Friends Skipping Meetups and Wasting My Time... AAAaaaaaRRRggggHHHH!

@diamania (7037)
Netherlands
October 29, 2011 6:51am CST
Is this a rant? Hell yeah! I am absolutely positively disgusted by how some of my friends do not respect my time while they expect my to respect theirs. Some examples: I was asked to organize a halloween party together with my best female friend ( I wonder for how long...) I called her to ask when she had time. The result was that I had to throw my whole schedule out of the window and start rescheduling appointments. I'm fine with that... BUTTTT heck... it was 5 minutes past the time we agreed on. So I called her... "Yeah sorry I am so busy... *insert more excuses*", I replied with "Remember I told you I had to reschedule everything for this appointment? It's not like I am not busy...!!!" Really I was fed up pretty badly because I know she can't be busy. This happened again twice... now the halloween party is cancelled thanks to her... Just 5 minute ago she called me asking if I told a friend we have in common that I was surely going to have an appointment today. I replied saying that wasn't the case. Upon which she said: " That's better because I am not sure if I am going to come over today I'll let you know later today..." *Insert a boatload of expletives here* Why on earth am I wasting my time with people like that?? I just can't let go off people so easily and that annoys me too!
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4 responses
• United States
30 Oct 11
Ditch your friends and get some new ones. You teach people how to treat you. Stop wasting your time with people who give you no value in return. It's that simple, really.
@diamania (7037)
• Netherlands
31 Oct 11
That's indeed an option I keep open. I've wasted too much time in my life already on 'one-way traffic' friendships. Thanks for your reply. :) I hope you'll have an awesome time here!
• United States
29 Oct 11
Diamania!!!! Welcome back. Hum this my dear is not a faithful friend. I can understand if an emergency occurred but it does not sound like it. I would say that next time, if ever she does want your full attention to something that you do not cancel your plans especially with the risk of being blown off again. I won't say let go of the friend but just saying that perhaps you should not be made so available to her each time "she wants". I would only do so if I had nothing else already planned but agreeing to meet, I would say now you are not going to stand me up right. This will prompt her to understand that while friends respect is important. Hope all else is going great for you as we have not seen you in a long time.
@diamania (7037)
• Netherlands
31 Oct 11
I am pretty fine hardworkinggurl, I am very happy to have you in my discussion once again! I hope your life is utmost prosperous! My problem is that I don't show people that my time is valuable sufficiently. I am too much of a nice guy. I've known this for quite a while now and it keeps hard to cope with but things go better than before and that's a good thing. Hardworkinggurl, I think you're awesome! I believe that needs to be said :)
@mantab24 (28)
• Indonesia
15 Dec 11
Friend is a friend who can understand us. Differences with a casual friend who is only there when we pleased. While we are sad at the moment, he disappeared. Othe times you do not work with him. Find a friend or other friends who may be invited cooperation with you. Keep the spirit and do not be sad. There is still another time.
@Hatley (164534)
• Garden Grove, California
28 Nov 11
hi Diana yes real friends just do not act like that, so she must be a selfish best friend after you rescheduled everything and then here excuse was" I am too busy" I want to put in male cow there he he. too bad that the Halloween party bit the dust.Yes it does make one wonder why you are wasting your time with those kind of friends but its hard I know to just let go friends you have known for a long time. what a predicament for sure.