to love someone, donot give your all.=(

Philippines
October 29, 2011 10:06pm CST
i feel really sad..i don't know how do you control yourself when loving someone, you end up doing a lot of stupid things..not realizing the consequences.you'll end up discovering more of your weaknesses and feeling alienated by it..sometimes i do not know myself anymore..i let my life revolve around one person.i give everything because i love that person. its scary when you lose yourself,everything is out of my grip anymore..i feel really vulnerable. you've been giving your all then they found you boring..telling you your selfish when all you do is understand.damn i just hate this feeling
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@Mashnn (4503)
30 Oct 11
An advice to you. Always leave something for yourself. You never know what might happen later. In most cases, love make us really blind that we think we have got it all when sincerely we have nothing.
• Philippines
30 Oct 11
i guess when you show how much you love them ..they tend to get used to that love and then take you for granted.they are not threatened anymore for they are confident that they have you..its just bad that you'd hope that if only they would appreciate what you've shown them.. its just depressing..
@mods196621 (3631)
• Philippines
30 Oct 11
Love is truly confusing and hard to understand things around why. Sometimes its hard to hold in our hands the relationship we had. When we hold tight it will go, when we are relax to let it flow freely again it's also go. We dont know what is the right thing to do to have a good relationship. And that is also my experience. All i know is if i give love means i gave it with no condition so i will not be hurt. If the time that we break i know to myself that it is my rule.. so why i need to cry? Love is free and you are free to hurt also. Based on my experienced don't give all points to your love but just make it a half so you wont be hurt too much at the end. And i learned also to let the love free. No condition. Just let it be, let it free then when it comes back its yours. So do not be sad. When they tell you that you are selfish dont mind them for as long as to yourself you gave all the best.. so that's it. Let's enjoy our life.
• Philippines
30 Oct 11
hi chillmaik, When we love someone we do and give almost everything forget to left something for ourselves. But this is natural it happens to many so we must know when is too much. happy mylotting
• Belgium
30 Oct 11
i loved someone and i did everything for her , now we broke up , we had a relationship for 2years , and we desided to be soul mades if you now that its like the best of best friends wel a couple weeks ago we had a fight and now we are a month further and it still aint no good , i feel really sad and told er , she said to me that its verry hard to forgive me , a i feel really sad i am like verry populair and now a lot of people and other girls but i could let everyone down just for here , i dont wanna lose here i have many problems in my life and she helped me before i want to get that back and be the "soul" mates we have been !
@charvill (58)
30 Oct 11
There is no wrong in loving the only wrong thing here is that we give too much love to other and we forget to leave something for our self. Remember, what ever happens, it is always us , our own self, is the only one who will resolve whatever the outcome may be. I mean before others can help us it is still us who can help ourselves from the vulnerability we feel. Remember also, after what happens, life has to go on. Our life must not revolve to only one person because we are not created for only one person. There is always rainbow after the rain and who knows the best one for us might be there. be strong, you still have your family, friends, acquaintances, who can be of help help and will be by your side always.
@lmpalco (89)
• Philippines
30 Oct 11
I am also agree on not giving your all to someone. But behind my back, i thought the only thing that could make you completely happy is to give and surrender yourself to someone that you really love. No matter what happen, never regret all the things you did or do as that also makes you wiser. Just give everything you can so you will never blame your self in the end.