Changed By Love?

United States
November 9, 2011 8:39am CST
have you ever been changed by love? I mean Completely changed? Are you now your polar opposite? I haven't. I'm still the same cynical,smart-a$$ed self. But I am more hopeful.Instead of being a complete pessimist , I do have hope. With that said I Didn't change to find love and love hasn't changed my core. So I ask you has love changed you?
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@Kish2328 (71)
• United States
9 Nov 11
Love can move mountains and has the power to change the world; even people. I have changed because of love, but that change leads me to become a better me not to become who I am not. Yes - I do believe that when you love someone, you have to love them for who they are but part of love is to change for the better, to compromise, inorder to have our beloved for a lifetime.
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• United States
10 Nov 11
That is just it, I haven't had to compromise. aAnd Neither has he . At least I can't tell if he has.
• United States
10 Nov 11
I double checked and he Hasn't compromised either!
@Rosa26 (2620)
• United States
9 Nov 11
I haven't change for love, and for nothing if somebody is in love of me and I change that person will be upset because he felt in love of me not in the person that I would become.
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• United States
10 Nov 11
Exactly! I would become someone he doesn't know!
@inertia4 (26582)
• United States
10 Nov 11
I have to honestly say no. But I think at one point I thought I was. Polar opposites in my opinion collied. Like rams butting heads. I am cynical myself, I see things differently then others do. I never felt completely hopeless because I learned to how to cope with just being by myself. So, in essence, I never changed, although situations in my life has changed the course of my life. I will never change for me or no one. I did find true love, the one that matters and I did not even have to try. Ins't that great?
• United States
10 Nov 11
It is wonderful! Like you I will never change for me or anyone. So it was a surprise to find a guy who loves me Just the way I am!
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@inertia4 (26582)
• United States
10 Nov 11
I don't think it was a surprise at all, it was fate. It was supposed to happen and it did. As far as my relationship with T, it was more like Serendipity. I like that word.
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• United States
10 Nov 11
Thanks. This means I deserve him! Wow! I'm not used to feeling that I Deserve this type of happiness. Right before my guy met I found my self worth. So it is like he is my reward. And to hear he is my fate feels sooo good. I like serendipity too.
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• Jacksonville, Florida
10 Nov 11
I haven't changed for love, I am the same laid back, sweet, hopeless but disappointed romantic I have always been...My husband said that he changed when he met me because he wanted to be a better person because of me. Before we met he was going down the wrong path per say and when he met me he changed because of me... =)
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@jillhill (37354)
• United States
11 Nov 11
Its wonderful that he changed because of your love.....you made him want to be more and brought out the best in him! Hurrah for love!
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• United States
11 Nov 11
You saved him! That is wonderful.
• Canada
1 Dec 11
Not a chance!!! I knew I'd found the love of my life when I could stay the same, and he could stay the same, and we could love eachother just as we were. No changing, no sacrifice. If love makes you the polar opposite, that's not love, that's Stalkholm syndrome! LOL
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• United States
1 Dec 11
This os what I felt when I met my guy. He loved me just the way I was. I kept wondering , does he realy love the real me? And the answer was yes!
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
10 Nov 11
No...I have gained some happiness from it but not changed. I think that love does have the possibility of changing people though. I have seen some people who were just plain wild find love and change. Maybe they just grew up though.
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• United States
10 Nov 11
Like Warren Beatty! In his youth he was with Everybody! Once he found Annette, he is a family man!
@bubuth (1816)
• Philippines
10 Nov 11
For me,as i see to my self..i do not change to find love..But i change when i'm inlove..specially now that im married..I learn to my self that i must be much responsible not like when i single that i can do what ever i want to do without any responsibility.
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• United States
10 Nov 11
Yet another reason Not to marry.
@thesids (22455)
• Bhubaneswar, India
10 Nov 11
Hi behen Well, to an extent, yes I have changed. Not 100% but a majority of me is now quite a changed thing. I was a guy who used to live without many hopes, dreams and never felt that I should be doing this or that. But when love happened, all those hopes and dreams arose - from where? I am not quite sure. Maybe the fact that I want to see her happy or contribute or anything else, but today, I want to do anything that keeps her happy.
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• United States
10 Nov 11
I know you make her happy. I'm so happy you two have each other.
@bagarad (7664)
• Paso Robles, California
9 Nov 11
Sarah, loving and being loved does change a person, but, as you say, not at the core. The state of being" in love " is said to have made those who seemed ugly, beautiful, because the beauty came from the inside and was not superficial. People in love often seem to glow. With time the glow fades a bit as love mature and the newness wears off, but knowing one is loved and loving in return changes one's outlook on life, which sometimes causes changes in behavior. (My goodness, too many contacts on line with those who write British English is affecting my spelling. I keep adding a "u" to words like "behavior.") I never became my polar opposite, as you put it, but I did become more willing to leave my comfort zone occasionally to make my mate happy. He didn't always ask it, but I knew what was in his heart. It didn't work when he was trying to change me, but since he stopped doing that, I have wanted to make some changes myself. Funny how that works.
• United States
10 Nov 11
I think why my guy and work is because he doesn't ask or try to change me. In the beginning I kept saying But you won't like This about me , but he did! So I don't have to go out of my comfort zone.I still can't believe it.
@winterose (39931)
• Canada
12 Nov 11
no I have always been who I am but I believe in some cases yes you can be changed by love
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@jillhill (37354)
• United States
11 Nov 11
I did to an extent the last time I fell in love. I found inspiration....and finally persued my dreams. I felt like being more. But then he left.....and I still stayed writing and persuing my dreams. LIke theys say. People come into your life for a reason...a season....or a lifetime.
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@Mashnn (4503)
10 Nov 11
No and I have never been changed before. I try to remain as myself as much as I can.
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@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
10 Nov 11
No sweetie, i am still the same old bad tempered and witty person i always was. I honestly don't think love can rally change a person, even if some might feel that way.
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• Indonesia
10 Nov 11
I'm not changed by love.
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@Dominique25 (9476)
• United States
10 Nov 11
I feel for the most part I've been changed by love a little bit. Love hasn't changed me drastically or changed my deepest thoughts and feelings about myself or my life. The part of me that has changed has helped me to mature, as I've grown in my relationship. But I'm still the person I was when I was younger and still have the same outlook on life.
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@nice030481 (1108)
• Philippines
10 Nov 11
I dont know what can you say about what happened to me, when i was young, i have so many suitors (LOL). I am not that beautiful, but still, i experience it. on that time i have a boyfriend, but even i have him, i still entertaining other suitors. When i met my husband, (he is my third boyfriend)I stop looking for other man. I feel contented with him. I dont entertain any suitors anymore. maybe because i really feel love.
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10 Nov 11
no man.love never a person but makes that person more dependable and gives shape to his ideas.thats why it always said behind every successful person there is one girl(love)...............
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@tessa9 (1086)
• Philippines
10 Nov 11
I don't know if someone changed me completely but there was this guy who changed me for the better. I met this guy who I fell in love with, unfortunately he already have a girlfriend. I did not try to steal him from her though. They were so good together. He loved him and she seems to love him too. He is so good to her, very respectful, affectionate and just plain amazing. And this all happened during a summer when I visited a friend in Canada. My feelings towards the situation went from jealousy to hope. Like a hope that a guy like that actually exist and a love like that is not extinct.