My husband might work abroad soon

Philippines
November 3, 2011 9:43pm CST
My husband just got his working visa to UAE and the only hurdle left is his medical examination, then he'll be off to work there. For the past months we've been hoping that his application will come through, and now that it did i'm having mixed emotions. I'm happy for him because he wanted to experience working abroad and because our family do need the income that he will receive there (much much bigger than what he receives now). But it saddens me too that he will be away from us for two years and even longer if his contract will be renewed. Yet it's the best opportunity for our family to improve our financial capacity and prepare for the kids' education.
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@hexebella (1140)
• Philippines
4 Nov 11
I worked in dubai for more than a year, doha and now I am in Muscat....yes, you would be able to meet your financial requirements but you have to face the challenges that might be thrown your path in terms of your relationship....I am not discouraging you but it's better you know the pros and cons....I am happy that your husband found a job abroad as I believe there is no future in the Philippines....but, if possible and make it possible that you get a job as well in the same place and find the opportunity to get your kids as well....working abroad has ruined several families and marriages...Filipinos can not handle the situation of being alone (maybe I am not a typical pinoy as I prefer to be alone). They have family in the Philippines and they will create another family abroad, this i have seen to both male and female.
@bingskee (5237)
• Philippines
4 Nov 11
so it is true. a male friend just arrived from dubai and told my husband that he is not coming back. he is worried that he'll have another family there. though i find it intriguing why a person would allow that to happen, maybe the situation there about affairs are worse, or becoming worse. this is not the first time i heard something about this in dubai.
@hexebella (1140)
• Philippines
6 Nov 11
it is indeed true, married men courted me before and all they were asking that if i entered into relationship with them, that I won't stop them sending support to their families. It so happened that I am the kind of person who enjoys the company of myself, I have peace when I am alone hence I don't need these men in my life. The problem that I see with these filipinos is that they can not handle the situation of being alone, they need someone to be with them where in fact there are a lot of things to do. When I worked in Doha and Dubai, I engaged myself in sports, dancing and language lessons. My schedule was so hectic, I am very much busy for myself. You can assess your husbands personality and encourage him to do something productive during his free time. And also, get yourself a job in dubai. Do you know what's the other name for dubai that even my Indian colleagues in Oman call it the same...."sin city".
@hexebella (1140)
• Philippines
6 Nov 11
Sorry bingskee, I mistook you to be the initiator of the topic LOL!
@airkulet (2705)
• Philippines
4 Nov 11
Congrats though this means that you will be apart from each other. Sacrifice are for those people who have courage to exchange their homesickness just to fed his family. I admire those people who do this and it includes my husband too. Yes it sad but we both get used to it. Now my husband works abroad for almost four years. And he only comes home every year for a vacation.
@naseemkum (1804)
• India
4 Nov 11
If there is sacrifice between couples for saving money whats is the need of getting married. Before a man left alone by earning and get married then he collides with his family after getting financial pressure he again lett alone for earning. As i feel man would be a pityest character in the world to work for his family by loosing them forever.
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@airkulet (2705)
• Philippines
4 Nov 11
Of course not. As a wife that left alone to look for the family and taking care for them is my duty now. It is also hard for me to make a decision that my husband should be the one to do it but I took the responsible for it. Though we are sad that we are apart from each other we make sure that this will end also soon and will be together in time that we both know that we already built a wealth.
