Feeling nervous to be a mom...

India
November 1, 2011 4:05am CST
Hi friends.. You know that i am pregnant and now 7th month. With in two months i will hold my baby in my hands.I have to take care of the child in every aspect and every minute. I am somewhat nervous. Can i do all the things which were needed by my child's growth?? I no i will do every thing that i can do to make her healthy.But...Something is making me nervous.
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18 responses
• Philippines
1 Nov 11
That is normal, when i was pregnant also with my daughter i felt nervous too because i am already 36 at that time and i am in a high risk situation but i just kept on praying. Whenever i felt the fear and apprehension i pray to God for help. Of course we don't really know what to do exactly when the baby comes especially if it is your first time. In my case, theoretically i know what to do because i am a nurse but when i was there already i dont know how to bear down for my baby to come out. It was good the doctor and the nurses coached me how and when to bear down but it was so difficult because i was given an epidural anesthesia and i could not feel the contraction. I think it should have been better if i had a natural spontaneous delivery than the one i had. Anyway, i advice you read books and ask other mothers who have given birth already. Also, just dont think about it, when your baby comes out your motherly instinct will come out naturally and you can do what you have to do. Follow what your Ob-Gyne's advice and trust her/him. Do not forget to pray also. Good luck!
• Philippines
5 Nov 11
You are most welcome. By the way, what is the exclamation point mean after my response and comment, did i abuse something?
@bingskee (5238)
• Philippines
1 Nov 11
hello to you. keep your cool. do not be anxious as the delivery day is nearing. you have to be healthy and exercise the mind. whatever it is that you feel, the unborn child feels so it is best that you keep a positive mind. it is understandable to feel nervous. but try not to be.
@naseemkum (1804)
• India
2 Nov 11
Really its be cool to receive ur baby in ur hands. Ur qualified to be most wonderful character in the world. If ur daughter or if ur sister u wont feel this much happy but when ur promoting urself to be a mother then ur entering in the most precious world. Just go head and take care of ur baby like ur protected from ur mother. Just dont be nervous as it wil affect child's birth. Happiness wil bring u double happiness when ur pregnant thats bring twins babies sometimes.
@KOSTAS499 (1625)
• Greece
8 Nov 11
I wish you all the best for you and your baby! Don't worry! Inside you there is the ancient instict of being a mother, which is forged through the centuries. It will wake up, the first time you hold your baby in your arms. You will be a great mother, don't you worry. The fact that you are feeling nervous gives us a sign...Just love her and you'll have no choice but to do the best for her.
• United States
3 Nov 11
Hi! Congratulations! I remember those feelings too; wondering if I will respond the right way. Thanks to the support of my family and two very easy-going kids, I did. When they woke in the middle of the night, it was usually hunger or a need for a change. They usually fell asleep soon afterwards. Being soothing for them is another factor. For example, set yourself an easy schedule and don't be afraid to ask for help. Play some soothing music and take walks if the environment permits. (Your library can help with this one.) If you feel yourself becoming anxious, set the child down in a safe environment and _safely_ calm yourself down for a few minutes. Everyone feels stress when welcoming a new bundle so don't feel that you're all alone because you're not. You will come to a balance...just give it some time. Keep your life in balance, be there for the new one, but don't forget yourself even if its a few minutes for reading or a CD.
@MaryLynn321 (2680)
• United States
3 Nov 11
Most Mom's to be are nervous at some point during their pregnancy or after they give birth. I remember when I was getting ready to go home, they had wheeled me out to the car and then handed me the baby once I was in the car. At that time we didn't need car seats. I panicked and said to myself. I am responsible for this life. It sounds like you are looking forward to having your baby. Just take it day by day and enjoy this time. Take care of yourself, so that you will have all the energy and strength to take care of your precious little bundle. Don't be afraid or nervous, you will do fine. If you are really nervous about something, talk to your Mom, or a love one or even your doctor. They can help set your mind at ease. Wishing you good luck and a happy and healthy baby.
@chertsy (3817)
• United States
2 Nov 11
With my first child I was scared. It's normal to feel that way. You know everything about taking care of a child. The closer you get to your due date, you get nervous. It's normal. Once they place your baby in your arms, the momma bear instinct kicks in. Best thing is to just relax and enjoy yourself, won't be long you will be wishing for sleep.
