i dont care if you have a problem of who i am

Philippines
November 9, 2011 6:03pm CST
i dont drink, i dont gamble, i dont go to bars and i dont go flirt with ladies for i am mrried already. being this kind of person makes other people talk about me... seriously? why? its funny that other people see this and talk about me being gay. just because i dont do this things that is waste of my time then i am gay? one of our friend came home from abroad and she was with her fiancee. we had a dinner and she introduce her fiancee to us. after that night my wife said that friend's husband said if a guy does not go to bars and does not drink he is gay. oh common! so being a real man needs to be like that? my dad drinks and all he gets with that was a fight with my mother and broken dishes plus now he is suffering from ailments that drinking brought into his system.
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
10 Nov 11
I think that's crazy too. What a person does or does not do as far as going out or staying in or drinking or not drinking shouldn't cause people to make silly assumptions like that. I think you are making a great choice for your wife and child as far as your extra time goes. These people that talk about you must not be as happy and well settled as you.
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• Philippines
3 Dec 11
we only met once and he has the right to criticize my personality? wow! if he thinks i am gay then i think he is an idiot. i pity my wife's friend that she will end up with that kind of guy. i can imagine what will happen but i still hope i am wrong. i guess once a guy is married you know if they are matured enough is when they start to think of the better for his family than what he thinks is good for himself. thanks a lot for the response.
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• Philippines
10 Nov 11
That is so childish for an old person to say that. You are a married man with a boy and he have the guts to say that? Well, F*** him! Judgmental freaks doesn't see the bright side of having a family. And for the record I think you are a very responsible man! And yes, not flirting is something that deserves an applause! Being a real man isn't parted by the things you do and even the way you live your life, its being responsible and sensitive about how others need you as a human being gifted with strength! Tell them, right now, in your state of life, that being a man is about lending your strength to others, and that strength isn't needed in bars and FLIRTING! It's needed in your home because you have a family. Seriously, I pity them. I pity how narrow minded they are.
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• Philippines
3 Dec 11
it sickens me to see a married person... woman or men... flirt. i mean whats wrong with them. if you want to flirt then why not stay single. singles can do that all day and all night. but when you are already married then there is already a line on what you can and cant do. i guess being matured is being responsible. i too pity them and i pity women who will end up marrying this kinds of men. thanks a lot for the response.
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• United States
10 Nov 11
That's just crazy and childish. I have found that when people talk about other people and say stuff like that, they are trying to make up for something with them. Kind of like when I man/woman is cheating on their mate, they seem to accuse the mate of cheating as well. My husband and I don't go to bars or really even go out anywhere. We have children to care about and they take precendents over going out. Just because a man goes to a bar doens't make him more of a man. You sound like you have you head on more straight than these other people do.
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• Philippines
14 Nov 11
that is also my observation, that he is finding someone who is like him. so that if they get married and he still goes to bars and flirt and drink even without his wife then the wife complains he can say the old reason it is natural for your friends husband does it too. but unfortunately he ends up with me. a person who does not drink, a person who rather go home and play PS or watch DVD and to be with my family than hang out. thanks a lot for the response and congrats for reaching 100. you are on 109 as i am typing my comment.
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@toniganzon (44779)
• Philippines
10 Nov 11
My two brothers don't drink, they don't go to bars and definitely they don't gamble. That's the way we were raised. Not to waste money on useless things and temporary happiness. My brothers are not gay and to be honest they had a lot of relationships before settling down. I think that person who said that is the one who's gay and just hiding behind drinking and bar hopping.
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• Philippines
12 Nov 11
thanks for the response toni and i agree that it is only waste of money and temporary happiness. i would rather go to 711 with my son and wife and watch my son eats ice cream. and me and my wife having a chat and eating some chips or whatever we want. i have nothing against drinking and going to bar, it is their choice but it is not nice that the standards of guy who does not go to bar are gay. remember that there are a lot of gay people who hangs at bars too.
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@iuliuxd (4453)
• Romania
10 Nov 11
I think you need at least one bad habit to become a real man.Come on think at something gross and crazy to impress your friends I think it`s nothing wrong with you .
