being freinds with ex boyfreind

United States
November 5, 2011 6:12pm CST
I don't thonl I could be freinds with my ex boyfreind I loved his so muchand I hate him for what he did and I couldent stand to see him with another women so how am I sipose to try to be freinds is it worth the pain and heartach to be freinds or should I just forget about it
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15 responses
@bubuth (1816)
• Philippines
25 Mar 12
I think if you feel that you cannot see your ex boyfriend with another girl and you still love him you must stay away from him if you still not totally move on because it will become more hard for you to move on if you will always still see him. I think the best thing that you can do is to hang out with your friends so they can help you to move on and you can forget in even in a short time.
@naphie21 (29)
• Philippines
6 Nov 11
No harm making friend with him as long as u have moved on already. meanwhile, just try to have a vacation and refresh ur self. after that, i assure u, less pain will come up.
@iuliuxd (4453)
• Romania
6 Nov 11
You can try but i don`t know if it will work.Probably in time after you will suffer a lot you can become friends but not good friends.You will be surprised to notice one day you have no longer feelings for that guy no matter how much you loved him,so becoming "friends" will no longer be a problem.
• Pakistan
6 Nov 11
There is no need to cry over spilled milk. That should do the answer for you.
@airkulet (2705)
• Philippines
6 Nov 11
Just stay away, be friend but not that close as you will have any communication with him. If you happen to see him in an event and you couldn't prevent to face him just say hi but don't have any conversation for a long time.
@kharlav (1673)
• Philippines
6 Nov 11
I believe that you can be friends with him later but maybe not yet now. After breaking up, maybe you can start with forgivenes and not holding a grudge. Not holding a grudge is important so that the healing of your heart is faster. And if you decide not to be with him anymormd then choose to stay away from him until you will be able to really move on and not love him anymore.
@chiyosan (29383)
• Philippines
6 Nov 11
i think it is not very good to have your boyfriend as your friend after you have broken up. its quite hard to be friends with an ex especially if you had a bad break up. :P the hurts and pain is just too much to bear if you keep seeing each other.
@Aja103654 (5658)
• Philippines
6 Nov 11
don't try to be friends with him, then. If it bothers you this much, then best to forget him and find another love who can help you move on and love again. that's what i did! and my ex... he sometimes do stupid things and say somethings to get my attention nowadays... and i ignored him. XD -meh evil-
@bodhi_91 (193)
• India
6 Nov 11
If U cannot see him with another lady then its better to forget and not take any more risks. If the attachment was less, you can be friends!
@vexxus (708)
• Philippines
6 Nov 11
that would so hard to do, better stay away on that situation, prove to your former lover that you can find a better man whose more deserving than him, you don't have to feel sorry for yourself, this is the time to improve your self, wake up.
• Philippines
6 Nov 11
Hating him so much is a sign that you have not moved on yet. Let go of your feelings and open up the opportunity to love another more than the love you gave him. Breaking up could only mean that you two are not meant for each other. It's hard to accept, but you have to. It's painful to see someone you've love together with another girl, most especially seeing them being happy with each other. Learn to be happy for them and in that you will little by little be happy for yourself too. You will soon realize that you deserve someone better, someone who is capable of making you happy. Just move on and be in love again.
@ShyBear88 (17062)
• United States
6 Nov 11
Not everyone is going to be friends with there ex's I'm friends with mine but that is because we ended on good terms and not a bad one. It really just depends on what has happened in the past and how things end how a couple will end up as friends or not.
@Lore2009 (7389)
• United States
6 Nov 11
I am not able to be friends with my ex husband, just like you, because I loved him very much and I hate him for what he did. So, I haven't seen or talked or heard of him since our divorce.
• Malawi
5 Nov 11
Well, the best advice from me is to let go. It looks trickery here that one day you may fall into the trap again and ruin your present relationship if you have any. The other thing is that your new boyfriend will not fully believe it that you are just friends so will his girlfriend. Just forget the whole thing though painfully but that's how life is-making hard and painful decisions sometimes.
@tech2d (338)
• United States
5 Nov 11
Well in my opinion, if it is causing you so much pain, perhaps you should both go your separate ways. For what I have found out, most couples when they do break up tend to just go their separate ways because of just what you are going thru.