@hexebella (1140)
• Philippines
4 Nov 11
I worked in dubai for more than a year, doha and now I am in Muscat....yes, you would be able to meet your financial requirements but you have to face the challenges that might be thrown your path in terms of your relationship....I am not discouraging you but it's better you know the pros and cons....I am happy that your husband found a job abroad as I believe there is no future in the Philippines....but, if possible and make it possible that you get a job as well in the same place and
@hexebella (1140)
• Philippines
4 Nov 11
the above was posted accidentally.....didn't know that it went through....just ignore this one please. thanks
@youless (90272)
• Guangzhou, China
4 Nov 11
I can understand your feeling and it is a real dilemma. When you gain something, sometimes it means that you will lose something. I know how hard it is for you to be away from your husband for two years. It is not a short time. My husband has a business trip for a week and I already don't get used to it very well. Even if you can still make a call and keep in contact online, but the technology can't really replace the real person anyway. I hope that this sacrifice is worthy and this is a good opportunity for your family to have a better finance. I love China
• Canada
4 Nov 11
It is good to hear that your husband is moving UAE, but remember when you have more money you have more desire and need to spend. so control your feelings and save for future. All the best for him and to you all. It is big sacrifice to leave family and work alone abroad.
• Philippines
4 Nov 11
Just be happy that is not only for him you will get used to it after a months that is for your family especially when you have a children that is for their future.
• United States
4 Nov 11
That could be good for a lot of reasons and terrible for many as well. I hope and pray he does not get tempted to have another woman close by.. Life happens and that would just about ruin it for you. I would not want to leave my mans site for two years for no money in the world. I would have to be going with him or he would find another job. Good luck.
@humairaku (2039)
• Indonesia
4 Nov 11
yeah, being away from someone we love is truly hard to do. I myself also feel so sad if my husband go away from me and my daughter. I live with parents in law (it means that they are my husband's parents), so it feels that I live with strangers every time my husband leave me for any reasons, such as getting duty from his office or else. luckily he leaves me only for days. five days is his record. why don't you join your husband going to UAE? I have a relative who lives there. her husband is a nurse who works in a hospital there and he brings all his family to live there. I think it's possible to do that..good luck..!
• Indonesia
4 Nov 11
You must have mixed feeling, happy and sad at the same time. Glad your husband is working abroad to supplement the money of course, and sad because you have to split up and you will be great missed being there when you sit aside your husband. I hope your husband gets healthy and abundant blessing in there, okay. Salam
@naseemkum (1804)
• India
4 Nov 11
Sorry to say that i wont like men working in foreign country specially in gulf countries. Indians are most brilliant and foolish peoples in the world. They always need to work under other people but really they dont know how to be a master even they had master skills. Ur situation is the most of my women's situation u think that ur economical wil bring up if he works in uAE But u could miss him for two years or better more. Be sure u miss money or relationship.
@r3jcorp (1384)
• Philippines
4 Nov 11
Working abroad is the only way we can really get away with the financial burdens but there are lot of factors which are at stake on here. I have seen couples who part ways after sometimes because of misunderstanding and broken relationship. Make sure that your communication is always open and hopefully everything will be fine.
@narthan (326)
• India
4 Nov 11
It's great that your Husband has got the much awaited opportunity of working abroad. I do understand your emotions. Though you may have to be away from him for two years trust me this wait for him to come back will be worthy. Because once his term is finished you can really enjoy with your family for ever. Sometimes good things are experienced only after a long wait. And you experience it you will be the happiest person on earth. So, just be happy! Congratulations.
• Philippines
4 Nov 11
How about bringing your entire family there soon as he lives stably. :) My grade school best friend's dad went to Singapore to work but familial issues came, as you can never stop that from happening to a unit, and my aunts advised her mom for them to follow him and live with him. Now, they are currently in Dubai, living happily for almost 9 years now. :) I know it's different with every family and I'm not introducing negativity nor making you think of issues that are not there. I just think it's best for your family to stay together wherever in the world he may be.
@SIMPLYD (78119)
• Philippines
4 Nov 11
That's nice that your husband will be working abroad. It means higher income so you would be able to save for your kids' education. One thing that i may advise , is always pray that he will be safe and kept away from temptations when he is already abroad.
@jricky1 (6809)
• China
4 Nov 11
It's great to hear that your husband is going abroad to work.I think it's a great chance not only for you but also your kids' education.It's a new environment full of challenges.Anyway,just hold this chance and enjoy different culture.I think people are born to know what the outside world is,it's fascinating.lol