I am sad and worried about my father

@Porcospino (18396)
Denmark
November 8, 2011 9:50pm CST
I am very worried about my father at the moment. He is blind in one eye and he had an operation that was supposed to improve his sight in the other eye, but something went wrong and now he is completely blind. He had another operation tonight and tomorrow we will find out how the operation turned out and if he will be permanently blind or not. I pray that his sight will return. It would be a very difficult situation for him if he becomes permanently blind and he will have to give up his work which means a lot to him. I really hope that things will turn out well tomorrow. My mother has promised to call me as soon as they know anything, and know that I will be able to guess the result of the operation just by listening to the tone of her voice. I am impatient to know the result and at the same time I am afraid to answer my phone when she calls. Have you ever been in a similar situation? How did you handle the situation when you were waiting for news and didn't know if it would be good news or bad news?
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@shanemae (1025)
• Philippines
10 Nov 11
hi there. i was in your situation where you wait for the outcome of the news. what i did is just to pray and pray maintaining that positive attitude and thinking that everything would turn out fine. it feels sad that your father has to go through that but you know you can help him with your constant prayer. prayer for the success of his operation. just keep the faith and everything would be alright.
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@Porcospino (18396)
• Denmark
12 Nov 11
I hope things turned out well for you when you were in that situation. Yes, I continue to pray for my father. His sight hasn't improved the since I started the discussion, but the doctors haven't told him that he will become permantly blind either, so we still hope for a positive outcome. I am happy that he got help very fast, because I think that will improve the chance of recovery. We keep on praying and we keep a positive attitude, and I think that is the most important thing at the moment.
@shanemae (1025)
• Philippines
16 Nov 11
yes, well it did turn out fine but there were situations too that waiting for the news didn't turn out good. but i was still faithful then that this things might have happen because there is something greater that is happening. that is the right thing. i will help you with my prayers.
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@Mashnn (4503)
9 Nov 11
I was in similar position sometimes back when my dad was going through an operation to remove prostate growth. I remember been quite nervous but I also prayed hard. My dad woke up fine and from that time until now, he has not experienced any more problem. I just hope your dad will be able to regain his sight. Have faith though.
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@Porcospino (18396)
• Denmark
10 Nov 11
I am very happy to hear that your father's operation went well and he doesn't experience any problems today. I hope that my father will recover, too. I have been praying for him since the problems started and I will continue to do that. So far I have been kept in touch with my parents via the phone because we don't live on the same island, but I am going to travel to his island tomorrow and visit him at the hospital. I really hope that things will turn out well.
@Mashnn (4503)
11 Nov 11
Keep faith and all will be ok.
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@KOSTAS499 (1625)
• Greece
9 Nov 11
I wish all the best for you father. It is importand right now to support him, no matter the outcome. You should be strong for him and keep your worries from him. I almost got there two years ago when my father had a stroke. It was a small one and the only problem he has is that he lost a part of his eyesight. He has lost a 20% angle on the right side of both eyes. At first he was kind of lost an thinking slow, but now he drives ans is doing very well. So well we "fight" as good as always :). My best for your family. Support dad!
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@Porcospino (18396)
• Denmark
9 Nov 11
I am very happy to hear that your father is doing well today. A stroke is scary experience, but fortuneately many people are able to recover and get a good life after their stroke. I know that because I spent some time at a hospital for people who had a stroke when I was a nursing student. I try to support my father the best I can. I am usually a pretty optimistic person and I am trying to think positive in this situation. I try to imagine a positive outcome and I continue to pray for a good result.
@KOSTAS499 (1625)
• Greece
9 Nov 11
You are in a good path then :)
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@Hatley (164485)
• Garden Grove, California
9 Nov 11
hi Porcospino oh I will pray for your father that the surgery will be a success and he will regain his sight. I hope others here will also send their own prayers.I have been in a similar situation but it did not turn out well and I lost my beloved huband because of fourth and fifth heart attack.
