update on the Baby Shower mess

By Joni
@joni1215 (394)
United States
November 14, 2011 1:39pm CST
So, I told my sister in law I could not come to her daughters baby shower. She was really mad. For those who did not see the other convo. She never talks to me until it's close to the holiday. This is her daughters 3rd baby. And on her gift list she had only the expensive things.So, I just didn't want to go. I never see the kids. So, anyway, she came back at me with a whole lot of guilt and so forth. Claimed it was all about Amanda and it was her day and all of that. The more she went on the worse it got. Telling me how this was gonna hurt her feelings and I get that but I am just tired of it all.
3 responses
@moondancer (7434)
• United States
15 Nov 11
I would have told her that "IF SHE" has put something affordable on the list of needed and wanted items and had not thrown the invitation AT me then I probably would have bought something and would have felt welcome to go! Then I would have turned on my heels leaving her there with her mouth hanging open not knowing what to say. If she would have collected her thoughts to say anything then I would have told her.... my husband, her son said that I should not go because of the way she was behaving toward me and the list of "required" gifts and his thoughts just reflected the hurt that you made me feel! Again I would have left it at that leaving her with her thoughts. She should not be the only one that can make someone have hurt feeling or feel awkward.
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@joni1215 (394)
• United States
15 Nov 11
I did not see her in person. This all took place via text when I told her I could not come. She did not care about how anyone felt, only that her daughter was getting hurt feelings. I get that. But, gee people often don't go to parties. I am thinking gee is she 2?I am the last one to hurt anyone's feelings but I am also on a drive to stop letting people walk all over me. Been going on way too long.
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
15 Nov 11
I think you are doing the right thing by not going. I'm sure that this child does need things being a boy and all where the others were girls. Still, I think the lists asking for large items are tacky. Gifts are gifts. Furthermore, many people these days simply do not have that kind of money. Like someone else here said, there should be no shame in showing up just to congratulate the new mom even if a gift can't be given. I would write your neice a letter and congratulate her on her new addition and explain your reasons for not going.
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@bubuth (1816)
• Philippines
12 Feb 12
I think she act that she is the most important person in the world. Just try to ignore her and don't try to talk to her if she's not talking to you. She is not center of this world so she don't have the right to do that to you. You have your choose so she must not force you to do what she want you to do. Just never mind her. I hate the people like her.