"I have Changed! Believe Me!"

United States
November 9, 2011 8:44am CST
Have you ever said these words? How does a person convince another he/she has changed? Is it by words or deeds or Both? And if you were successful, how long did it take to convince them you had changed?
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11 responses
@Kish2328 (71)
• United States
9 Nov 11
As what an old cliche goes, "action speaks louder than words". As that being said, you will know when one person changed when you see it through his actions and being consistent about it. I believe that people change and so as feelings. Change comes from experience and realization. We must change not because we want to impress someone or we want something out of it - we must change for the sake of becoming a better human being.
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• United States
9 Nov 11
Funny I never had the feeling I Had to be a better human. But then again I was convinced at a very young age I was evil.I agree that the change Should come from within and one shouldn't change to impress Anyone.
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@katie0 (5212)
• Japan
9 Nov 11
I did change two or three things in me, I believe people can, mostly when we regret and learn by our mistakes.
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@Rosa26 (2620)
• United States
9 Nov 11
Well in my case I don't remember when I said that I have changed I yes remember saying that I will change but I never changed, is difficult for a person change certain things,even when we try.
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@inertia4 (27605)
• United States
10 Nov 11
Me change? Really? I say that is an impossibility. I am who I am. I have always been honest blunt. I see things for what they are and thats good enough for me. My life has changed, but I never have. I do not need to be convinced to change nor will I ever convince someone else to either.
• United States
10 Nov 11
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@inertia4 (27605)
• United States
10 Nov 11
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@inertia4 (27605)
• United States
11 Nov 11
Nice, now I know how to do it. Thanks for this little piece of information. Now I feel stupid. Hey Now!!!!
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@vexxus (708)
• Philippines
10 Nov 11
I think you don't have to tell everyone, if there's really a great changed that occur in your life and personality, the people around you and those you have not seen for a long time, they will notice your changes. If you plan to changed be it in a good way.
• United States
10 Nov 11
Great point. If you have really changed , people will notice.
@bubuth (1816)
• Philippines
10 Nov 11
It take a long time for me to convince my ex boyfriend that i have change..I need to prove to him that i've change not just in word but in action..I think it take a years before proved it to him.
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• United States
10 Nov 11
Best of luck. I hope it happens way sooner than later.
@ShyBear88 (17158)
• United States
14 Nov 11
I never had to prove I've changed but there are people that had to too me. I always told them to show me because actions are louder the words. You can say things and never mean it. It's also up to that person and if they feel they should prove that they have changed for some reason. Some changes never need explained or proven.
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@winterose (39921)
• Canada
12 Nov 11
anyone can say they have changed it is their behaviour that will truly show if they have changed or not
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@jillhill (37384)
• United States
11 Nov 11
I haven't...well maybe I have said that and don't remember. My ex husband used to say that everytime I left him just to get me to come back. It usually lasted a couple of days and then he was back to the same old person he was when I left.
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
10 Nov 11
Well...I don't know that I have ever said that but I have certainly heard it a few times..lol. I know I have changed a bunch over the years but I've never had to really prove it. I think if I were to prove it, it would be more by deeds than words. Both of them might sway a person to believe it sooner though.
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@thesids (22359)
• Bhubaneswar, India
10 Nov 11
Hi behen Convicing someone of the fact that I have "changed" takes a long long time and it is not that easy. I can say this from my experience. With most, the First Impression thing lasts longer and if you have been wrong with that Impression... chances are you rarely get a second chance... the world is quite harsh on this. Now, if you have changed, it is good. But making the others believe - you have to be on your toes and 100% extra-careful that you dont deviate.