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@thesids (22358)
• Bhubaneswar, India
9 Nov 11
Dear Ms. Hatley Please allow me to be by your side when you pray to the Lord...
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@KrauseHome (35517)
• United States
15 Nov 11
Well, I will be following up and reading your second discussion or follow up to this, and I know no matter what happens from here, for the sake of your father everyone needs to remain calm and strong, and be Prayerful and believe for something greater. There are times in our lives where we may experience a setback or two just to see how much we can handle, and if we remain strong God is in control and great things will happen in his time.
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@Porcospino (18396)
• Denmark
19 Nov 11
I have been praying for his recovery every single day since this started, and I am so happy and grateful that the situation has improved since I started this discussion. As I wrote in the second discussion he is able to read the biggest letters on the eye chart now. That is a big improvement, because in the begining he was completely blind. I know that it will take a long time before his sight get back to normal (the way it was before the operation) but everything looks much better than it did one week ago.
@maximax8 (28558)
• United Kingdom
10 Nov 11
I feel very sorry for your father and hope that the operation he had yesterday will work out well for him. I hope that he won't be permanently blind. One of my friends is partially sighted. She wears thick glasses and see a little with them. I wear daily disposable contact lenses and have glasses on when I haven't got them in. One of my friends suggest eye surgery but I say I am happy buying contact lenses. Good luck to your father and his sight returning. At 36 weeks pregnancy in 2007 I had a shocking time. I went in for testing due to protein in my urine and high blood pressure. They did some testing which included a scan. At the scan they said my baby had extra fluid in his head. I had to hear the words "not life compatible" from the midwife. They made an appointment to see the fetal medicine unit the next day. My son is now 4 years old and he is disabled.
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@Porcospino (18396)
• Denmark
13 Nov 11
Today we got some good news and my father's situation has improved. He is able to see big things now if they are very close to his face and that is huge improvement, because before that day he couldn't see anything at all. My friend also suggested eye surgery for me, but I don't want that. I don't have to wear my glasses all the time, but I always wear them at school and places like that. I have never had contact lenses, I don't mind using my glasses when it is neccesary and I have never really thought about getting contact lenses instead. That must have been a scary experience when you experienced problems during your pregnancy. My sister-in-law is pregnant at the moment and she also experienced problems and they thought that there was something wrong with the child. She had an extra scan and everything looks normal, but her pregnancy has been very difficult.
@janevi (889)
• Philippines
10 Nov 11
Prayer is the best thing you can do since you are far from them. It can calm you troubled and restless mind. Praying while waiting can somehow give you some insights and inner strength to what would the news would be. I have been through a lot of 'waitings'. But the hardest one was when I was waiting for the result of the my biopsy that would determine if there is malignancy or simple disease that is easy to handle. Since the result is a week after the procedure, I decided to go into a retreat. I spent 2 days for prayer. It helped me to accept results of the biopsy that I have cancer. The realizations I had gave me strength and positive outlook of my condition. That was seven yeas ago. I am so grateful to God that until now, I'm still alive after the series of treatment I've gone through. The succeeding 'waitings' were handled lightly because I was able to accept and cope with one of the hardest trial in my life. Don't worry so much. Things happen for a reason. Whatever that reason is, just ask the Lord for enlightenment. Life has its purpose. That, purpose, we try to unfold it everyday. We wait, we hope, we accept whatever come our way for t was meant to be. We may become bitter at the first instance, but as we try to offer it to the Lord, things/ situation begin to change; our attitude towards it, our disposition, our views and even our way of relating with he people around us will change for the better. Count on my prayers porcospino.
@Porcospino (18396)
• Denmark
12 Nov 11
Thank you for your support and for sharing your story. I am very happy to hear that things went well for you and that you got through the trial when you were diagnosed with cancer. I also think that things happen for a reason, but when I get scared and worried I tend to forget it. I want to learn to keep that perpective even in difficult situations like the one my family is facing at the moment.
