Saying "I do" instead of "I did" in exchanging of vows
October 29, 2011 12:54am CST
I and my 8 years old son attended a Church wedding yesterday and happened me as one of their principal sponsors, The wedding was very orderly. I left my son with my relatives because I was sit in front together with other sponsors the wedding vows just take an hours including picture takings after the wedding we go home immediately we did not go in the reception area because I have to attend my youngest son's Halloween's Party so we were cramming to go home. Now, while we were in the car on our way home, my son asks me like this "mama why the groom and the bride said 'I do? instead of I did?" he was referring to exchanging of vows. I ask him why you say that...he told me "their answer should be "I did" because they already made love the evidence already visible on the tummy of the bride! which was true because the bride was on her fifth month pregnancy. What is your say about this mylotters please share.....
29 Oct 11
I find that question funny and entertaining. It's amazing how simple a child's mind can be. For me, my answer to his question would be, they used I do, instead of I did, because they still love each other even after consummating their love. You son is a very bright child, you should guide him more so that he will learn only the things that would make him better as a person..
29 Oct 11
@bhonti Thanks, yes I agree with you! my son is very inquisitive, he keeps on asking things everything he sees around him, that's why if he asks me something, I give him my best honest and truth answer. Yes I do is the right word to say because they just giving their vows for the first time in front of officiating minister or priest witnessed by their principal and secondary sponsors despite of pre-marital s*x already consummated. @reallysuny I was not start this discussion just for fun but instead to weigh what is best as for an eight years old kid notice the right usage of the present tense from the past tense and even me was surprised with his question because I did not expect him as keenly observant. Sometimes, having vows in front of people does not mean that the "love" is always present between the groom and the bride but still we heard the I do's from them, because it was made uniformity. In God's plan, His sole purpose from establishing marriage is for the welfare of mankind. Agree or disagree that sometimes also this welfare was violated by many.
1 Nov 11
It's really hard being a parent right? I am not yet one, and I'm a bit afraid of what type of parent I will turn out to be. You are doing a great job racing your son like that, being as honest as possible and treating his question like an adult one, I hope I can answer my child's curiosity as best as I can.
29 Oct 11
Yeah , I do is the right term and as for my son maybe because of his young age his thinking power is not yet as broad as ours. His basis of saying such might seeing that the bride was already pregnant and the activity of husband and wife's already consummated.