Mummy calls for 911...

United Arab Emirates
October 31, 2011 3:10am CST
Hi mylotters I am new here in mylot and I guess this is a good venue to seek help to mums out there that is in the same situation. I have a 6 yr old son and he was diagnosed to have autism when he was 2/3 years old and during that time we were away from him and worked abroad so he was left with my family. so literally we were not able to raise him. our hands were tied at that time so we had no choice but to be away from him. finally now after so many years we are together as a family and migrated to another country. this is where the toughest battle began. apart from autism, he also has SPD sensory processing disorder which means he has concerns with tactile, proprioception, speech, eating habits, etc. he is just starting to talk 1-2 words. when he was still with my family (parents/siblings) he just eats the following : fried chicken, french fries, sometimes Barbecue, biscuits, bread, cerelac and milk-still bottlefed. after we have migrated, he stopped drinking milk and eating cerelac (which is the the most nutritious that he consumes) whatever i do he does not want to eat anything but fried food and biscuits and bread. whenever i offer something he would just smell it and would gag. I have been reading so many books about picky eaters and try it but i guess he's just not used to having other food or really cannot tolerate because of his condition. I have also tried to starve him and just put on the table mashed potatoes or porridge that i make so when he gets so hungry he would choose to eat what i prepared. but he would rather not eat anything and just drink plenty of water...I am so worried because he's losing weight. What else should i do? I need some advice tips and i would really appreciate it. thank you!
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@edsss17 (4398)
• Philippines
31 Oct 11
hello po. As the eldest in our family, I used to be a sub-parent to my younger siblings when my both parents are not around. There are times these little fellas are picky to the food they eat.. So, I tried to play a contest for them. I used to tell them that whoever ate a lot will win a prize... and its effective! :) Hope it works for you. God bless!
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• Philippines
31 Oct 11
Haha,that one is cool bunso! Might as well do that too to my daughter,lol! She's also a picky eater,waaaa!!!
@edsss17 (4398)
• Philippines
31 Oct 11
I'm telling you nay, its effective! ;)
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• Philippines
31 Oct 11
Haha,I think it'll work with my daughter bunso,will try it tomorrow when I need to,lol! Thanks for the idea bunso! I hope this one works with my cuz too,hehe!
@GardenGerty (96662)
• Marion, Kansas
1 Nov 11
A few years ago I worked in a preschool that included children with disabilities. We had nutritious meals served to us. Children were required to put some of everything on their plate but they did not have to eat it. One of the things I learned was that very picky eaters have to be exposed to a new food at least thirteen times before they will try it. With a child with the issues your son has, it may take more exposures. So do not make him try foods, but do make him put them on his plate. Another thing that we did with all children with learning issues was to teach them sign language. I do not know what your native language is, your post shows a great command of some words and ideas in English that many native English speakers have problems with. If English is your family's language of choice you can check into ASL (American Sign Language) or SEE ( Signing Exact English). Among other things autism is a communications disorder. Adding sign language gives another method to communicate. I have also worked with adult young people with autism. The young man I helped with in a group home situation mainly did eat junk type processed foods, with lots of calories, like frozen pizza. I saw someone say that he is adjusting to the new routine, and they are probably right. Someone else said to make sure he eats healthy breads and that sounds good as well. If you can get sweet potato fries they have more nutrition, as do fries with their skin on. Do you get any support from the schools where you are? Has he had therapies before you moved, and can you continue them? Things like speech therapy or occupational therapy for the proprioception and the tactile issues. I actually just recently found a print out about sensory development. I hope that some others can help you with their experience.
• United Arab Emirates
3 Nov 11
Thank you for that very informative response. I was trying that out actually its been more than a week now he looks at it and fiddle. he is verbal sometime i feel he is just lazy to talk or because he cannot pronounce the words clearly he would rather not bother. but we keep on encouraging him to do so. he's got therapist and went to a sped school but here he's not enrolled yet until he is ready, he pinches and gets aggressive when he can't say what he want and we have checked out 2 schools and wouldnt have a kid who has behavioral probs. another thing to tackle is is socialization skills. if ever you can find anything helpful and informative for me to read please please let me know. thanks!!! =)
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@GardenGerty (96662)
• Marion, Kansas
5 Nov 11
Not being able to communicate contributes to aggression. That is why I suggested sign, or even making up your own signs with him. We also made communications boards with pictures of favorite places and things and they could be pointed to. I moved from that care situation with the adult autistic young man and his mother eventually put him with another agency, and then in a group home. That made me sad. I took a promotion, but I think I could have worked with him for a long time. I was just beginning to understand and "read" some of his behaviors, but most of the staff at our company were afraid of him. I was not.
@mtrguanlao (5527)
• Philippines
31 Oct 11
Hi cuz! It's really tough to be a mom of a child with such conditions and I'm glad you're doing everything for your child,you are one of those moms who really care and love their child,I honor you! I may not have the experience of taking care of an autistic child but based on your post,I think he is still adjusting to your new environment. He may be wondering why he doesn't see other members of the family. I guess you should just give him for the meantime what he wants cuz. You can also experiment on his food. If he likes bread,choose the breads that are rich in vitamins,there are already breads in the market that have vitamins in it. I know in time,he will adopt to your new home and I hope everything goes fine and well by then.
• United Arab Emirates
3 Nov 11
Yes cuz it is really a challenge and the trick is you equip yourself by reading, reading and observing...but then again even if you do all these the experience of others does not work for another. Thanks for all your suggestions, I think you have a point. now i am trying another technique. will keep you posted if it does work. =)