I'm tense/stressed. It shows... :P

@gloryacam (5546)
Philippines
November 5, 2011 9:24pm CST
I am reminded of a recent interview I had. It was a panel interview and I was really tense. I pride my self in being able to have a strong, steady voice in spite of being really nervous. In the past, I could speak in public and people would not suspect that I was really tense. So, during my panel interview, I thought I was pulling those people, having a calm voice, giving good answers and all. But, then, the head of the panel said, "I can sense you're tense. You've been clutching your bag since we've started. Put it down, no one's gonna take it away." Oh, damn. I was hanging on to my bag for dear life!!! LOL Have you ever had this experience? Somebody seeing through your emotions? How do you handle stress? Do people sense when you're stressed or tense?
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@inertia4 (26913)
• United States
6 Nov 11
Well whether speaking in public or even in an interview, most people become nervous because they do not know what to expect. I think it is natural to be nervous. I have been in situations like that before, but as long as the other people make you feel welcome and comfortable, it all works out.
@gloryacam (5546)
• Philippines
6 Nov 11
That's right. Well in that case, I began to relax when I laid down my bag (I wouldn't have disobeyed the interviewer, would I) because we had a little laugh at that comment. So, it set a lighter mood. On that thought, I was glad he pointed that out because things got lighter after that.
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@inertia4 (26913)
• United States
6 Nov 11
See, everything seems to work out. I am glad you became more relaxed. Now you should not feel so nervous anymore.
@gloryacam (5546)
• Philippines
8 Nov 11
That's right. Though I think that will always be me. No matter how many times I've done it, I still feel the jitters while waiting for that interview or public speech or whatever. The difference now is that I can be relaxed now after a few minutes of speaking.
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@dorannmwin (36683)
• United States
9 Nov 11
You know, I've never really been good at speaking in public and when I started singing when I was 21 years old, I remember getting the microphone for the first time and absolutely trembling as I was starting to sing. However, I've learned to overcome that when I'm in front of a group of people because I realize that most of the people that are in the audience are not people that I will ever encounter again and now I don't get nervous when speaking or performing.
@gloryacam (5546)
• Philippines
10 Nov 11
Wow, sing in front of people?! That's one thing I have never done. Never had the guts to. Sure, I've been out singing with friends in a videoke bar (lots of them here in Asia ) but have never tried to perform for an audience. Well, that's true. They won't be seeing you anymore, so, who cares what they think, right?
@Razzles (391)
• United States
6 Nov 11
I have been through this type of interview before, and I can't help it, but I become very tense. My words tend to come out but they never come out in the order I want them to. I also am a nail biter and don't want any of the interviewers to look at my nails so I keep my hands closed in a fist. I never walk out feeling good about an interview like this so I know exactly what you went through.
@gloryacam (5546)
• Philippines
8 Nov 11
Whoa, nail biting? I hope you find a better way to ease your stress. Well, after that incident, things became lighter because we all had a good laugh. And so I didn't feel that bad after leaving the room. I just don't know if I have given a bad impression because I haven't heard from them yet.
@shibham (17025)
• India
6 Nov 11
Hi... I think i never had tense when appearing infront of a panel board but sometimes when i have to give a lecture in front of intellectuals, then i get tense but easily can overcome. Dont know exactly how? but i can. Have a nice time.
@gloryacam (5546)
• Philippines
6 Nov 11
@Shibham: You've got confidence and it's good thing. I like to give lectures, and I really feel nervous at first. But then the nervousness slowly fades and that's when it becomes more enjoyable.
@jaiho2009 (39079)
• Philippines
6 Nov 11
I don't know anyone who never felt the tension and nervous during interview. I can say, panel interview is easier for me to deal,but the final interview ,one on one is the hardest part for me. Unlike with the panel interview, we have company. But being alone with the interviewer...I really cannot hide my nervousness.
@gloryacam (5546)
• Philippines
6 Nov 11
It's funny in my case because I love interviews. I don't know why. I feel nervous, yes, very much, but I still love going for interviews. The hard part in that panel interview was that there were 4 persons from different departments asking me various things. When I talk to people, I'd like to know their background because I fit what I say according to his/her discipline. Like, of course talking to HR people is different from talking to the head of the particular department I'm applying with. So, I had to explain my answers really well for fear that I might be misunderstood.
@lisa0502 (1726)
• Canada
6 Nov 11
I get very stressed very easily. I do not do any public talking to large groups. As a matter of fact I just started going to a couple of small groups to meet people. I am learning that I do not have to be so insecure and can speak up. But I am not like that in most situations.
@gloryacam (5546)
• Philippines
6 Nov 11
I get stressed easily, too, but I wonder why I love talking to people. Be it a large group or a small group. The thing is that while I get really nervous, I still enjoy it.
@Rosa26 (2620)
• United States
6 Nov 11
When I am in public and I have to make an exposicion or to sing a song (like in the church that used to sing)and I feel nervous what I do is no to look at the puiblic I focus my eyes to the fond of the room, where ther is nobody, so I can feel more relaxe like I am alone and so I can express myself better.
@gloryacam (5546)
• Philippines
6 Nov 11
I'm the opposite! I like to look at each and everyone of the people in the audience. I feel that if I don't look at them, I'll get lost. Sounds weird. I do feel my heart beating fast, but, I just need to look at them.