@khare_1005 (1311)
• India
2 Nov 11
hello anusha, first of all take my best wishes in advance to be a mother soon. dear,this anxiety is faced by each one of us.this is going to be a complete new experience to you so this anxiety will obviously be there.it was the same with me too.don't worry my dear,you will be all fine and you can handle everything properly like every mother does.you will get to learn handling the baby,the moment you get him/her in your hands.
@aerous (13475)
• Philippines
2 Nov 11
Don't be nervous, friend. Because you may now real mom and want to say congrats. It might an exciting feelings I think not nervous...
@GemmaR (8527)
2 Nov 11
It is incredibly normal to feel nervous about being a Mum, especially if this is your first baby. We can often worry about the fact that we don't really know what to do. There is a lot of information out there about pregnancy and how to cope with that, but then there is very little available for you to read about how to look after your newborn baby when they're actually here with you. All that I can say is that you will cope perfectly fine. Us women are meant to have children, and our bodies and minds are set so that we will fit into the role perfectly. You will look back at this post in a couple of months time and wonder how it is that you ever thought that you didn't know how to look after your new baby, because it will seem like so natural to you.
@naseemkum (1804)
• India
2 Nov 11
I dont know how can we take care of ourselves during pregnancy because being a man im not aware of this. But im sure that my mom really feels uneasy to face problems during those months he caring me. As if i want to take care of my mother i need to take care of her more because without her i cant see this world. But be sure to prescribe what doctors told u to take care of ur health.
@mantis36 (4238)
• Philippines
2 Nov 11
Even Adam and Eve as the first parents knows how to take care of their child.... therefore, we all can also.... we know everything what's good for the baby and what's not.... and if there is important questions to ask for.... myLot is ready to type questions and i am sure within 30 seconds, there is an instant reply.... that is the power of Forums.... agree or disagree but expect more replies and choose what's best among the replies for the baby and for the children.....
@curmont (343)
• United States
2 Nov 11
That something is called being a mom, all good mothers do it. We worry all the time about our children and their safety and their health. Are they happy, are they hanging out with the right people, will the be successful in life, what is that rash on their leg...we worry about everything. If you were not a bit anxious and worried then I would be worried about you, so this is what you need to know...the worries will never go away but all the moments you will share with your child make it well worth it, eventually your child will be responsible for almost every grey hair on your head and all the worrying will probably take 5 years off your life but believe me when I say there is nothing else that even compares to the love of a child and knowing that the smart, loving, amazing child that stands before you is there because you loved them enough to worry about all the little things. You are already a great mother so I won't tell you not to worry but I will tell just be careful you don't spend to much time thinking about the worries because you don't want to miss a single moment.
@SIMPLYD (74863)
• Philippines
2 Nov 11
Don't feel nervous. Just be happy that you will soon be seeing your baby. Your maternal instinct will come out , the moment you see your baby. You will know of what to do, though a bit unsure of it. It would be better if you can request your mother or your mother-in-law to be with you and your husband when you finally give birth.
• Philippines
2 Nov 11
Something's making you nervous? Oh that's natural, I presume it's your first baby. I'm so excited for you my dear. I hope you will post your baby's pictures here at myLot.
@stanley777 (7177)
• Philippines
2 Nov 11
I think it's just normal to get nervous and sometimes in doubt with our capability on how to deal with things if it's the first time. But I guess it will come naturally to us on what to do if we come face to face with the situation. Like you said you don't know what to expect of yourself if your baby comes out. But as an expectant mom to be you can asked advice from your friends, mother or sister on what you should do as a mother. You can read books about caring for babies too.I know your mother instinct will comes out naturally when the time comes.
1 Nov 11
I felt the same a few months ago. Don't worry too much. Just enjoy and believe that you can be a good mom. Let your partner and your family know what you need and what you feel. Share your feeling to someone you can rely on. When you're very tired, have a rest for a while and ask help from your partner to take care of your baby.
1 Nov 11
I felt the same, too. Relax, don't worry too much, and just enjoy and believe that you can be a better mom. Everything's gonna be okay. It's gonna be tiring, though. Let your partner and your family know what you need. Don't force yourself to do all the things. You're not alone. Just share what you feel to your partner, friends.
@ravinskye (8245)
• United States
1 Nov 11
It's completely normal to be nervous. I worked in daycare for 5 years before I had my first child and even with all that experience I was still nervous. A lot of it will come to you as instinct. You will learn what kind of cry means what and how to handle it. There is always help available too. Even if you don't have family, doctors and nurses can offer advice, other friends and ofcourse there is tons of information available on the internet. Don't worry, you'll be great!