)
• Philippines
30 Oct 11
yes.. i know friend, thank for this commet. i dont want to b alone forever..but i dont want to forcing my self to he man i like..
@cwong77 (2011)
• Malaysia
27 Oct 11
I prefer to wait now.. if it comes, it will come.. if not, then it's not too bad to be single.. I have chased for the dream man that I wanted, but the more anxious I am, the worse man I bumped into. So, it's better to stay back and relax.. GOD has his way to arrange things for us.
@zhawee (875)
• Philippines
30 Oct 11
ohhh.. i dont want to be single forever...hoping its come for us the God gift..
@ikbtn1 (23)
• United States
27 Oct 11
you know to love is one thing and to marry is another,love does not just erupt,it grows,in otherwards it must be found before it starts developing,its just like a seed,if you do not find the right soil to plant it,it will not grow and germinate,so i think you should search and also you must believe and be determined that what you're doing will become successful and i assure you the right person will come.
@zhawee (875)
• Philippines
30 Oct 11
ur suggestion so meaningful im so related to ur responsed.. yes all of u have a good esponse.. but im so touching your response..i think u will finally found someone who care of you.. thank for this..
@charvill (58)
27 Oct 11
Sometimes when we look for "mr. right guy" we sometimes end up with mr wrong guy. when we search for this its either we end up good or end up to a wrong person, and sometimes its already too late to find out both of you are not really meant for each other. I guess, God has a perfect plan for each and everyone of us, to others it came early to some came late. It is still good to wait for the right guy meant for us.
@zhawee (875)
• Philippines
30 Oct 11
every one here to response my discussion i make, its have own point and a good response..thanks for you sugeestion you give yes if you forcing to find your love its will be causing on you in bad effect between you and him..but also hoping he come in my life not, is to late..
@eljayo (1107)
• Philippines
27 Oct 11
Hi!I think it is better to wait.I don not believe you have to force yourself to find your true love.That person will just come at the right time.Be productive while waiting fro that person.Reach fro your personal goal while you still can as a single person.Love comes in a most unexpected moment.Pray fro that person even if you have not met him.
@zhawee (875)
• Philippines
30 Oct 11
prebably im busy in my store..everytime im on my way going to the church im cant avoid to see a sweet couple crossing in my way.. so i feel insercurity hoping someday and wish i finally founs someone can still with me forever..
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
27 Oct 11
I am 30 now and single though I have a boyfriend. However, I sometimes still worry if I ever get married or not... At times I think that maybe my boyfriend and I won't ever be married, he's working in another country and it's really difficult for me to be confident that we both will end up with each other. You know I have a friend who was 38 years old at that time when he found the guy for him. He was way younger that her I guess 24 years old, but he loves her so much and now they're married and they already have a baby. We had a doubt at first but then he had proven it by marrying her, having a baby with her, taking her back to the country where he works and being a very proud and supportive dad to their baby ^^ I'm so happy for her - before this guy came into her life, she was the religious type of lady who never missed going to church, and one of her prayers was she was leaving it all up to God whether she finds someone or not ^^
@zhawee (875)
• Philippines
30 Oct 11
she very lucky woman hoping soon i will meet that man for us.. that he care for us.. yes its their fews man can be serious on relationship specially in online..i dont want to be alone in my life..im afraid..
• Romania
27 Oct 11
I think we should have a look around us, we might have love around us and we are ignoring it. Now, what does waiting for love mean? We should try to meet many people, because if we don't we will never find the one. We might be lucky at some point and find him accidentaly, at a party, in a bus or something like that, but I don't really think this will ever happen. I've bee alone for many years because I used to go out with the same people, I was shy and it was really hard for me to meet new people.
@zhawee (875)
• Philippines
30 Oct 11
yes u are right bur the problem inm so much shy person..its another problem is my attitude because im easily erritating if someone look at me head to feet.. so i ignoring the.. i feel he makes me rude..and im so affraid.. sometimesim so sensitive in the way exchange of jokes..
@WakeUpKitty (8709)
• Netherlands
29 Oct 11
I never felt the need to go look for mr right, why should I? I don't care about being alone, to be honest I love to be alone and do what I like to do. I am happy I don't need to take care of an guy again, I am tired of that (divorced 20 years ago and still tired of that). But there is a big difference between waiting and waiting and sitting down! Life has to be lived so go out, live your life, get all the experiences there are and enjoy your life. Then you might find someone you like to share (a part of) your life with. Like I will. He just showed up. I don't think he is the greates love of my life, but if it comes to that I became more realistic through all the years and life experiences. I will give it a (good) change anyway and who knows how great it will be.
@kaichoukebz (1190)
• Philippines
28 Oct 11
I think it is much better to wait. Love can wait. But if you think waiting is so ineffective, you must learn to find your love ones. Follow your hearts desire. I think someday, your true lover will still come.
@mimm45 (168)
• Australia
27 Oct 11
Your story sounds very familiar. I've heard it before. Wait...actually that's my story too. I have not been actively looking for love until I was older. And I did that not because friends/family have been teasing me or asking a lot of questions. I did it because I felt it was the right time. Don't get rushed into settling down out of pressure. You'll know when the time comes. And when you do start looking for love, the first man you meet will not always be the right one. Take your time. Of course, it's also nice to go out with friends and have fun and who knows.....
27 Oct 11
Zhawee there are some good man out there. You have to introduce to him about you. Be patient and honestly. Just try all good way to find a good man that will love you. There is someone for you. How a good man will come to you if he don't know you?
@jaiho2009 (39034)
• Philippines
27 Oct 11
I have friends same age like yours who are still single and still not rushing to find their love. They say it will come at the right time. Yes,it will come at the right time,or maybe he is just around you but you keep ignoring. Why not try to look around and give some attention to that someone. have a good day