What would you do with an overbearing Mother?

Well, being the person I am, I would sit her down an lay out some ground rules and demands. Then if they are not followed, I would start a war. I will always win ,y point at any cost, I will not disappear. After I have started the war and won, then I will disappear. My mother is not like that either. But thats how I would handle it.

I well I never had an overbearing mom so I don't know how I would handle that. I guess I would yell back and when old enough to get a job and live on my own leave or try to ask other family members that are near by to live with. I know hubby's counsin's mom is overbearing so she lived with friends her last few years of high school till she went to college and then once in college lived with her dad and visits her mom some times but only to see her little sister who gets everything and can't do no wrong. She tells me I'm more of a mother to her then her own mother was. I respect her space and want what is best for her as well. She is an adult and doesn't need much parenting any more but she knows depending on the day I'll either be more of a big sister to her or a mom to her.

I think you are talking about my ex mother in law. My mom was never like that...she was loving and caring. My ex mother in law however I never did a thing right for her...she told me I was going to give her a nervous breakdown and I told her she was doing it to herself! LOL....

Thankfully my mom is not like that! And as a dad, I try not to be like that with my sons. But if I did, I'd just move away. I wouldn't have any communication with her. Out of sight, out of mind. Let her think what she thinks of me. I can make my own life, and hopefully wouldn't be judge harshly by the people that really know me well.

There is no need to talk to such a person no matter if it is your mom or someone else. The thing is these kind of people are only interested in themselves. They think the world turns around them and they only want to prove why that is and how great they are. Perhaps you are a failure or a big failure but it also can be she is not even thinking that far. Why I say this? Because she is way too busy with being right, getting to hear she is right. It's about her, not about you or being interested in you or how you develop yourself and you find your own way to be happy. I think parents should support children just like teachers should do. It's important to live your own life, make your own mistakes to find out your likes and dislikes to find yourself. My mother was a mother like that. Selfish, childish and not interested in any of her children at all. She was not able to show any feeling or love or attentive at all. So I saved myself and left at an early age. I know for many it's hard to do so since you will be alone and that's hard. For me it was the best thing I did in my life. I am also happy that I never thought for 1 single moment that my mothers attitude was because I am no good. I think it's worser if your mother gives you that feeling. I can't say I had a great childhood or life but I can say I made the best out of it and I can also say I did it myself and I am proud at myself. I was not able to change anything or to speak about it or touch my mother in any way or capture her heart but I did not let these experience ruin my life. You can't choose what happens to you as a little kid, in your childhood or life but you do have a chance if it comes to how to handle it. It is the choice to be happy and do everthing for that or to feel misserable about what happend for the rest of your life.

Hello dear, a close friend of mine also suffering from that the same situation and most of the time the effect to her self confidence is really not so good. She told me that her mother thinks that she is very useless and doesn't know everything in life. That why she also planned to go away from her home but then it doesn't happen. I could see the bad effect of having that kind of mother. She always feels that she is small and cannot to good things but then I am there to support and encourage her to move on Just accept your mom because you cannot change the reality that she is your mother. Enjoy your life and don't limit yourself on the things your other told you. Be happy

Sounds like my husband's 3rd wife. I've seen this woman in action, and her son needed to get away so badly, that he joined the Marines!!! He's now stationed in Japan. The woman is nice enough, but i can see how she'd drive the guy absolutely crazy. He's responsible and independent, and doesn't need anyone pushing him.

Mine wasn't like that either, and thank goodness, as I have enough self esteem problems without having had to deal with something like that.

Fortunately my mother wasn`t overbearing but yes, she was strict.She allowed me to do as i please but of course within limits.I have ssen an overbearing mother,one of my classmates mom.She ruled the house with an iron hand and was extremely short tempered.Both her husband and my friend werescared of her of her volatile nature.One moment she was a loving mother and the other a boiling virago.However she treated me and my friends who would visit their house often with great love as though we were her sons and would join us in our fun.I haven`t seen another lady like her in my life.

I have been in this situation before, and if I'm being completely honest, you won't be able to change your Mother because she is the way that she is. However, what you can do is talk to her about the way that she makes you feel, and you should find that you are able to get your point across clearly and calmly. If you feel as though you can do this, then you should make sure that you don't get angry, as that could be incredibly counter productive. This should mean that at least you know you've tried everything that you possibly can to make your relationship with your Mother a positive one.

The old people don't always understand young people .They are prone to measure others'corn by their own bushel.I guess this is what is called generation gap.In fact what they go on at their children bears no ill will,they hope that their children have a good future.However their children can't stand that owing to their improper way.

That would be difficult to deal with. It's hard enough knowing that we are ourselves are making mistakes, or if we think what we are doing is right, to hear someone say things otherwise constantly. For me it would be time to move out. I couldn't live under the same roof it this is how I was being treated. It would drive me crazy.

I'm not very good at "What if" discussions. I never had to face this, since my mom was always very supportive of me, as was my husband's mother was of him. My mother-in-law did hurt me many times by the way she treated our kids, who always seemed to be guilty until proved innocent. She meant well, but she has always had a suspicious nature, since many people did double-cross her in life and she's always looking for the bad in anyone but her own family. She really didn't consider our adopted kids part of the family.

Actually my mother in law is like that. I just accept the things she says in my right ear and then go out from my left ear hehe. But for real i just ignore her. I tried talking to her and she don't want to accept that she's like that. What i did, i just accepted that she's like that. She's old to argue with so I'll just understand her as well.

it is hard if you live with her but if you don;t just don't tell her what you are doing in your life. If you talk on the phone the minute she starts up tell her you will not listen to this and hang up on her

Yes it just makes anyone feel that we are not good for anyting if a mother herself puts her child down.However as the time passes and the child grows he or she comes to know that her mother is scolding or telling all that to make us good or up to the society ,how to live and how to make a success in life. Kids do get all this in their young time at school or when at college.However when they become responsible they come to know what a mother is ,she tries all the time to make her child the best at least not a bad person . A mother loves may be she sometimes hides that she loves the kid as too much of loving and caring will make the child a naughty and irresponsible which is not at all a good thing for the child. It is good not to spoil the kid with saying tht daily you shoudl improve.As some kids will feel that pain in the heart when his or her mother who has to keep everything in her heart is revealing or scolding the kid,this makes the child bad in others eyes,which no kid likes . So the mothers should behave as per her kids choice.Not to be a bad mother or not to make the kid a bad one. It depends on mother only. It is said that whole world may turn against us but the mother will be on our side always. I want to say that this goes to even a father.A father also see the wellbeing of the child .Both are important.

I am thankful too, that my mother is not like that. Had it been, i would have left her to live alone, because i know even my siblings and father wouldn't want to live with an overbearing mother and wife , respectively.