His bare feet made me angry

Indonesia
November 6, 2011 10:34am CST
I did not know how to tell my friend not to enter my bedroom with naked feet or bare feet. He is working in the same place as I am working now. He never used sandals or footwear where he went. I often reminded him not to go into the room and jumped into my bedroom full of sand and soil on his feet palm. He was a grown up man and it seemed to not use custom sandal could not be changed anymore, but I can't stand anymore, because each time going to my bed, the bed was already filled with full of sand and soil. Please my friend help me.
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15 responses
• Canada
6 Nov 11
That is really unsanitary for your friend to walk around all day and then not wash his feet before touching beds or other furniture. He really needs to get in the habit of washing when he arrives home! Anyway, if you can't get him to be a clean person, then I suggest you get a thick pair of socks and keep them at the entrance to your room. Insist that he covers his feet completely before coming in. At least the socks can be washed! It's not a perfect solution, by any means, but it's better than finding your bedding soiled!
• Indonesia
7 Nov 11
Yeah, yeah you are so right. I will try to warn him again before the door is really lock up all day, so he can not get in and do something bad in my room. Thank you and enjoy your mylotting.
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• Indonesia
7 Nov 11
Yeah, yeah you are so right. I will try to warn him again before the door is really lock up all day, so he can not get in and do something bad in my room. Thank you and enjoy your mylotting.
@ferbjohn69 (1129)
• Philippines
7 Nov 11
Oh.That's irritating.I also hate it when my younger brother enters my room when his feet are dirty. You should really tell your friend about it.Talk to him in person,and tell him what you feel whenever he enters your room when his feet are dirty. If he is a good friend he will listen.:)
@sjvg1976 (18402)
• Delhi, India
7 Nov 11
@ Suny rugging near the bed wont do it as it won't remove all the dirt from the feet.and some particles will surely come to the bed.
@ravisivan (14055)
• India
7 Nov 11
We cannot change the habit of all people at all times. If we want friendship we have to tolerate their behavior. Of course you can nicely tell him to wash his feet before entering your room. have a good day.
• Indonesia
7 Nov 11
I think that I don't need a friend who does not understand me as well. I have too many. I don't need quantity but quality of friends. Thank to join in my discussion.
@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
7 Nov 11
Your friends really filthy people. You must firmly to your friend. You better lock your room, so your friend does not go into your room. You can create a message, at the door of your room, wash your feet before entering the room.
• Indonesia
7 Nov 11
ya, ya, ya. You are right. I should have written a note on the door. Thank you.
@tash01 (2032)
• Jamaica
7 Nov 11
you need to tell him straight up that you don't like it,because maybe you dud not confront him he thinks you like it. you need to tell that he should not enter your room while he is dirty,so that he can know whats whats. are the next thing you can do,Is to lock your room door so that he will not enter through your door. Sit him down and tell him how you feel,about what he is doing.
• Indonesia
7 Nov 11
I'll be pleasure to warn him not to enter my room with bare feet. I warn him each time he wanted to get in my room, but he seemed that he wouldn't get what I had warned him about. He's freak me out.
@tiffnkeat (1679)
• Singapore
6 Nov 11
You can try persuading, reminding, warning...but if all else fails...in this case, since it is not fatal, why not do likewise on his bed and see how he feels.... it may sound mean, but maybe unless he gets to feel how you feel, he will never know understand what you have been trying to say all this while. I know many people will think I am mean, but I am just offering another perspective. Not as if I am asking you to do something bad to him physically or what. If you don't think it is a good idea, just assume I didn't say it.
• Indonesia
7 Nov 11
I tried a million time to persuade or warn him, they all fails. I am tired. At a glance, I thought the same thing as what you think and I don't a courage to do the same, because if I did that to him, he and I are same as well. That action will not make any difference.
@elmiko (6640)
• United States
6 Nov 11
don't allow him on your bed. he should have enough respect for you or anyone not to do that.
• Indonesia
7 Nov 11
I asked politely and he'll listen. Then afterward, he did it again. I am bored to persuade him.
@WakeUpKitty (8706)
• Netherlands
6 Nov 11
Why exactly is a grown man jumping on your bed? Is this normal/custom. I don't think you told him clear enough what you accept or not. So next time you jump to the doorway as soon as he want to come in and tell him he is not allowed to enter. Let him wash his feet first or he can stay out (if he refuses to wear shoes). And if it comes to your bed tell him this is private, to sleep in not to sit or lie on by anyone. Put a chair down where he can sit on or let him stay or sit on the floor. It's your room and you are making the rules if he likes it or not. This is the only way to make it clear to him. Be hard since he is not even seeing you are getting angry at all.
• Indonesia
7 Nov 11
I warned him a lot of times and he is typical person to be told. I would love to try same thing what you say. I hoped I could make him catching up what I need him to do properly. Thank You
@adhyz82 (36263)
• Indonesia
6 Nov 11
it`s hard if we see the stubborn people...it make us angry but he seems don`t care... sometimes we had no hope for changing the situation if our partners is stubborn type.. so i suggest you, lock your door and do like what he do... lock your door, and when he ask to coming into your house, you give signal to him that you are sleeping...and just don`t hear his asking.... i think if he did not go into your room until 1 weeks, the situation can change and it make you can enjoy your room
• Indonesia
7 Nov 11
I decided to buy a new lock and lock it each day. Hope it will work and thank you anyway for your response my friend. Happy MyLotting.
• United States
6 Nov 11
Just be straight up with the friend.. tell him that this is your bed and unless you go wash your feet, don't get in it. It is rude and you don't like it! If you don't just say something about it, he will keep doing it.
• Indonesia
6 Nov 11
I often ridiculed him, but he didn't listen. He's stubborn.
• United States
6 Nov 11
Lock your bedroom door till it is time for you to use it. I would do this until he got the message or put on shoes. He has to be real nasty to do something like this to a friend.
• Indonesia
6 Nov 11
I think locking the doors are the one way to limit the access he would came into my room, but every so often he would go in and ask to let him watching in my bedroom and I can not bear people to not allow him to go into my room. He's annoying and boring. Anyway, I will be fine. I just wanna share what type of people I am facing and want to know ways to predict him later.
@Rosa26 (2620)
• United States
7 Nov 11
That have to be very disgusting for you, but like you say it is your bedroom, and you have to to have your rules in your bedroom, and anybody who enter there have to respect that,so tell him that one of the rules that you made to yourself to keep you room clean and organized is to use sandals and clean the feet before to enter, tell him that for you was difficult at the beginning respect your own rule but then you got it, and that you would like that all that enter to your room follow the rules yoy have to keep it clean.
• United States
7 Nov 11
Just tell him how you feel. Vent out all of your feelings it is better to be honest with him. He probablly does not know it bothers you that much. Just tell him, and if he gets mad or feels embarressed tell him that the truth hurts and you are just trying to save your friendship.
@Mashnn (4503)
7 Nov 11
The best thing is to tell him the truth. Let him know what he is doing is not right. Don't be afraid to tell him.
@sjvg1976 (18402)
• Delhi, India
7 Nov 11
Hello sijabatnaburjut, As a grown up man your friend should understand it why you are insisting him to wear shoes/sandels every time. I know in some places there is cutomary that they don't wear footwears inside their houses but in that case their houses remain dirt free and no one is allowed to enter house wearing shoes/sandles. Your case is bit different so he should understand the difference or he still don't understand then you should tell him straightway that you don't like him to be on your bed as his feet always remain dirty which makes your bed full of sand.May be he will understand it and will change his habit or will wash his feet before jumping in to your bed or won't come to your bedroom.