Runaway Son
@p3halliwel2005 (3156)
Philippines
November 2, 2011 8:55pm CST
Hi! I am a mother of 5. I have a son and he's now 18. I am at a lost. Since Dec. of 2010 he has been leaving our house often running away. We give him everything,clothes shelter,love, we give him education but he doesn't want it, he can play and use the computer all the time and allowed to watch dvd and tv anytime, when he asks for gym money or to play computer games outside the house I give him, I shop him clothes... All my kids have their own chores at home and they are all treated fairly. I love all my children all the same...but my son keeps running away and now he is gone for more than a month... I don't want to let him be in the street because he could learn bad things out there and be bad himself...there's the drugs and crimes...he has poor eyesight and is suffering from primary complex...I am very desperate and I want him back so so bad. IS there anyone in the Philippines who knows where I can bring my son an institution for boys or a camp that would keep him and restrain him and maybe teach him something good. Since he don't want to stay at home, I want him to be in a place I know where he is at...somewhere safe, away from harms way. Help me! Does anybody know such a place that would keep my son? I'm so so so torn I am just not showing it in front of my other children...It's tearing me apart bits by bits..I do hope somebody out there can help me find a place. I live in the Philippines in Manila. Please help me...
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6 responses
@r3jcorp (1382)
• Philippines
3 Nov 11
There are institution who can handle your problem with your son like the Preda Foundation here in Olongapo City which could give him counselling. But, I don't think it would do him good. It is better to have a counselling not only for him but also for you and your husband. Maybe it is better to ask a priest which you trust very much or a professional counsellor. For whatever our child is going through, it is better if he do it with us at his side. For now, he will never listen to you or to your husband, maybe you have a family friend which he look up like his godparents. Children do pass at that stage, we must be sure that we are available when they asked for help. Hoping for the best for you and your family.
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@p3halliwel2005 (3156)
• Philippines
10 Nov 11
Thanks for the response r3jcorp.I appreciate it. We have always tried to be at his side but he always chooses his own decision and his friends seem to be more important. I want to put him in an institution not to lock him up but for him to be safe. I would be there every Saturday or Sunday no matter how far it is and I will celebrate holidays with him. I just want to know that he is safe and being cared for...
@airkulet (2700)
• Philippines
3 Nov 11
Maybe he is rebellious of something from you. He want to show you that he is against it that's and he doesn't want to go home. The two of you should talk about it of why he always run away and work on that problem. I just hope that sooner your problem may solve.
I think you cannot bring your son to an institution unless he is suffering from addiction. Why not let him take a vacation in some relatives that lives in the province on may he realize that all the things that he have done are all wrong doings and nothing that he can gain from it but just destroying his future.
@p3halliwel2005 (3156)
• Philippines
10 Nov 11
Me and my husband has indeed talked about it but he seemed kind of troubled and just wants to do as he pleases and no one can stop him. It's as if what he wants he gets...We don't have relatives in the province :(
@jazel_juan (15747)
• Philippines
3 Nov 11
ohh that must be tough for you..well he is of legal age now..and the only time he will learn to straighten out is when he made that mistake that will make him realize because from what i see, at this point no matter how much you counsel him he wont listen unless something will happen to him..and this is where you unconditional love needs to be present. hope he will be enlightened and straighten out.
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@p3halliwel2005 (3156)
• Philippines
10 Nov 11
Thanks Jazel! I don't want to wait for him to get hurt and learn bad things before I do something...I just wouldn't be able to bear it. I do wish that he'll do realize his mistakes in the end and come back to us on his own.
@baby_EXPO (129)
• China
3 Nov 11
Hi,p3halliwel2005.Maybe you shold understand your son what his think, not at all to look outside help, The parents is a best model for children. Good luck to you.
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@p3halliwel2005 (3156)
• Philippines
10 Nov 11
Hi Baby..We did try to talk to him and let him understand. We showed him love and gave his needs but nothing ....nothing at all..would make him understand...just too much pain when all we wanted was the best for him.
@rmendoza123 (637)
• Philippines
3 Nov 11
Youth are like this nowadays, they tend to rebel. What do you expect, natures call, delinquent youth are all around the street. NO matter how good parents are in raising their children, if the kids want it, they can do it.
Yes your right, you can rehab your son. I know some place, somewhere in Tagatay City. You can enroll your son there as seminarian.
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@p3halliwel2005 (3156)
• Philippines
10 Nov 11
Thanks for the response rmendoza123. May I know the name of the place you are referring to?
@curmont (343)
• United States
10 Nov 11
I am not in the phillippines so I can not give advice on where you can take him but I did want to say this, it seems to me that he has already been gone long enough to learn the bad habits which you are afraid he could learn, he is taking advantage because he knows you are a good mother and are going to love him and welcome him home with open arms. It is time to show your son some tough love and make him appreciate what he has at home because right now he is just having his cake and eating it too.
