do you still talk with your ex bf or ex gf?

@annierose (17241)
Philippines
November 9, 2011 7:38pm CST
I was into few relationships. After broke ups, I do not have much the strength to talk with my past boyfriends. I think, it is because there is still the bitter feelings inside of me. I already had 3 boyfriends. I did not talk at all with my first boyfriend after our broke up. With the second one, I do had a talked with him before but not much. However, it is different with the third. I do still have a connection with him. In fact, he told me that even we broke up, I can still count on him whenever I have a problem. We do still talk but not as much as we were bf/gf. I think that the love is still with us, but for some reasons, we already accepted the fact that love is not enough for us to be together in the future. How about you? what is your story?
27 responses
@Jhovarie (1169)
• Philippines
10 Nov 11
Me no because im the one who broke them and i hate them to be my love one again and that the reason why i dont talk to them. but if my ex gf is my true love of course i will talk to her.
@annierose (17241)
• Philippines
11 Nov 11
how will you know if she is your true love?
@Jhovarie (1169)
• Philippines
11 Nov 11
of course i can feel it if she is my true love.
10 Nov 11
Well, I already been into 3 relationship, and all of it lat for only 6 months.I still have a communication with my first bf, we remain friends,as get thats what we really are even though the times were on. He's basketball player, and lot of girls sorrounded him, thats why I broke up with him. But the good thing about him is that he love kids. On the contrary to this, my 2nd and 3rd bf were both damn bad. I know they really cheated on me. And I will not allow myself to be link to them everagain. My first bf still courting me for the second time around, but, I feel like to be single, cause it makes me do all the things I wanted to without any worries that someone might get mad with it. I feel free to be single...!...
@jtj_hello (627)
• Philippines
10 Nov 11
That's nice to know that you keep friend with your ex. In my case, I also do talk to my ex still. I find it odd when two people who had shared an intimate relation ended up hating each other. It's just so depressing. The number of days or months or years that you had been together should be enough to atleast save the friendship. Cheers to the two of us because we are still okay with our exes. Who might know, we can actually end up with that person in the end.
@annierose (17241)
• Philippines
11 Nov 11
I am still hoping for that but for now, it seems very far from reality.
@Aja103654 (5663)
• Philippines
10 Nov 11
Most of my ex i don't talk to them anymore though my feelings of resentment towards them have already passed. I admit that i still feel bitter to my second boyfriend(this is bad)but it's no big deal to me now, because if we had not broken up i wouldn't have had a relationship with my bF now(we've been together for almost four years)
@annierose (17241)
• Philippines
11 Nov 11
They say that everything happens for a reason. We shouldn't be sad if someone bids good bye to us. INstead of being so unhappy with it, let us jus think of those good things that happened while that person is still with us.
@dream_ozn (1758)
• Singapore
10 Nov 11
I am currently with my first boyfriend and therefore I am unable to answer your question. However, you discussion interest me because it lead me to thinking whether i would be talking to my ex if i had one. For me, i think I wouldn't have the courage to talk to my ex. However, sometimes, i guess if we are already not into them, we should have no feeling when talking to them. Even if I meet them on the street, I should be able to go forward and say hi to them. I believe this is the only way to show that we have already gotton over our ex. Currently, I am in to a very rough period with my current boyfriend. We have been together for the past 5 years and therefore a break up is very difficult for us. I have thought about this question. If we were to break up, would we not see each other forever, or would we remain as friends. I felt that it would be really difficult to remain as friends, because as such, the relationship between us would be very complicated. You mentioned that your third ex told you that you can still count on him when you have a problem. How do you feel when he told you that? I do agree that you said love is not enough for you guys to be together. I have the same feeling with my current boyfriend. Seek you advise!
@annierose (17241)
• Philippines
11 Nov 11
I do think that if you are really meant for each other, no matter what happen, you will still be together in the end. Our situation is very difficult now. We are in a long distance relationship for 3.5 years.We have never seen each other in person but we realize that the love we have for each other is true. He has to set a very important priority in his life and that is not me. Sad to say it is not me. He had to make a big decision in which I have to accept because that is the right thing to do. And because of that, we both have to accept that we cannot be together in the future.
@vexxus (706)
• Philippines
10 Nov 11
you had a very sweet love story, you were lucky enough to become friends after a broken relationship, some fail lovers never had a chance to have a formal break up, and even the chance to talk and settle some previous issues. like I had before, we just broke up in text message after months of ill communications, and we never seen each others for years now, I guess she moved to another place. but I still hopes that she's doing fine though.
@annierose (17241)
• Philippines
11 Nov 11
It also happened to me. I think my first boyfriend is in the province now. We have no means of communication now since I had change from one mobile number to another after our broke up.
• United States
10 Nov 11
For me, it depends. Some of my exes have "black or white thinking," which meant that they were all or nothing when it came to relationships. Either they wanted to date you and converse with you all of the time, or they wanted nothing to do with you. I am still close friends with an ex of mine (we were better off as friends initially.) There are a few other exes that I am on decent terms with. Some I have nothing to do with whatsoever. I think it all depends on the nature of the relationship and the personalities of the individuals. Some people don't like to talk to their exes. I'm not that type of person.
@annierose (17241)
• Philippines
11 Nov 11
I think, the hard thing is that I can still talk with my ex. We can still talk with each other. What hurt is we know within ourselves that we cannot be together in the future.
