More hurting for men?

Sounds more like a reaction to the egalitarian movement in my opinion. Feminism is great but a lot of the more militant types push for female superiority, which has resulted in a lot of reactionary stuff like that in an attempt to "prove" that men are equal, too. I agree with you, though - pain and suffering is not something that should (or can) be compared. It's individual.

Is there really a difference? In today's world, we don't differ between men and women as both are equal now. Either way, whether who cheats who, both also ended up getting hurt and I don't believe that one gets hurt more than the other.

Hi! I agree with you that irrespective of one's gender if a man or woman's partner cheats him/her, s/he will feel hurt. Cheating is something, which no one could appreciate. I believe men and women equally detest cheating or an illicit affair.

I never heard about this and it's hard to believe it's a fact. Also I don't believe in it. If it comes to men and women there is world of differences between them and between how the interpretate and feel everything around them including relationships. I don't think men are hurt that easily and if it's mostly just their feeling of proud since they still think they are the only one who are allowed to hunt, cheat (not seen like cheating by them they blame the mistress) and dump. It has nothing to do with being more hurt. I agree with you there is no reason to compare these different people and worlds together. I wonder what kind of "expert" came up with this test result.

I would cut through your point. It hurts the same initially after knowing about the point that the partner is cheating and affair is going on. But after that a girl can start crying horribly which drains away some pain. But in case of a man, he cannot readily cry even in a lonesome place and this simply eats him up bit by bit. This is what hurts much much more!

I agree on you on that, there shouldn't be a comparison. Cheating causes so much pain - whether it's the man or the woman who did it. I guess the reason why some people sees it more hurting for a man was because, the man normally never forgives the cheating wife. While, the woman gives another chance to his cheating husband.

Hi bingskee, i think that thought occurred because men has generally bigger ego than us women. And the "general" mindset of most people is that men tends to cheat, so some ladies tend to be more suspicious and thinks men cheat when they might or might not. So in a way, women do tend to expect men to cheat. While for men, they have bigger egos, then there are lesser cheating cases with married women, so they do not expect women might cheat, thus the hurt would be bigger for them. That's why there is this SAYING that it hurts more than men... But i beg to differ! It should be equally hurting for both sides! Cheating is wrong! When one enter a love relationship, they should not even think otherwise! If they think otherwise, they should not be in a relationship at all! Just my 2 cents worth, in a general term of arguement. Not directed at anyone at all.

I actually think it comes from the stereo-type that men are supposed to be "players", and it is not only acceptable for them to be promiscuous but also actually expected of them to act this. Therefore, women (at least in their minds) should not be too hurt when they are only following their "natural desires" and acting as "nature intended". On the other hand, women are expected to be demure and remain "pure" until marriage. They are supposed to be faithful always and love blindly, so when this does not happen it comes as a shock to some. I do not think that it is right to cheat, and I expect that there is always hurt when one partner learns the other one is cheating. How much hurt depends upon the relationship, the individuals within the relationship, and I believe to some extent past experience. I do not think you can compare hurt between to people let alone between genders, though.

Dear Ms. Bingskee Whatever might be the reason, I think this statement is wrong! Women suffer more when it comes to finding that their partner (male) has an illicit affair. Men often go to work and have a hell lot of engagements to keep them occupied and psychologically, this does keep them away from the tensions of knowing that their partner has an illicit affair. But in traditional societies, women are forced to either continue their relation(going by the fact that many societies still dont see a divorce as a healthy option for women) or even they are jobless(many socities wont allow women to work). Again, if they work, and the people come to know that they are divorced or had an illegal affair, they are normally looked down upon in such societies and many take them as objects and assume that they are readily accessible - this further complicates their miseries. For men, I have seen that they can always rely on booze or any other thing or even any other girl or woman (and get away with the pains) and the society doesnt have any objections. If I cite some findings from newspapers - I mostly get to read that the ratio of Males having extra-marital affairs is higher than than women. This itself should make that statement "more hurting for men" wrong. Personally I feel that when it comes to love, family and illicit relationships, we all get the same hurt if the partner had one, but yes, How much we suffer or we dont depends on the person how s/he handles the whole thing. And I cannot agree with that statement or whatever.

Pain is pain and I see no reason to delineate who hurts when experiencing it. If one loves someone and they are being cheated on, I can't see how it can be compared outside of someone who perhaps did not really love a person. Also if one is cheated on more then one time the pain is not a lessor one either. It is pain and how can one measure it?

I have to agree with you here. It hurts the same for a man or a woman. I should know, I had that happen to me. It is not easy to deal with, but time does heal all wounds.

I to don't agree with this friend. It depends on the person who loves more but not in the gender. It also depends on the attachment with each other...

I think,many man is saying that because of there ego..When a girl cheated on them they think that girl is stepping on there ego..But its not fair on the girls side..Both girl and guys have feelings that must not hurt..

I've never heared about this but if it's true, it might be right. I don't personally know many women that cheated on their boyfriends. Men cheat on their girlfriends more often and women get some sort of paranoia when it comes to infidelity. I have a really bad oppinion about women who cheat on their boyfriends. Some of them are doing it even if they have a good relationship

I agree with you