how to get along well with someone you don't like?

November 5, 2011 7:08am CST
I'm a sophomore studying at a university far away from my hometown. I was very popular before, when I was science student at hometown. However now, I feel it very hard to get along well with someone. My classmates are almost all girls, you know, wherever girls are, where criticism arised. Many girls shout at each other everyday without grace. I don't like them. But I have to get along well with them, can you give me some advise?
8 responses
• Philippines
5 Nov 11
i know what you feel. college is totally a different world from high school. as college students, we are now treated as adults. there is more freedom from what you were experiencing when you were in high school. but of course more freedom would mean more responsibilities. aside from loads of school works, you also have to be responsible about yourself. anyway, college is the melting pot of all kinds of people. do not expect tjat you would get along with each of your blockmates. if you dont like what you see in them, then look for someone you think you could get along with. you could also start gaining friends by talking to your seatmates. i know there will always the need to fit in, but you do not have to lose what you really are just to be accepted. do not stop being yourself. you would want someone to befriend you because of who you not because of who they think you are.
@Mashnn (4503)
5 Nov 11
I think what you need to do, is try to understand their weakness and strength by becoming their friends instead of neglecting them. As you understand them and learn who they are, you will be able to accept them gradually. Though,if you you don't like their behavivors, try not to criticize them openly.
@bulastika (5967)
• Philippines
5 Nov 11
This is a big no no for me. If they don't like you then why do you need to push yourself to be friends with them? Hello. Even if they will treat you like a friend they will never be a true friend to them. So better not waste your time with them. First you are their to study. Not to make friends and please everybody. Make friends to does who want you to be your friend.
@Mashnn (4503)
5 Nov 11
Oops, I didn't get it right, I thought there were personality conflict such that you we not understanding them. If they don't like you, then you have no business trying to talk to them. Leave them alone and concentrate on what brought you to college. You have better things to do anyway.
@bhonti (1247)
• Philippines
5 Nov 11
my advice is just try to blend with your environment. And be civil to people around you, don't take part on arguments. Do not take sides, just take the neutral floor. do not participate in rumors. Just mind your own business and you'll do good, i hope. :)
5 Nov 11
Thank you very much! I'm always trying to ignore them...
@bulastika (5967)
• Philippines
5 Nov 11
Don't try to ignore. them. If they make your life a hell. Then make their life a hell. Come on girl your a rocket science right? Think of something to piss them off. The more furious they become the more you win. lols. And make friends with her friends. Let her world become smaller and smaller. lols.
@bulastika (5967)
• Philippines
5 Nov 11
You don't need to get along with them. You come their to study and not to get along with everybody. I'm sure you can find friend other than them in your school right? The best way to do it is make friends with their friends but don't make friends with does you don't like. You don't need to be like or need to like all of them.
5 Nov 11
yes!I'm pretty agree with you! Of course! I come study!
@megamatt (14331)
• United States
7 Nov 11
There is really no method to it I think. I just grit my teeth and go in and do it. That is just the way things work in the school place, in the work place, and in life. There are going to be many people who you won't like. There have been various times in my life, where half of the people in the place that I am, I cannot stand, for any number of reasons. Sometimes it is more than half of the people that I cannot stand. Such is life. There are a lot of times where I had the strongest temptation to reach across a table or a desk and strangle someone just for acting like a nitwit. Yet, that wouldn't really solve anything. So I just dealt with the situation. There are just times where you got to just be there, know that the experience will be done before you know it, and limit your interaction to them as much as possible. That is the road to survival. No two ways about it.
@Queen_11 (308)
• Philippines
6 Nov 11
What I am seeing here is an opportunity for you to learn how to properly handle persons of different attitudes. You can think of it as a laboratory wherein you try to discover a cure for an illness. With regard to criticisms, they go beyond your college days and the level of criticisms I am sure is on a higher level when you are already practicing your profession. We can't discount the possibilities of not meeting persons who are highly critical on us or on our work. What we can do is to prepare for them. If you really can't feel any connection with your classmates, may be it is time for you to transfer to another class and stop the mental and emotional torture to yourself :)
• Philippines
6 Nov 11
Maybe you should try getting along with them more. Maybe you're not trying hard enough. Just try to know their likes and what they usually do there.
@Jargoness (1193)
• Israel
5 Nov 11
You don't have to be friends with people you don't like. You can be civil and nice even without a friendship. My classmates are almost all girls as well and many of them are really rude, I hear them picking on others. I wouldn't like to talk with them.