So my friend told me she is going to cheat on her husband

I don't cheat myself. I wouldn't entertain a cheater also. I would tell the person involved indirectly and let her or him find it by self.

It's tough...life...it really isn't black and white. Most of the women I have known that have cheated has wanted the change in their lives. I don't think they want to get caught but then again they kind of do because it would end the terrible relationship that they are in. I think things might be a little different where you are at though. What are the consequences if she gets caught there?

It is her life and she deserves to be happy. All people deserve the freedom to pursuit happiness. It is a shame that society is so ignorant and controlling. The idea of arranged marriages sicken me. The purpose of arranged marriage was so that the daughter would be taken care of since woman were/aren't given the ability to own land and work. Woman are equal to men and thus have the same rights, so there should never have been a need for this in the first place. Anyone who says otherwise is a fool and I don't care how they want to reason it. I have been in a situation where I knew that my best friend had cheated on my other best friend. I did feel sympathy because I understood her reasons, but I also told her I disapproved. I didn't tell the other person because I knew how he would react. They got in a fight and my friend did confess, I guess, and I got called up and brought into the middle of it. I am not friends with these people anymore. I think that it is a good idea to stay out of it. It sounds like she doesn't want to leave the marriage because there would be a lot of family and maybe social problems, which are totally unjust, and so this is what she decided was the way to have choice in her life and still keep things good with her family. It seems cruel to say anything. That's my opinion.

This is something I would totally stay away from. I would tell my friend to place not tell me anything like this ever again, that I would not get involved or interfere. That is their problem not yours. Now, if it were family, then I would not see too much of a problem getting involved. But when it comes to friends, it is something that is very tricky. I understand how you feel, but do not get involved.

I wouldn't shut my mouth when I know someone is cheating on her husband. Even if her marriage was arranged. I'll try to convince her not to do it for her own sake and if she has children, for the sake of her children.

Well she is wrong for planning to cheat, but I wouldn't stop her she may think you are after her husband. I think she should leave him instead of cheating, Do you know why shes going to cheat? maybe revenge for somethings he's done.

hi! If your friend is going to cheat her hubby, she will always feel guilty. This guilt feeling would not allow her to be happy. Either way, I foresee your friend is going to be in trouble. She needs to learn how to make adjustments in life. All the best to her.

Hi piya, no I do not have this kind of experience before, a friend who cheats on his/her relationship. Maybe they do, and I really don't know about it. I am quite ignorant towards this kind of things. I believe, you as a friend can help her. Help her to get out of her situation. Help her to stand up against her marriage and leave. If you don't help her, no one can. If she is caught, she will suffer even more. So do whatever you can to help her stand up and leave her married life. I don't think you as a friend would standby and see her suffer if she is caught in the act of cheating?

hi piya an arranged marriage wow. and she is stuck in it. I feel for her as I understand her culture does not like divorce. but I think its time for changes, They clearly sound like they are not in love and never should have been forced into a loveless marriage. let hher get t a job, get a divorce, leave that culture if she has to, and find a man she can fall in love with who will cherish her. cheating in wrong and evil and will only bad things worse.How can anyone force a woman to marry just any man they damned well choose as a lot of times people do not even like each other.We do not do that here in my co untry the US its mean and cruel in my opinion,.[e

That is one turmoil i do not want myself to get into..marriage stuff of other people is complicated to dive into..stay away from it, its between her and her husband..and between her and herself.. that is one thing she can avoid and if she opted to do it, it is her choice and i believe she knows the consequences of it.

There are many reasons why people cheat. Some see this as a "wake up call" for the partner, an extreme way of showing dissatisfaction for the relationship. Some cheat because they see it "as a way out" of it, as a way of finding a better life. Others do it purely for sensual reasons. But for whatever reason an affair always indicates a problem in the relationship. I don't know your friend so I can't really give specific advice, but what may be more helpful at this time is for her to introspect on her reasons for engaging in an affair. What problems is this affair meant to solve? If times become too difficult, maybe she could go to a therapist to ask for professional help sorting this out.

uuuummmm, sweetie, cheating can only hurt and cause problems. Why don't she just leave him?

I couldn't face my partner if I had cheated. I think we are all adults when marriage is not working or there is something bad going on we always can working out or divorce. I know that this sounds simple but this way its much simpler that living with guilt. I couldn't do it.

Its so difficult to ask for a divorse when the husband havent done anything wrong, he is a good man and also there are small children in between. I think We can not judge anybody, in this case a woman , every woman has her own reasons to cheat on, usually , is because husbands dont fill anymore her necesities or never did. You dont know how marriage life is going to be untill You are in it, and not all marriages are the same. I know the easy way is get away from this marriage but, woman has to start a new life and maybe they will take the kids away, mostly in these Asia countries. Of course piya You dont have the right to say anything just keep away from this situation but , try to understand your friend s reasons. In my opinion cheatting doesnt have to do anything with friendship, its time to open your mind.

Your friend is very unwise to cheat on her husband because doing such a thing could ruin her life. If she is considering having an affair then her marriage must have hit the rocks. This means she should be trying to re-light the candle in her marriage. One of my friends had another man on her hen night. I felt shocked but kept quiet about it. Three weeks later my friend got married at a castle. She and her husband had a honeymoon in Florida and the Bahamas. She got married at 22 years old and her husband is 6 years older than her. Amazingly she and her husband are still together even though she has had countless affairs. I don't think her husband knows about these affairs. When she was 30 years old their baby daughter was born. My friend started dating this man when she was 16 years old. My friend never had the chance to date like other teenagers do. Maybe if she had dated a few men and then found Mr Right she would have stayed faithful to her husband. I believe the just wants to be young and single when she is out partying.

She should just tell him that she don't want to be with him any more instead of just cheating on him. That is so sad, I guess I would never understand why there are arranged marriages I would never encourage my friend to cheat on her husband to maybe just talk out the problems with her husband is what I would say to her and just leave it at that.

If your friend isn't asking your opinion whether what she is doing is bad or not... and if you feel she really wants to cheat with her husband... then let her do it. One good advise is enough for her to realize what she's doing is not good. This is sometimes the problem with arrange marriage, some couples tend to hate or cheat because there is no love between them.

Sometimes we will not get what exactly we want. And you can't live with youe alone decisions. All depends upon person to person's luck and family support.

It is a matter of choice, if I am in that position, I rather keep in silence and listen to their sentiments. We can give some advise, but we need to be careful. In some instances, they can blame you for giving an advise.

You're certainly correct that life isn't black and white and although normally I wouldn't condone cheating, it does seem as though you've presented some interesting circumstances. Arranged marriages seem to imply her heart might not be in it, and if she isn't happy and doesn't want to be in the marriage and has no way out, that seems unfair. Life is about choices and if you've chosen to spend your life with someone, then you have a moral obligation to uphold that commitment but if you were forced into something and are not allowed out of it, I'd agree with you that the lines of morality become blurred and it's a difficult situation to judge.