@piya84 (2591)
• India
9 Nov 11
My prayers are with you.Life is not always easy.:( such things happens.There is nothing we could do apart from facing it.
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@Porcospino (18396)
• Denmark
12 Nov 11
Thank you. You are right, there is not much we can do in that situation. The doctors are doing what they can, they have given him different kinds of pills as well as injections in the eye. So far nothing has changed, but we hope that the situation will improve and that he will get his sight back even if it doesn't happen right now. We are still waiting for the results of the last tests, and we will probably get more information next week.
@thesids (22358)
• Bhubaneswar, India
9 Nov 11
Hi Porcospino I pray for your father's sugery being a success and he recovers back to his health faster. Life and situations can play tricks and I have been into such tricks quite more often. I dont like hanging situations and it is always that I am put into such situations... like the illness that I carry with me... They tell me anyday, it can become a cancer... and I am living with that situation for about 10 years now...
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@Porcospino (18396)
• Denmark
12 Nov 11
It must be difficult to live with an illness that can turn into cancer. I hope you will never have to face that situation. Thank you for praying for my father, it means a lot to me. He is still blind, but we haven't lost the hope that he will get his sight back. There is a kind of infection in his eye as well as some other problems. They have done tests, but they weren't able to find anything so they still don't know exactly what that problem is. We hope to get the results of the new tests next week. The biggest problem is the fact that he is already blind in one eye, that makes him a lot more vulnerable, but we pray for a positive outcome.
• Pakistan
9 Nov 11
This is the time to Believe in the one who has created us and leave every thing to him. He loves us more than our mom's and our job is to just pray from him. God is Great.
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@Porcospino (18396)
• Denmark
12 Nov 11
Yes, I keep on praying for his recovery. So far there is no change and he is still blind, but I haven't given up the hope that he will be able to get his sight back. I pray for him every day and I will continue to do that. I visisted him at the hospital yesterday and he seems to be a in relatively good mood. I hope that he will be able to keep a positive attitude despite the difficult situation that he experiences.
9 Nov 11
Hi there! I am a friend. That is really a difficult situation but don't lose hope. Instead, you should stay strong for your father and mother. Now, a prayer might be very helpful. God the Father is always watching over his people and I know in my heart that He is watching over your father. Stay strong and keep praying. I will be praying with you. "Never invite negative feelings, it might come true"
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@Porcospino (18396)
• Denmark
10 Nov 11
Thank you, I appreciate it. Yes, I am trying be strong and think positive thoughts. The doctors can't promise him that he will get his sight back, but they haven't given up either and they still have treatments to offer like the injections that he is getting at the moment. I will keep on praying for a positive outcome. I agree with the last sentence that you wrote, we shouldn't invite the negative thoughts because they might come true. I am trying to keep a positive picture of my father in my mind and I am trying to imagine him as happy and healthy as he was in the past.
@umabharti (3976)
• India
9 Nov 11
life is such,such news occur in our life ,we should be strong to face such situations as we can never do anythign against the wish of god. I feel very sorry for that your father is in operation theatre and is going through an operation.Hope he gets his sight and able to do at least his works without depending on someone. Your should be strong to make your mother not to worry and give her your full support so that she does not get depressed or weak towards the situations. It is easy for others to suggest but the one who is in the problem know what it is.
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@Porcospino (18396)
• Denmark
9 Nov 11
You are right about my mother, she needs my support right now, because she is very sad and scared and she is worried about the future. I don't live close to her, but I talk to her on the phone every day and I try to encourage her the best I can. When I talked to her tonight she said that there was no change. There is no good news and no bad news and the doctors still aren't able to predict the result, so it can go both ways. Of course I would have been more than happy to have good news, but it is a relief that there is no bad either, and I will continue to pray for a postitive outcome.
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