How long do you think couples should know each other before they get married?

@reco13 (605)
Philippines
October 28, 2011 7:21am CST
For me, there's no specific number of years for two lovers to know each other. You may be together for the longest time but still does not know each other well. And in some cases, they have just been together for a while and suddenly decides to settle down. But I guess 6months to 1 year is enough for two couples to know each other and get married. What's your point of view here?
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@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
31 Oct 11
How much else, the time that we have, we will not know each other. It is difficult to recognize one another, not all we can know. That should be owned by the couple, is to understand each other, and understanding.
• Philippines
31 Oct 11
Exactly theres no specific time for a couple to get married. .Its up to them if they really know each other and feel the spark that they are really meant to be to start a new chapter in life as a married couple . .
• India
29 Oct 11
I think if they are new to each other that means in arranged marriages they have to be in touch with each other minimum of 1yr to understand each other. In this time they can be able to know about there positive as well as negative points of each other...
• United Kingdom
29 Oct 11
Well I totally agree with you. For me too, about 1 year would be a good enough time for someone to know if he/she can live with that person for the rest of his life.A period less than that and both the partners would be putting up their best to impress the other or keep the other impressed. A period longer than that would be better but I have observed that when a couple lives too long together without getting married, they tend to stick to each other as a habit rather than having any real need to do so. Thus in such cases, you might me marrying just to avoid a drastic change in your life(mind you, it could be for your own good)rather than because you love the person.So if you have spent one year with a person, its time to take a call!!
@sjvg1976 (18386)
• Delhi, India
29 Oct 11
Hello Reco, There is as such no time limit in which lovers have to know each other.There are people who take few days to know each others and there are people who takes life time to know each other and still could not. In my country we have a culture of arrange marriage so i did arrange marriage.It took me a year to understand my wife and she also took the same time to understand me.We had no other option rather to compromise to make our married life a success so we did and now after 7 years of our marriage i can say we know each other well.My wife is so understanding as without saying me any word to her she gets a hint what i am going to say.Every day is new for us and makes us to know something new about each other. But yes there is no timeframe in which people know each other.
@cutepenguin (6457)
• Canada
29 Oct 11
I think they should know each other for long enough to get an idea of where the otehr person is planning on going with their life, so that they can see if they have compatible goals. Being in love won't necessarily sustain a relationship for your entire life, so you have to know more about the person to know if you will still be in love with them even when they do stuff that drives you nuts.
@charvill (58)
29 Oct 11
There is no specific number of years a couple should be before they settle down. As long as you've had enough time spent to know each other and you both are ready to have responsibilities, financially and emotionally stable, mature enough to handle whatever problems should arise, then I guess you two can get married already. Because I believe you will still get to know of your partner more when you already live together as husband and wife and will learn to accept the real him/her.
• United States
28 Oct 11
I don't think there is a specific number of years for a couple to get to know each other, love doesn't develop in a number of years or months. It happens fast and if someone knows in their heart that they love the person than they should be able to marry the person. A lot of people judge those who rush into marriage but they don't stop think about how much they love each other.
• Indonesia
28 Oct 11
people is complicated things. to settle down and get married, we can't count it in 6 month or a year. i marry my wife after having 2 years relationship. although now, a lot things that i can't understand about her. so i guess, we should be more patient to understand our habits and characters
@taheraa (1547)
• Giza, Egypt
28 Oct 11
6 months is enough for two couples to know each other and get married. Engagement is a good time to get both know most of the other behavior and timber, but each one of them should see the other by his or her eyes, feel by their hearts and lastly judge by their minds. LOVE IS BLIND. That is mean every one need to judge their mind as will as their heart.
@beamer88 (4268)
• Philippines
28 Oct 11
Personally, I think this really depends on the persons concerned. I mean, like you said, some may be together for a very long period of time but they still don't know each other well. Others may have spent only a few weeks but feel they know each other well enough to settle down. Call me a pessimist, but I don't really think that two people can really know each other well before settling down. Taking the risk is part of getting married. And finding new things about your partner is part of the fun in a person's married life.
• United States
28 Oct 11
For me there is no set time frame. I think people should marry after they have known each other for years. They have lived with each other for years as well.
@phillyguy (3008)
• Philippines
28 Oct 11
I agree with you it is not actually the years they are with each other that will be the decidding point to get married it is how well they already know each other and how sure they are about how they feel for each other. Some couple get married after dating just for a few months and the marriage lasts and there are some couple who've been in a relationship for years before deciding to settle down but when they get married it doesn't last that long.
@ravinskye (8242)
• United States
28 Oct 11
I think it takes a long time to really know someone. With the rate of divorce these days I would say at least a year if not longer. My friends brother just got married and they had been dating for 6 years. Sometimes you don't really know a person till you live together I think. I was with my high school boyfriend for almost 3 years. We rented a house together with 2 other friends after we graduated and it didn't take long for me to realize we were really different and couldn't live together. I think it's better to really know someone first before jumping into anything.
• India
28 Oct 11
well this is a hard question for at least me ..because i think there are no fix time of period for all couple to know each other...they depends on their mentality ,nature , and other circumstances , so i think it is unpredictable..well thanks for asking .i hove to hear for you in future ...bye
@nezavisima (7418)
• Bulgaria
28 Oct 11
I think it depends on what the couple feels they are experiencing. how in love and what they passed. I can say for myself personally to me and my husband we had enough half a year and a bit more to understand that we are together. I can say that the most important thing is to know whether you really love then it will be ordered as you want. you just have to know what we want and with whom we then time is on our side. interesting discussion. nice day!
@allknowing (65005)
• India
28 Oct 11
After the couple finds the chemistry they are searching for and a few other basic traits in each other that they feel will tide them over life together there is no reason to wait as it is only after marriage that they start their life together and that could be brand new and never experienced before. It is trust and understanding that they will help them wade through.