@JER616 (551)
• Philippines
3 Dec 11
I salute for being that way, se7enthbird. Your conviction is practical and wise. Such a man is worth emulating and not to be branded as gay. To top it all, you are the one who should be called a real man because you stand by what you believe in. I just hope that you also don't smoke.
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• Philippines
6 Dec 11
welcome to mylot jer, yes i dont smoke too. that is waste of money plus you dont just hurt your body you also hurt other and the environment. my principles and his principles are not the same and since his principles are silly he calls me gay. i have nothing against gay, i have a lot of friends who are gay and they are more responsible than him. thanks a lot for the response
@JER616 (551)
• Philippines
7 Dec 11
That's good to hear. May I invite you then to a group of people who share the same conviction as yours: http://www.angdatingdaan.org/en/
@youless (87603)
• Guangzhou, China
11 Nov 11
You are a very nice man. I think you should still be yourself and ignore those stupid people. It is nothing wrong not to drink, smoke and flirt with other women. This is a responsible married man. The men who have those bad habits are very annoying. I love China
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• Philippines
6 Dec 11
yes there is nothing wrong if a person does not drink, it is my choice not to. specially smoking, it does not just hurt your body, it hurts other people's body and it hurts the environment. ive seen a lot of people who drinks and get drunk and ends up in a fight or in the hospital. so they waste their money and their time plus they got hurt. i have nothing against drinking as well but atleast be responsible enough. thanks a lot for the response.
@Hatley (163931)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Nov 11
hi se7enthbird it makes your wife a very lucky woman to h ave' a great husband who has better things to do with his life and his family than hang around bars for hours doing nothine but getting stupid drunk and blabbing too much and probablyu oggling other women even though he might be married. No you just a good,kind,loving husband who has his head on straight.My husband was pretty much the same except for a few visits to the bar, but he did not drink, he just 'talked but a few times of that in our first year of marriage I talked him into staying away from those places he decided he wanted to be with me more than the drunks at the bar.
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• Philippines
6 Dec 11
i have nothing against people who goes to bar. some people does that to release stress, to unwind with friends, or to celebrate something. some people goes there too to drink and forget har har har... but i hope those who are married they wont forget that they are married. i wish everybody who celebrates their celebrates with their love ones. thanks a lot for the response.
• Philippines
10 Nov 11
It takes a real man to not be swayed by peer pressure and stay true to his principles. You are indeed a real man. Your wife is lucky to have you. Those who go drinking and flirting with women aren't real men. They find those things necessary because without those, they are reduced to nothing. But to say that these activities define a real man is simply absurd.
• Philippines
3 Dec 11
i grew up having a father who his frequently drunk and my father and mother fights all the time and i can hear my mother bring out womens name. i dont like to be that kind of person. i dont like to have that kind of home. i dont like my son to grow up seeing that kind of fight. i dont like him to hear it too. life is about choices. we all have the right to choose. to be this person that i am today or to be like my father. there is no harm being me... if this stupid person thinks im a gay, well it only prooves that he is a pea brain. har har har thanks a lot for the response.
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@bagarad (8951)
• Paso Robles, California
10 Nov 11
I agree that you are a gem and that whereas you are acting like a responsible grown-up, the friend's fiancee was speaking like a child. If your friend wants to marry such a person, she is probably a foolish woman. Many times people with vices carry a certain amount of guilt and feel uncomfortable with people who are upright and don't share their vices, so they try anything they can to make them look bad. What such a man thinks shouldn't matter to you. Your wife knows the truth and she's the one who matters.
• Philippines
3 Dec 11
yes i pity my wife's friend. she is a very kind person and she will end up marrying this A hole person. she deserves someone who will be loyal and that will love her forever. people who are like this person only feels comfortable with people who are like them. now he sat down with people who puts their families first he was caught in a circle were he can not explain his self and would rather pin point others. i am not a perfect person of course me and my wife still have some misunderstandings and we still have our ups and downs, but flirting is not my cup of tea. i only flirt with her. thanks a lot for the response.
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