Should I tell him?

@safety69 (592)
Taiwan
November 6, 2011 8:21pm CST
Even I like to try different kind of perfumes, I am very picky at the time of choosing one. Lately, my husband is bringing me perfumes everytime he comesback from a trip, I apreciate what he does, but , I dont like some of the perfumes , they smell so strong, are not my type. I want to tell him but , I dont want to hurt his feelings or make him stop bringing me gift. I love when he buys something for me, that means he thought of me. How would You express your feelings to your partner.??
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11 responses
• Philippines
7 Nov 11
Caught him during your light moment and tell him that you appreciate the perfume he's bringing you and appreciate the thought and love. Tell him that some are not so nice smelling and that you are happy you still have some fragrances for your use. Then suggest things you would like him to bring you from his trips but emphasize that most importantly you are much happy he's home safe with you than those things he's bringing home.
• Philippines
7 Nov 11
Remember tell it best during your light moment and I don't think he will be offended.
@safety69 (592)
• Taiwan
7 Nov 11
I like what You said about he coming home safe. For sure I will take those words . thanks friend. good luck in mylot.
• Philippines
7 Nov 11
That's the idea my friend and wishing you the best.
• India
7 Nov 11
Hello friend, I think your husband buy you perfumes because he knows you like perfumes. As you are saying you don't like some of them due to their smell. So I guess you can tell your husband about your choice. You can tell him which perfume you liked the most and then you can tell him about the ones which you did not find good. If you found any good perfume on the internet or may be your friend is using one which you find good, then you can ask your husband to get that for you. I am sure he will not mind it.
@safety69 (592)
• Taiwan
7 Nov 11
My husband is kind of different from others . He doesnt listen to me , sometimes looks like he is listening but , his acts are different , so , I never know with him. thanks for commenting.
• India
8 Nov 11
Honestly speaking all the husbands share the same boat. They don't listen to their wife and if sometimes she feels that he is listening, his actions will prove that wife was wrong. Anyways there is no harm in telling him about your likes and dislikes. Hope he'll understand it. Take care!
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
7 Nov 11
He's your husband so I think you can tell him about it in a manner that he won't get offended. You can tell me what are the perfumes you specifically likes and those you feel strong will just be wasted. Maybe tell him that you just don't want him to spend for something too much and that's all that you're thinking, not that you don't like his gifts.
@safety69 (592)
• Taiwan
7 Nov 11
You see, my husband doesnt give me gifts for my birthdays, for valentine s, or christmas or aniversary, no even flowers. So , I feel nice that he is bringing me something, thats why I didnt want to tell him about the perfume bacause he will think that I dont apreciate it and he wont give me anymore. but I will try to tell him next time, he will comeback in 3 months. Thanks for your comment. good luck in mylot.
@laydee (12813)
• Philippines
7 Nov 11
I think he deserves your honesty on these types of stuff. Would you want him to ask other girls instead? hehehe.. Kidding. I think you should tell him your 'faves', like let's say he brought you a particular one, then tell him you really like the smell of it. If he brings you the wrong type, just say 'thank you' and tell him directly (but lovingly) that you prefer something more subtle. I usually tell him what I like and don't like. At least he knows that whatever he gives me would be appreciated. Have a great MyLot experience ahead!
@safety69 (592)
• Taiwan
7 Nov 11
Usually I do tell him my feelings , but , this time I felt different bacause he seems to be very happy bringing me gifts. I have to think the way to tell him . Thaks for your comment.
@picjim (3003)
• India
8 Nov 11
While you are shopping together please let him know about your likes and dislikes when you are both in relaxed conversation.My wife gives me an idea of the sort of perfumes she likes.So when you both are in a good mood you can veer the conversation to your likes in perfumes and tell him of your preferences.I am sure he will understand and next time ask your preference before buying a perfume.
@lisa0502 (1726)
• Canada
7 Nov 11
I would be totally honest with him. There is no sense in hiding this fact. Maybe come up with something else he can bring you. I am not sure what kinds of things you like but make it something that you can enjoy too. Make sure he knows that you are appreciative that he does these gestures and that you do not want them to stop. There is nothing better in a marriage than good communication and things should work out.
@Dassodils (2013)
• India
7 Nov 11
Safety..Your partner loves you that much..So you can't to say that directly. you can convey that to him in another way...While going to some where else,You can go to a perfume shop,And select a perfume as a gift to some one....You should take a spray as your husband brings to you every time,And give him to smell that...And before his opinion,You should say your opinion....Then continue it....And at last your partner will know your taste...It will be the nice way to solve your problem... All the best... :-)
@jricky1 (6808)
• China
7 Nov 11
Yeah,it's indeed great that your husband loves you and bring you such gorgeous gifts.But i don't mean that you tell straightly that you don't like his gifts,just change another way and undirectly tell him which is your type.I think he would understand that.Good luck and have a nice time.
@pibi713 (187)
• China
7 Nov 11
It is very nice that your husband bring you gift everytime when he comes back from a business trip. It might be a little rude if you just tell your husband that you don't like some of his perfumes. Maybe you can try this method. You wear the perfume that smells so strong and then you ask your husband does he like it. Next time you wear the perfume that you like. Then you ask your husband which fragnant does he prefer. I think he will chose the light one. Next time when he brings you perfume again he will remember it.
• United Kingdom
7 Nov 11
I completely understand what you mean. Here is what I would probably do. Tell him that you appreciate his thoughtfulness greatly, but that maybe you'd like some variety in your gifts, instead of always perfumes. Say for example he goes somewhere that is known for their candy, bring you that, or somewhere with a major monument or tourist attraction, bring you a T-shirt or figurine or something back with it depicted. The idea is to get him to vary his gifts, rather than always perfumes.
@bjc66bjc (6745)
• United States
7 Nov 11
Does he ever speaks as to if he likes the perfume or not..do you think he ever smells it..perhaps you can put on the worst smelling one and just ask him about it...tell him it spelled better in the bottle but the chemicals in your body changes the smell...which is actually true a lot. you can also suggest he bring you back something else like silk scarfs...I am sure he will understand.... good luck...and it may be a something you can use and not that hooker perfune he brings you..lol