@tessa9 (1086)
• Philippines
10 Nov 11
I only have one boyfriend. We are still together, we have been together for almost two years now. I went on a couple of dates but it never really blossomed. You can say that I am pretty picky lol. You should be right? ou will be giving most of your self to the person you will be with so better pick someone who deserves you. But I am ok with the few guys that I have dated.
@annierose (17241)
• Philippines
11 Nov 11
i hope you will be with the man that can make you happy for the rest of your life. After my broke up with my third boyfriend, I had some short relationships with other guys. It is just short since I feel I am still in love with my ex boyfriend.
@asliah (11149)
• Philippines
19 Aug 12
hi, there is no wrong when we still communicate to our ex lover but of course we need to put an edge or wall or limit for that,short conversation is good,sometimes i still wanted to talk with my ex but of course i will remember those things he did to me,so sometimes i avoid him.
@magic700 (100)
• Canada
17 Nov 11
Well, I still talk with my ex girlfriend, but we weren't ever really too serious. We labeled each other as boyfriend and girlfriend, but we never truly considered ourselves to really be dating. We were more or less just pretending to date to ease each others pains a bit. So she's not really even my ex, but at the time, she's the closest to an ex that I have, and I still talk to her almost daily. But honestly, even if I had actually been dating her in a more serious manner, I would probably still talk to her. I even talk to people who have previously tried to kill me. I don't really care what my past with a person holds, I'm so desperate to feel loved and accepted that I'll talk to anybody who's willing to talk to me.
• United States
11 Nov 11
I'm in a relationship, and whenever I'm in a relationship with someone, I make it a rule never to talk to exes. I would never want someone I'm with to converse with their exes unless their was an absolute legitimate reason to. If the relationship is over, and they're in a new one, I just feel like there's no reason for them to talk to exes. There is a reason why it ended. I understand some people stay friends, but I wouldn't ever trust that in a relationship.
• Philippines
11 Nov 11
Hi Annierose, I haven't talk to my ex after we broke up, i don't think also its a right thing to do, even he keeps on calling and texting me, i still did not want to make an open communication with him, especially now that he has a new one, its unappropriated not just for me but to the person to whom he with now and as the same goes with me. I am not also a kind of person that to be friends to my exes, if possible after we separate our ways we did not see or talk to each other anymore, if we meet by chance, i can be just civil to him. Maybe also because i'm still in pain, or the bitterness or I just let the past be in the past..
@djbtol (5501)
• United States
11 Nov 11
Before I was married, I did experience the pain of broken relationships. It is no fun and it is hard on a person. Of course, we might learn and grow through those experiences yet. As we continue to learn, we are more cautious about putting our heart out there too soon. Of course, someone has said, "it is better to have loved and lost, than to not have loved at all.' I would guess that is correct.
@jennyze (7048)
• Indonesia
11 Nov 11
I don't talk or seek my ex boyfriends, but whenever we met accidentally we would converse as though we were long lost friends. Nothing intimate, just the talk of general. I don't have any bad feelings towards them, as it was my choice in the first place to date them. I am a 'don't look back' kind of a person, so I would not waste times thinking: what if, what if. And once a relationship is over, there's no way for me to go back to it for whatever reason. I hope you find a new boyfiend that would love you just as you are...
@dodo19 (27090)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
11 Nov 11
I only have one ex-boyfriend, and I can't really say that we've really spoken much to each other since we've broken up. I don't think that we have much to say. At least, I don't really. I don't have a reason to really talk to him, especially since I'm the one who broke up with him.
• United States
11 Nov 11
Nope! Haven't talk to my old ex girlfriend in years! It was crazy because we were so close, but I don't really know what happened! It's like the spark went out or something and now I don't even keep contact with her. All i see is her Facebook posts and I hardly even check Facebook. It's sad to see our relationship to such an extensive end, but I guess it's for the best!
@tash01 (2032)
• Jamaica
10 Nov 11
my pass boy friend, is my son father. we only talk because we have a child together.I call him no won then,even though we have separate life. We still a have a good communication,when it comes to my son. but if i see him in person ,it's just hi an bye.even though he tell me that he still love me.which that is the only part i don't believe.
@Rosa26 (2620)
• United States
10 Nov 11
No I don't talk with none of them, well only with one use to go and visit me always for Christmas he jusyt go say hello talk for a few with me and leave,and I feel good it means that we don't hate each other, I don't hate the others but there are people that is better have them away of our live because they are negative.
@WakeUpKitty (8711)
• Netherlands
10 Nov 11
With one I don't, he stalked me over 14 years and I had to move every year to an other part of the country. With the other I don't really do either. After he broke up with the other gf he became obsessed by me. So every word I speak to him no matter if it's friendly or angry he sees as a sign of my love for him. He is making up his own stories about how our life together was so I try to have as less contact as possible. He is dangerous if someone is waking him up from that dream esp. if he has been drinking as well. We have kids together, had contact because of them but he is not really interested in them and they know (he never accepted them by law as his kids either). He admitted that he only wants to see the kids so he can see and be with me. Our relationship is already over since 6 years and since he can't accept it since he is dumped by all his friends the only thing I can do is ignore him. I am too tired to start moving out each year again.
@cearn25 (3460)
• Philippines
10 Nov 11
In my case I don't talk with my exes. The reason is not that I have bad relationships with them but I just made a promise to myself not dealing with past relationships. And also I don't want to have any problem arise with my boyfriend now. Advantage to me I don't see them in our town or some places. I just don't know where they are right now. That's it.