There aren't two sides to everything.....there are THOUSANDS!
By Theresaaiza
@Theresaaiza (10487)
Australia
October 30, 2011 11:38am CST
For two days I filled in for a beach resort nurse and met many wonderful people on the job. I also won new friends. I dunno how this officemate saw me that she found it rather easy to open up some of her personal matters.
She mentioned that due to stress from her live in partner's "headache-inducing" personality, she has had at least two episodes of blood spotting. (She is 4 month's pregnant). I offered my sympathies, of course advice applicable to her. All the while I had my heart pouring out for this girl.
I was just surprised to hear from the nurse I filled in for when she came back this morning, that although this officemate really was a pitiful thing, some of her problems are all self-inflicted. That she makes a big deal out of very minute things.
In fact, her live in partner thought she was just faking the bleeding problem to get his attention.
Sometimes it is disappointing to have too many sides to everything.
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9 responses
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
1 Nov 11
That is true. And sometimes there is nothing you can do to change how people see a particular situation. Makes it also so hard to be caught in a scandal, much worse if you are a public figure because the sides to a story is as numerous as the people who view it.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
31 Oct 11
There are many times I see people as you mentioned really crying out for help. They do not know how to actually ask for help and instead like to over dramatize situations. Being four months pregnant I would hope someone truly spoke to her and explained the type of implications that can occur if in fact true.
Yes I have found that there always are more sides to a story and also that sometimes some just really need someone to hear and constuctively critic.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
1 Nov 11
I did tell her that pregnancy can really cause a roller coaster of emotions. That's basing on textbook, not experience since I'm still single but know some of these things through school.
But according to someone, she had been that way ever since and even to her past relationships. It probably just worsened now that she's pregnant
@GardenGerty (157546)
• United States
30 Oct 11
Not sure how you can fake spotting. Yes, some people live a life of drama, but that does not mean we cannot have compassion for them. Other times I guess it is wise to take a breather and not listen. I agree that every person involved in any given situation has a side. Right and wrong are seldom absolute.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
1 Nov 11
Whether she faked it or not, the bottomline is this had been her attention-seeking mechanism. It could be that her live-in partner's barely giving her that or she is asking way too much. But whatever it is I feel sorry that they had to live that way.
@AmbiePam (85441)
• United States
30 Oct 11
Wow. I like the title of this discussion because it describes it so well. I know what you mean. You hear someone talk about their problems and you may be so hurt for them. Then it turns out that whole story can be turned on its head. Saying there are thousands of sides is pretty accurate. It's amazing how many ways a person's story can be looked at just depending on who is telling their viewpoint.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
1 Nov 11
Thank you for the compliment on my title. Over the years, of people suddenly telling and confiding their lives to me, I have certainly proven that fact - that stories and accounts can really differ, agree or disagree, in many ways.
I just started to worry that this girl might be sharing to whoever she feels like confiding just to fish for sympathy.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
1 Nov 11
You are right. We can never judge anyone unless we know the full story, which in most cases, we can never get the full story.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
30 Oct 11
I guess you know it since you are also a nurse.
Maybe she is just faking things to get attention and since she is pregnant,some pregnant women have this behavior (unless it is her personality)
I knew few women having odd or become indifferent during their pregnancies.
Right now I have a friend who's sister is on it's first trimester and was acting oddly, might be due to her conception.
At least you have given your part as a friend...that matters most.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
1 Nov 11
That was what I told her exactly that her sensitivity is just caused by her pregnancy but according to my friend nurse, this kind of personality has been going on for a long time, even during her past relationships.
@rameshchow (4426)
• India
31 Oct 11
Four months pregnant can say the truth only.
Some of our friends wanting more details about this.
some are not believing her.
But i am agreeing with this. The women have to think and be wise about the men who are gonna marry them.
