How can I prove to my girl that I am not cheating?

@oiixdaii (1059)
Philippines
November 2, 2011 3:19am CST
My girlfriend always accuses mo of cheating. Ever since we started our relationship, I never cheated on her. I gave her my password, showed her my cellphone, showed her my telephone bills, gave her my cellphone over the weekend just to prove to her that I am not cheating. I think I have done everything to prove to her that I'm not cheating. Please give me advice on what should I do so that she would stop accusing me of cheating.
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34 responses
• Philippines
2 Nov 11
Good day I heard some of my friends saying that the one who keeps accusing that his/her partner is cheating is the one who cheats. .I often heard this one from my friends . .Are you happy her or with your relationship with her?. .if so, then understand your girl why she is like that or maybe she has s bad experience with her past relationship that her partner cheats her and she is just want to make sure that with you. .why dont you talk to her and tell her that you're not cheating and you are ever faithful and loyal to her Good luck. .:)
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• India
2 Nov 11
Hi. Love can not progress with mistrust and suspicions. Love also demands reassurance. The former, by your admission, you have done in full measure. What remains then is the mistrust your GF carries about you. In my assessment, this is, in a majority of the cases result of insecurity brought about due to crisis of confidence in self or induced by someone with malice or due to the person's predisposition. You may need to change tack a bit, take a little more time at each encounter [if you are convinced its not all over] nad try to find out what it is with her. Is there a sense of inadequacy in her?-for some weird perception? Can you discreetly assess if someone is poisoning her mind all the time. And most importantly, and this may be very difficult to assess-if she had some prior experience which is creating this crisis of confidence. I think you may have to determine how far are you willing to go-to set things in shape and actually spend some tender, loving & caring moments! Hope you will succeed. :D
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• India
2 Nov 11
I'm sorry. Pl note a correction in the sentence "The former, by...." & change it to "The latter, by..." Thanks.
@tiina05 (2318)
• Philippines
2 Nov 11
hello, What you do is really a good boy boyfriend. LOL! Seriously it was nice to hear from you that you do that for your girlfriend. As long as you are true and you are really sincere of what you are doing she will realize it by herself. You know what? Honestly, I also jealous to my boyfriend in everything he made and I still accuse him of cheating but you know he never give up and now I just realize that he just really love me and he is really honest to me. Sometimes you cannot hold the mind of your girlfriend but you must mean all what you said and do not do what she dont want you to do. alright?
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• Philippines
2 Nov 11
This is an example of trauma. Either she's been a rough relationship where she's been cheated or she's the one who cheated. That's why she's so anxious or suspicious all the time. The way she behaves is related to a particular experience. She know that very well. You have to talk about this to her. Don't just let her accuse you, both of you should have a matured conversation. But there's also a possibility where people around her are telling her you're cheating - gossips. Then another possibility is maybe you're too friendly around other girls or women that others might interpret it as cheating. You should be aware of your every action.
@mariahhh (1328)
• United Arab Emirates
2 Nov 11
I can only figure out three possible reasons why she is acting like that. First, maybe your way of dealing with girls is making her jealous or paranoid. Are you too friendly to other girls? Maybe your actions are kind of flirty but you don't just don't notice. Second, Maybe she already had an experienced of being cheated on. Her previous boyfriend might have been cheated on her that is why she is so cautious now and scared that you might do the same. Third, she might be guilty, some people are very suspicious of their partner because they are the one who is cheating. It might be one of these three reasons, or something else. Maybe you should talk to her and ask her why she's acting that way. Let her know that you feel hurt because she accuses you of cheating.
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@tiina05 (2318)
• Philippines
2 Nov 11
hello, What you do is really a good boy boyfriend. LOL! Seriously it was nice to hear from you that you do that for your girlfriend. As long as you are true and you are really sincere of what you are doing she will realize it by herself. You know what? Honestly, I also jealous to my boyfriend in everything he made and I still accuse him of cheating but you know he never give up and now I just realize that he just really love me and he is really honest to me. Sometimes you cannot hold the mind of your girlfriend but you must mean all what you said and do not do what she dont want you to do. alright?
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@cgrant (270)
• Spanish Town, Jamaica
2 Nov 11
Sometimes people are insecure because they are dishonest. Personally you have done enough to prove to her that you are not a cheater. Probably she is the one that is cheating but because of guilt the blame is placed on you. Some people thinks that because they are cheating their partner must be cheating too. Have you ever seen her cellphone? Do you know her password? All i am saying is that your girlfriend may be accusing you when you are the one that should be accusing her. I have proven that women are better at cheating than men. what do you think about that statement?
@umabharti (3976)
• India
2 Nov 11
First let ur self know what or why she feel that way that your a cheater.Did she has some experience before which made her feel everyone do cheat or else does she has some family things which makes her to suspect u. As you try the most to prove the more she will start suspecting .Once she finds that you are genuine then she will never feel u in that way.Give time for urself and dont make ur self tense with that.Its life all these things do happen.
