The most important problem that face our relationship and its solutions

United States
November 9, 2011 3:33pm CST
One of the most reasons for problems in love is neglecting .. When the one's care is less than the other want or it might be not exist in some cases .. Then the other will feel that he is ignored by his beloved and his importance ti his beloved is little .. That he doesn't matter she is with him or not. Some reasons for neglecting are: 1.When the one who is neglecting is busy with many things which he thinks that it's more important for both of them .. For example their career and the plans that they will follow in the future. In this situation the beloved person should appreciate this without any need to say anything. 2.When the one who is neglecting did not use to separate a special care for the others .. which mean that he spends his life without taking care of anyone except himself .. And so he thinks that what he is doing of giving a some of care to his beloved is very enough. 3.When the neglected person made some mistakes that forced the reaction of the other is to neglect or don't handle with him when there is a problem and let the problem until the time ends it. How to treat this problem and get rid of it ? 1.When you feel neglected .. You should stop and talk to your self and watch your actions and how yo communicate with your beloved to make sure that you are not the reason for his neglecting .. And if you found anything wrong you did, you must edit it immediately and you would better to apologize. 2.Show neglect towards the beloved .. In order to show him how much you love and appreciating him .. For example you can do several simple things like giving him gifts, calling and asking about him permanently. 3.Letting notes beside him telling him how much you is your love. Although these things are very simple .. They make a great change in our relationships.
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@kaeirole (668)
• Philippines
10 Nov 11
i agree to that..but sometimes,if we only understand our partner more, and open communication is always practiced..there will a less feeling of being neglected..there will always be time that we will be busy..but we must always spend even a little time for our partner everyday..it is just a matter of time management..and don't measure your love and care for your partner..it sometimes lead ti discontentment because we always believe that we give more than our partner does..
• United States
10 Nov 11
yeah that's true .. thanks for your coment
• United States
10 Nov 11
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• Philippines
9 Nov 11
Wow, this is really something! I'am totally nailed by this! In my case I'am the one who neglects actually. My recent someone - we broke up - because I'm experience trouble with my family and now I need to focus on my career. So, I sort of like neglected her and she couldn't handle it so... its over. :D
• United States
10 Nov 11
mmmm .. if i were you i'd do the same :D
• Philippines
10 Nov 11
Oh darn it. Just reviewed a grammar typo from my comment. Anyway, I didn't have a choice. But sometimes I hope our loves will understand somehow.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
10 Nov 11
I agree with you wholeheartedly. The points you bring out are really good. It's amazing to me how simple such things are but if we take them for granted our relationship can be very bad. Both partners can in the end feel neglected and want out of the relationship. Thanks so much for reminding us of these important points. It helps to reflect on these things.