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• Philippines
2 Nov 11
What i am thinking is she is in the first time relationaship,or she is experiencing with other boy who is cheated,and heard from others... Being a jeelouse,or accuse you always is not good ,because at te ed of that there is fighting,and love turn to others..finding someone to love with.. Now how can you prove you lvoe her?And you said you alread \y some of your info and others... If you lvoe her,you can still be faithful with,,and prove always you love,and try to say something that you are discourage because of accusing you that it is not true.. Maybe she is experience with other who cheate..?Are you the first boyfriend of her?
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@ShepherdSpy (8562)
• Omagh, Northern Ireland
2 Nov 11
Have you behaved in some way before that she might have reason to suspect you of seeing someone else? If there is or was any evidence,it would be difficult to persuade her to think otherwise..or if you have done nothing in the past to cause this behaviour,is She the Jealous type?
• Omagh, Northern Ireland
2 Nov 11
If jealousy is the root of this,your efforts to allay her suspicions might not do any good..if you are giving her your cellphone to prove you're not using it to call others,She might then suspect you had another phone to do so-jealousy can get quite irrational in some cases..
@Mashnn (4503)
9 Mar 12
If you have done all this and she stills doubts you, then she has serious trust issues that she need to resolve or she maybe she would be the one cheating on you.
@maratus (184)
• Indonesia
9 Mar 12
You should put your girlfriend to be the first priority with give her attentions, including small intention like text her when she's gonna sleep, and never talk another woman or look compromising when you near her.
@bubuth (1816)
• Philippines
9 Mar 12
I think if you do everything just to prove to her that you are not cheating, i think she is the one that having a problem in your relationship. Ask her if she really love you and if her answer is yes, ask her why she is not trusting you. Love also need a trust in each other. If she is thinking that you always cheat that is a prove that she really love you but she don't trust you.
@aerous (13465)
• Philippines
17 Nov 11
Well, no need to prove herself that your not cheated on her. Just show her more affection and love...the comfort that she need maybe lacking? Give her more important than your friends. She maybe jealous or suspecting you cheater due to more time to friends than her. If she still not believe in you besides everything you do with her. Your girlfriend has a behavioral problem that affect her mind to believe you are faithful to her... She maybe has a broken family that is why those things she can witness on her grow up affect her behavior...just find out about it so that you can make another ways to comfort her more and more
@liumirror (138)
• China
9 Nov 11
I think it is a behaviour that your girlfriend love you so much.But it is really uncomfortable,which always saying you cheat her.You should tell her your feeling about her mistrust.In my country there is a idiom:To measure another's foot by one's own last.You can tell her say:"If I always suspect you, what about your feeling?" Then ,She maybe think about it.Hope your girlfriend will understand you and trust you.I admire the person which love each other.Hope you love for ever.
@WakeUpKitty (8704)
• Netherlands
5 Nov 11
Stop showing her everything. Nothing will ever be good enough. Unless you were cheating her and lied about that or you had a part in your life you did that there is no way to prove it time after time after time. If you did do that to her it wlll take time to forget. If you never did it, it's her problem. She has a lack of selfesteem plus is not able to trust anyone. This has nothing to do with you. If the last is the case and your girlfriend is not working on it your relationship with her will be worser and worser and she will make your life as miserable as it can be. This is not the way love should be. If she can't change it's better to end the relationship.
@hexebella (1138)
• Philippines
4 Nov 11
Your relationship seems to be toxic if accusations and suspicions comes along with it. It clearly shows that she doesn't trust you at all. I have been cheated and betrayed for two times, but still in my relationship now, I give all the trust that i can and we are in a long distance relationship. I also don't agree to give passwords for cellphones and email addresses. These are individual's right to privacy. If I were you, I would simply get out of that relationship. Difficult, yes....but it would be more difficult if you get married, have children and still the same situation, it would be more complicated to get out of it. Remember that life is sooo short, if we don't have the peace and happiness, find it somewhere else. good luck!
@youless (97026)
• Guangzhou, China
3 Nov 11
I think your girl friend must love you so much so that she will have so many unreasonable doubts and worries. When a girl is in love, she is often afraid of losing him. Perhaps you can try to tell her how much you love her. Try to say it more often. Girls will never feel tired to hear that:) Besides, try to spend more time with her. This is the best gift to your girl friend. Girls are sad to be ignored. And when she is alone, she will have unlimited imagination again. I love China
@katie0 (5212)
• Japan
2 Nov 11
Hi! I think you don't have to prove anything, you tell her and show your love if it's not enough and I think it is in this case she needs profissional help. It's not your fault that in the past something happened that made she this insecure, but anyway it's not your fault it's her problem so she must work with it not to demand something from her partner.
@jazel_juan (15759)
• Philippines
2 Nov 11
You really do not have to prove anything because you are not doing anything wrong. Plus if she TRUSTS you, there is nothing she worries about and if she continues on not trusting you - then you be the one to be worried about - thinkers are doers on my book my friend..and well i have learned it. lol.